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I finished reading it in one go, and the emotions are so delicate. In the past, when I read the protagonist's emotional line, I actually cared a lot about why they fell in love with each other. Most of what I saw was more about the love after getting together. I felt that the "why I love you" in the early stage was ignored. Just like the knight novel in the novel, the two parties fell in love at first sight in an oppressive environment (actually, this statement is not very rigorous), and The emotional entanglement between An Luo and Mei in the early stage, my God, really made me understand it, and I really like the psychological description of An Luo and Mei from two perspectives. There is a particularly stable feeling. They will never let each other down. Playing straight is the best, and sincerity is always the last resort. 🤗 Actually, there is a lot more to say, but I don't have time. I'll see you in the comments!

Yami, the author's writing is as delicious as ever 😋 I really like the author's writing style. What surprised me most was that many of the author's thoughts coincided with mine, especially the parts about intimacy, security, and love. Everyone is longing for a kind of "safe love", and An Luo's attitude towards the phantom in his eyes reflects this psychology. He longs for the phantom's company, but is afraid of being hurt. This is very similar to the expectations of many young people today for intimate relationships. They want to get closer, but dare not fully invest. They always oscillate between temptation and withdrawal. They hope that someone can fully accept them, but they are worried that they will be covered with scars after they surrender their sincerity. This kind of contradiction has almost become the emotional norm of our generation. We say we want to fall in love, but in reality it is difficult to take that step. It seems that we feel more at ease hiding in a certain self-protective distance. When I watched it, I thought of the attitude of contemporary young people towards cotton dolls, puppies, kittens, etc. Young people can devote a lot of love and companionship to them. Many people say that they are willing to do anything for kittens and puppies. They say that for kittens and puppies, they are not afraid of any hardship or fatigue (I am not criticizing, just discussing. I also like kittens and puppies myself). However, if you put the same investment in another person, it is easy to be said to be a love brain. Controlling the variables, I found that this reflects a pursuit of safety and a pursuit of not being hurt. We use these safe emotional carriers to indirectly express our need for intimacy. These objects will not betray us, leave suddenly, or hurt us with complex emotions. They give us a stable and predictable response. This is actually a very smart psychological compensation. We use them to practice how to give love and how to run a relationship without having to bear the uncertain risks in interpersonal communication. This also shows from the side that we have not really lost the ability to love, but we are just too afraid of being hurt, so we have diverted this ability to safer exits. When the author wrote this part later, he happened to have a similar description, which just matched my brainwaves XD. When I was in high school, I imagined intimacy as a flame, something that felt warm when you were close but burned easily if you got too close. And once you get through that burning feeling, you will enter into a sense of complete security (when you first figured it out, you felt like a genius). So maybe the real sense of security does not come from an absolutely safe object, but from the courage to endure the burning feeling after getting close and learn how to love someone in the process. An Luo's entanglement and Xiaomei's pain may be due to this burning feeling. However, this can only show that the young lovers are very brave babies. It is really difficult for most ordinary people (including myself) to endure this burning sensation. Therefore, in the early stage, Annuo repeatedly emphasized to himself that Xiaomei was not trustworthy. It is really understandable. That kind of repetition is not only a distrust of others, but also a protection mechanism for oneself. It seems that reminding yourself "impossible" and "unsafe" a few times will reduce the pain when you are really injured. But love is something that you still want to try even though you know it might hurt. The way An Luo warned himself but couldn't help but miss the protagonist was too real. Sometimes I wonder why our generation is so obsessed with "safety." Maybe it's because there are too many uncontrollable things in life, such as work, the future, interpersonal relationships, and even the international situation (). Everything is full of variables, so emotions especially want a certain place. But a completely safe relationship may not exist at all. Just like what the author wrote, An Luo's attitude when facing the phantom is actually a microcosm of the hearts of many of us - longing to be loved, but afraid that the love is not true, or that the love will disappear. As this psychological state spreads, it becomes the reason why many people would rather keep cats and dogs, or be addicted to paper figures and cotton dolls, than easily enter into a real relationship. It's not that I don't want to, it's that I don't dare. This article really gave me some thoughts, and the description of the patriarchal family structure is also very interesting. I personally feel that it will be a bit sensitive when it comes to this kind of thing, but when it comes to reading novels, I don't go into too much detail. In short, although this book occasionally has a bit of a motherly flavor () and there are some minor problems, but it is completely out of the way. It not only tells a story, but also raises a lot of questions that I have been thinking about but haven't sorted out yet^^ All the above opinions are personal understanding (in the process of stacking armor)

The author and the protagonist are in true love!!!❤️[Purple Sugar]kswl

The author and the protagonist are in true love!!!❤️[Purple Sugar]kswl

Suddenly I saw that the cover was changed. Why? The original one is so cute. It has special features and attracts people. The original one is super cute.

Woo woo hoo, I've finished watching it all 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭

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Very good story, good luck to the author [cat head]

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