How Well Done?

I read this book in three stages: afternoon + evening + morning. To be honest, in more than ten years of reading, I have read very few modern books. One is that the background of the novel is too close to reality, which is not pleasing to readers who love to fantasize about another spiritual world in novels. The second reason is that because the present story is too close to reality, its content and plot are more limited. It must conform to the logic of reality and write the script of a novel. This is the only realistic novel that I have read in recent years. I felt a lot of emotions, maybe because I am still confused in the stage of real life. Ye Mu is a completely different person from me - he comes from a wealthy family, has a free and rational personality, and is decisive and action-oriented. The only thing that may be the same is that we all like to read various novels that are floating around on the Internet. I envy her. There was too much violence and quarrels in my family of origin, and even now, as an adult, I have not escaped from the shadow of my family. Because I want to protect my mother and sister, I seem to have played the role of savior and antagonist again and again as a child, as a teenager, and as an adult. It can be said that all people with harmonious families are the envy of me. But at the same time, I also very much agree with the unity of opposites between the original family and acquired cognition written in the article. I hope and am certain that one day, I will break away from the cognitive structure and scars of my family of origin as I continue to grow, fall, and strengthen myself. The end of my first relationship was very similar to Ye Mu's. When I was still brilliant in junior high school, there was a repeater who was one year older than me. We got along very well and he also showed that he was more mature than his peers. Two weeks before the high school entrance examination, we fell in love because I felt that this kind of review life was boring and wanted to try a different experience. During this period, we achieved the so-called love through chatting and getting intimate like junior high school students, as well as some intimate actions on campus. After the high school entrance examination, I broke up with him through sex, and he tried every means to try to get me back, and even thought about whether it was a novel-style plot of "my parents didn't agree, so I deliberately cut her off cruelly." It's strange. At that time, I felt very calm, as if I had never liked him, and I basically didn't reply to his messages. Looking back now, this is not good. It ends with cold violence and sudden talk to the other party. There is obviously a better way, right? Until now, we occasionally meet at gatherings of mutual friends, but basically we don't talk, and maybe we don't have particularly deep feelings or topics. In my second relationship, I was hurt. At the end of the first semester of my freshman year, during the tight exam week, I felt bored again and spent time with my classmates from the same class. I must have admired him very much at the time, because he had been to many countries and could share a lot of knowledge. For a boring, barely qualified small-town essayist, this was undoubtedly a mixture of admiration, envy, and inferiority complex. But he is not a suitable partner. He often makes some implicit verbal denials about my ignorance, lack of spiritual life, and not-so-beautiful face. There was a lot of unhappiness in the process of getting along with him, and the most painful thing was his denial of me, or perhaps my own denial of myself—ignorance, boredom, lack of knowledge and spirit, and only knowing how to read. At the same time, our values ​​​​are too different. After all, when talking about breaking up, he can say, "You don't even know who you are facing, how can you defeat the enemy?" "I hope that after we break up, we will still be friends instead of enemies." He seems to treat our relationship as the same as a relationship under natural law. To be honest, I still can't forgive him until now, not only because I was essentially denied by my first love when I was in the purest love, but also because his denial of me caused me to deny myself in those years. It's only now that I realize that I was really affected by it during those years in college. Later, when I went to graduate school, I talked with a friend and found out that he was indeed a person of low moral character, and he felt somewhat happy and ashamed. The third paragraph is what I talked about in my second year of graduate school. It is the paragraph in which I have invested the most and reflected the most on myself and intimate relationships. What's terrible is that within a few days of falling in love, I found out that he and I had hidden his ex-girlfriend. It can be said that his connection was seamless. Sadly, I continued to talk to him with unwillingness, hatred and reluctance, and with the mentality of revenge and competition of "Let me see how bad you can get" and "Let me see if you can really change." So when I read the beginning of the story between Xiao Mu and Artist Lu, I felt it was so familiar. One was challenging and the other was hiding something from the beginning. We have been dating for about more than a year, during which we kept quarreling about his ex-girlfriend, and because he and I had different social habits and lives. I wanted to occupy all his time, and he argued with me over various matters such as graduation, work, playing basketball, and making friends. There were too many quarrels, too many reconciliations, too many happy times, and too many experiences that were different from my original life. Until he found a job in Hangzhou, I thought we should be able to continue on. After all, he came to Hangzhou for me. It was during the winter vacation when he graduated from his third year of graduate school and I was at home during my second year of graduate school, we broke up. It would be decent to say that we broke up, but in the end it was a video call or a voice call in which I went crazy and he was calm. We no longer had any contact, and we broke up by default by cold violence. I may have had a premonition that we would reach this point. In this relationship, I was more like the young man Xiao Mu talked about. I controlled his life, habits, and behaviors in various ways to ask for his companionship. At the same time, I was like Xiao Mu when I was in love with Shen. I worried about gains and losses and tortured myself, but I didn't have the courage to cut everything off. Therefore, when the affection was exhausted and a new stage of life arrived, he chose not to reconcile, and I mustered up the courage not to be nostalgic. Perhaps this was the best ending for us at the time. The fourth paragraph is with my brother. I was very bad in this paragraph. I started talking to my brother not long after the previous paragraph. My younger brother is a senior in high school, and I sometimes despise myself. Soon, the relationship ended. The beginning of both parties was not pure. Even if there was sincerity in the process, due to different stages of life and different concepts of values ​​and money, breaking up is a certain outcome. It was a very dirty relationship. I felt insulted by his frivolous efforts, and he felt hurt by my indifference and cold violence. After the above relationships, my outlook on love has also matured. I think the half I am looking for must be like-minded, financially independent, understanding and tolerant of each other. As for c or not, I may still care, but not that much. After experiencing two setbacks in my ideal job, I felt a little more cheered up after reading this novel. I know that it is difficult for me to be a particularly decisive person (perhaps because of the lack of gold in the five elements), so I especially appreciate and can be easily infected and encouraged by people with strong decisiveness. The lost self-confidence is always revived intermittently. Thank you to the author for such a good article. The library is open and I am going to write my thesis!

I have been reading here for many years, and I only recently got to know the author. I have read several books in a row. I envy Xiaomo's free and easy way to deal with breakups, but my view on marriage may be different. If I don't meet the right one, I will choose to be alone, but if I do, I will want a result. All five men have heart-warming moments. For me, ideally, Yan and Yan will handle the relationship like the author. Lin may try to get back together if they don't talk again after breaking up. Lu is suitable for being together when he is young, fearless and passionate. The ending with Xiao is the same as the author. As for me now, I like the way I get along with Shen the most, but his career is indeed worrying. Haha, let me express my opinion. I read three books in a row, and after each one I felt unfinished and disappointed. I felt that the author liked unfinished works to be continued. I have always liked clear happy endings, but it is difficult not to be attracted by the author's words.

I don't know why, the character creation is pretty good, and the lines are pretty good, but I think this book is really like a textbook. What impressed me was not the emotional scenes, but the viewpoints in it. I don't know if this is considered a success or not. I felt like I was listening to an emotional lecture, but my original intention was to watch the emotional scenes.

Wow this ending. For Xiao Gu, smelling a hidden cigarette is already the most blatant act of irrational selfishness. Emotions emerged from the cracks in the soul for a moment, and then quickly switched back to real life. Reminds me of the convenience store rice ball scene. It's as startling as smelling cigarettes. It's so wonderful. The profound and subtle emotions under the conflict of class values

It looks good, like face-to-face chatting or teaching, but it is not forced and feels very comfortable. While communicating with the author while reading the article, I also experienced the natural growth of a little girl.

Currently in a rather confusing stage Sansan's attitude towards life really inspired me a lot In fact, at first I thought this book was a love game type. Have a fun-loving mentality () Still looking forward to Xiaomu evolving into a high-end player who is comfortable playing with men hahahaha Later on, I tend to think about the content of the article. I feel that many concepts are based on analogies. Views on one thing when exposed to another completely different situation will trigger a newer perspective on the problem. The world is really intertwined. After reading this book, I don't think much about falling in love with the five wronged boyfriends, but I want to fall in love with 33, hahahaha! ! !

I really felt a lot after reading the analysis about Shen Zhiyue. I have been abroad for almost ten years. Perhaps due to the environment and my own personality, I have been disconnected in interpersonal relationships. My parents divorced early, but they were always in contact because of my studies, but our views were very different and we always quarreled. Until recent years, I advised my mother not to contact her if we couldn't reach an agreement, and I myself ignored my father's wx. There is even no contact with relatives, just a greeting during New Years and holidays. Friends are scattered all over the world, and sometimes we don't even bother to repair our differences of opinion. In terms of love, I have never changed people, but I have delayed getting married. I used to feel naive. Falling in love was new enough to me, but marriage was something I had never even thought about. After being pushed by various parties, I also thought about it seriously. I didn't object but I didn't expect it either. Very go with the flow.

Well, how do I put it? Let me post a review after skipping chapters. Everyone has their own life. The book of birth seems to open the door to a different spiritual world or three dimensions for us. You can also write the article you want to write while I am reading the door. Now start reading from the beginning.

I almost thought Yan and Yu were together

I still have more to say ~ Thank you very much to the author for writing this article. The views on love and values ​​discussed in this article are very inspiring to me. Unfortunately, I am still in the freshman stage of Xiao Mu. I have only theory and no practice, and I am unwilling to take the step of exploring love. In my understanding, this is a very troublesome thing and brings more harm than love. But I think it would be a pity if I don't experience it. I hope that one day I can bravely take this step.