When I Truly Began to Love Myself

In fact, it has been a long time since I started reading this book. I only had a rough impression of the previous content. I suddenly felt inspired today (mainly because I finally found the book I forgot to read a few days ago). I finished reading it in one go. It was hearty and empty. Like a sister in the comment area said, the process is very realistic and the ending is very fairy tale. Of course, fairy tales do not only have endings. But let me talk about my feelings after reading it. Starting from the title of the book, I sincerely hope that myself and all women in this world can truly love themselves. It's love, not pretending to like it, it's accepting it calmly, not hating it in every possible way, it's truly knowing oneself, understanding oneself, and accepting oneself. You can choose to change, but don't choose to compromise with others, but change for yourself, and improve after realizing your shortcomings, rather than trying to re-sculpt yourself because of others' malicious comments on your appearance, body, and personality. It is true that I cannot completely ignore other people's opinions and still long for recognition. Whenever I see someone agreeing with my comments or liking my articles, I can't help but be happy. However, my ability to accept negative comments (mainly from my mother) and some interpersonal problems has improved a lot. It may be that the so-called dead pig is not afraid of boiling water, or it may be that I have finally grown up. She kept saying I was fat. I used to feel harsh and uncomfortable hearing this, but now it is much better, because I am really fat, visible to the naked eye, and I have truly accepted the fact that I am fat. Although she still said I was fat, she said I was fat from the time I was 120 to 110, but I lost weight and regained it soon after I lost some weight. Later, when I reached 130, she said that I could lose weight to 120. Now that I am 140+, she said that I could lose weight to 130. It can be seen that she is not satisfied with my current state, or it is a popular white, young and thin aesthetic that has been forced on me. She is harsh on myself and herself. I finally started exercising (this holiday) because I really feel that my body is different from before. My strength is not as good as before, and my physical fitness is not as good as before. Even the muscles I am proud of are not as hard as before. In order to be healthier, I finally started. (Ahem, I'm going too far. In short, we should prioritize our own personal will, resolutely defend our rights and interests, be firm in our own ideas, use emotional choices, and then use rational thinking to make the final decision, and not be influenced by other people.) There were many times when reality came to light during the process, such as the issue of sexual harassment when making dirty jokes. Regarding the problem of being joked about, Sister Shanshan showed Xiao Yu's solution, which is "I neither pretend not to understand, nor do I blush and wait for others to save me, but I understand, but don't care, it doesn't matter, I am not interested in this kind of topic, this is my own business, I don't have to respond directly, but lead the topic to the topic." But for me, whether I am an adult or a young person, my acceptance of being joked has become higher, but I still feel physiologically disgusted by the issue of pornography. Adolescent males will attack the breasts, laugh endlessly at the female breasts, bet who loses and touch the girl's breasts, and make jokes about crape myrtle and renting a house (of course including but not only adolescent males). When we first met, I was very angry. At that time, I could clearly feel that several boys on the basketball court were looking at me with wrong eyes. I didn't know if they had bad intentions, but they were definitely not good looks. I was very stubborn and stubborn at the time, and I wanted to find out the truth. My friend started hiding it from me, but in the end I found out about the bet, and I got angry. I first went to the two monitors of the class at the time, and they came over angrily when they saw me (I had beaten up my classmates a lot before, although this time My behavior was wrong, but at least I made sure that no one dared to bully me (everyone in the class was scared by me), and he knelt down and apologized to me. I didn't react, I was just angry... After many years, I still haven't made much progress, and I can't control my anger at all. And almost no men will seriously apologize for this, or it doesn't matter whether they apologize or not. I haven't found a way to respond that can make me happy and upset those who speak pornographically. I haven't found it yet. If any sisters know, can you teach me? I have talked too much nonsense, and I have been talking about my feelings for a long time. I haven't said much about the content of the book, so I will add some more. Xiao Yu is a woman I admire very much. She has a clear understanding of herself and wants to improve her career, but she knows that Zhang Qi's path is not suitable for her. She is absolutely independent, changes from herself, blurs her "sexual" characteristics, and constantly expands her career territory. She also knows that she does not want to take the path of Fangyuan, taking advantage of her personal advantages and treating marriage as a career fuel. Xiao Yu is very tactful, but not that tactful. Her growth is step by step and she keeps working hard. She was promoted because of her personal qualities and was appreciated. She seized almost every opportunity for her to exercise, improve her abilities, and keep moving forward. From the beginning to the end, she grew up. From college to working for four years, she matured and no longer felt ashamed of herself. She finally let go and reconciled with herself. Although there were still some factors of inferiority affecting her, they were already very weak. She is getting better and better, and I hope all the women here will get better and better!

The process is very realistic, and the final outcome is a fairy tale

It has a fairy tale ending, but the process is very realistic. Thank you to the author for reading such a beautiful novel.

It's rare to see such a sober female protagonist. The entanglement of reason and sensibility is really charming. I also like this type of male protagonist.

It's just right here. The author's writing skills are so good.

My ability to understand is so poor. Can any expert explain to me what kind of feelings this Lu has towards the heroine? Is it because I liked him or was he just impulsive? I can sleep with my friends, then turn around and run away, and then propose again. I can't figure out the psychology of this character. Please clarify. I don't know if anyone else can tell me.

I really like the character Xiao Yu and hope she has a bright future

Sometimes I wonder if the male and female protagonists are already considered wealthy people with successful careers. Isn't it okay to give up the pursuit of money and just lie down and start enjoying life? After thinking about it for a while, I finally understood that what I had to give up was not just money, but my career, which was my answer to the hard work of the first twenty years of my life. You can obviously get higher scores in the exam, so why should you stop writing after passing the exam? If your family love is perfect but your career falls by the wayside, when you get older, you will definitely regret that you didn't try your best and reach the top when you look back on the first half of your life. It's the regret of choosing one possibility and giving up another. (Sure enough, it is really difficult for adults to "want and want both") (It is better to brainwash yourself and be content)

A very enviable heroine, she is very independent in thought and has her own clear goals instead of living in confusion [Love Eyes] She is determined to make some choices instead of being hesitant for a long time [Cat's Claw]

The ending is neat and tidy. It is exactly as written in the book. Emotional matters do not need to be explained clearly to others. It does not describe the feelings of others at all.