Men Are All Children

Before reading this book, I actually rarely read this type of book. In my opinion, I have too little experience to read this type of book. I also feel that this type of book is somewhat boring, and I am afraid that I will not be able to read it. By coincidence, I found out that He Dahui had released a new book from Huiqidian. I read the title and the introduction, huh? Men are all children, can they truly mature after they are over 40? It looked interesting, so I clicked on it. I read five or six chapters at first, but I read a little too quickly. I didn't understand much, so I stopped reading. Later, people in the group said that He Da's book became more and more interesting as I read it. I thought maybe I was too impetuous, and I had to take a good look at it. In this way, I read this book word for word, and was slowly attracted. While reading, I took notes and prepared to write a book review. This time I read the first six chapters for half an hour, and I really got into it. After seeing the latest updated chapter, I started writing this long review. A thousand readers will have a thousand Hamlets. The following only represents my own feelings. Fang Shanmu's marital differences with his wife triggered a series of domino effects. After being suspended from work, he followed the advice of his friend Gu Hao and went to a "paradise" to recuperate, but ended up getting lost in the barren mountains. After three days and three nights of survival in the wilderness, he found a car leaving here. He thought he was lucky enough to survive, but unexpectedly, fate played a series of tricks on him. The wife asked for a divorce, but his friends did not call the police to save him for his disappearance. The company thought he was absconding and called the police. When he went to the police station, he was misunderstood as a car thief. A normal person would collapse when encountering this series of unlucky things, but Fang Shanmu did not. Looking at Fang Shanmu's series of misfortunes in the early stage, I felt that this person was a bit miserable, but when I saw him starting to start a business later, I felt that this spirit of not admitting defeat and not being afraid of setbacks was really reflected in him. Many people of their time had this kind of energy in them. During the process of starting a business, Fang Shanmu met several friends of different ages, and each of these people has their own different personality traits, which are all very distinctive and impressive. Let's talk about the protagonist Fang Shanmu first. During the reading process, I wrote down a lot of labels for him. He is capable at work, macho, but a bit stupid. Seeing, assessing the situation, rational, but too soft-eared, straight man. As for Gu Hao, the person who deceived the protagonist from the beginning, I really hate this person at first. He is shrewd, cruel, snobbish and lustful. Seeing Gu Hao's sixty-eighth height, what comes to mind is that everything is concentrated (Pichi is very happy). Later, he also started a business with the protagonist, and he felt like, hey, this guy is quite nice, and he actually couldn't dislike him anymore. (I have to admire He Da here, I can't write such a character.) Cheng Pengpeng, a second-generation demolition who looks very lively and has his own personality. The word "" itself means vitality, vitality, bravery and aggressiveness. I quite like Cheng Pengpeng, the way she talks and her attitude. Hu Pan's character is very straightforward, but because of his age, he is inevitably a bit naive and does not see the problem comprehensively. His personality is occasionally a bit fiery and not as rational as Peng Peng. But the two of them, it can also be said that young people of this age, know what they want. The two wives in the book, Sheng Chen and Bian Jiang, also represent two different people. Sheng Chen has been a housewife since she gave birth to her child. She is out of touch with society, and her vision may no longer keep up with the development of society. But her husband Fang Shanmu was very good, so she began to feel insecure and distrustful of her husband, and we all know that trust is the foundation, which slowly led to the breakdown of the marriage. Bian Jiang, on the other hand, is a womanist. She wants to control everything about Gu Hao. Being controlled like this all the time, a man would feel aggrieved. As for the marriage issue, I don't think it's the fault of any one of them, it's definitely the fault of both parties. Fang Shanmu and his wife each thought they were doing it for the family, but in fact they just had different perspectives and both believed they were not wrong. Marriage is actually a joint-stock partnership, and what is required is mutual trust between the partners. If the basis of trust is lost, one party will always doubt the other party, and there will be no way to continue operating. (A passage from the book) Xu Wenqu, who appears later in the book, is currently my favorite female character. She is rational, calm, and liberal. In my opinion, she has already seen through some things. He Da's writing style is naturally beyond praise. He Da's control of the plot is also very clever. The plot is full of ups and downs. Readers can't guess what will happen in the future and can only read it bit by bit. Well, I don't know what to say. The more I read this book, the more I like it. The book reflects many problems and many things are also portrayals of our real life. Let's see how Fang Shanmu continues. I can't guess it anyway.

I didn't want to post this at first, but this time it really disgusted me. The protagonist was written exactly like a mentally retarded person, and he still has the experience of forty years old? I'm afraid he's not ten years old? I can't stand it anymore. Chapter 10 persuades me to quit. Bye bye.

I always read in silence without saying a word. When I saw the latest, I couldn't help but scribble down a few lines of text. The male and female protagonists in the book (so far) have an older background and age, but they didn't make a big impression on me. I'll just interpret them as young and middle-aged people. "There are two kinds of people worthy of admiration: women who accompany men through hard times when they are young; men who accompany women through good times when they are rich." Based on this, Fang Shanmu and Shengchen did not feel sorry for each other. The two of them shared their best years with each other. From this point of view, their love and life are worthy of recognition and envy. When I saw that the marriage of Fang and Sheng was about to end due to such reasons, this sentence came to mind, "People always have some inexplicable persistence when they are young, and they move themselves with it, but they often let the really important things slip away from their fingertips inadvertently." My personal opinion is that the two of them still love each other deeply in their hearts. After all, the original passionate love should have turned into a deep family affection after time has settled. Most of the time, family affection is taken for granted, and we never express special gratitude or touch for it. I have been working and entering the society for many years. I am 90+. I have been in love but have never been married. I don't understand the actual changes in the mentality and cognition of men and women in love and marriage. Some of the contents in the book combined with my own knowledge made me think a lot about marriage. I'm both a little yearning for this and a little scared at the same time. Thinking about a group of young people represented by my age group, why men and women break up and get together so frequently; why they long for a partner when they are single, but feel inadequate after having one; why cheating, cheating, and other behaviors are so common. In my personal opinion, what I pursue and pay for is not love at all. I say I love you, but in fact I love myself. I envy Fang Sheng's love life. Although the book currently shows the ending of divorce, based on the idea of ​​a better life and the mentality that I can't do it but hope someone can do it, I guess that the two of them may end up in the same place by different paths, right?       ，， Finally, I would like to thank the author for providing such a chewy book for me, which can make me think.

The prime years will never come again, and the morning will never come again. The name of Shengchen is written at the beginning and end of the poem. I think I also wrote her story. From acquaintance to falling in love is the most beautiful prime time in life. From misunderstanding and suspicion to sad separation, it was a sadness that I could not have imagined at the beginning. If life were just like the first time we met, why would the autumn wind be such a sad thing?

I was originally attracted to the book review section because I saw many people saying that the book was very realistic. After reading a few chapters, I realized that I didn't know if it was true or not, because I couldn't stand it at all, but I knew that the author really couldn't tell stories. Let's talk about the problems in the first few chapters. If the author really wants to write this book as realistic literature, then the focus should be on logic over story. In other words, you should make the behavior of every character in the book have an online IQ, at least to make most readers feel that they would probably do the same if they were in a different place. But the behavior of more than half of the characters in the first few chapters made me feel that their IQ was not online. The male protagonist was okay, the landlord, the male protagonist's colleagues, the car thief... I really can't figure out what kind of brain circuit can cause such a reaction. If this were a short article, I wouldn't say anything else, because the logic of the thing itself is not important, as long as the story is enjoyable enough. But for a novel like yours that focuses on reality, there is no logic, and the plot is not pleasant to read. As an author, what do you want us readers to read? Maybe the following content does have some highlights. After all, there are so many readers who say the writing is good, and I don't think they are all fools. But from this beginning, I estimate that 99% of readers will not be able to read the rest. To sum up, I guess the author probably hopes that while the plot focuses on reality, it also wants to be story-telling and interesting enough to be appreciated by both refined and popular people. I think this idea is completely correct, provided you can do it. The author seems to have overestimated his writing skills, so he lost the watermelon and failed to find the sesame seeds.

It's really poisonous. I really didn't realize that Pig's Foot is forty years old. Gu Hao in it almost cheated Pig's Foot and squeezed him out of the company. His wife destroyed Pig's Foot's family, but Pig's Foot can still be friends with him? I just want to ask the author whether he would be friends with such a person when this happened? ! ? Too toxic, farewell! ! !

I am 31 years old but I know I am still a child

The writing is good, the person is handsome, and the updates are timely!

It is very suitable for middle-aged book lovers. After reading a few chapters, I couldn't help but post a small post to support the author. The first few chapters explain a lot of helplessness when people reach middle age. People without certain life experiences will not understand this book. No one is perfect. The author perfectly portrays the protagonist and the protagonist's wife. Although the characters are not perfect, they are real people in real life, real people. This book is not suitable for book friends who want to read about life in a different way. Of course, if you are interested, I believe you will not be disappointed if you read this book. I support the author. He writes really well and writes about real life!

It's really good-looking. The author's writing is very close to life. I like to read novels like this. I have read a similar novel before, but the writing style was poor and the writing was not very realistic. In the end, I ended up with three wives and four concubines, but I was satisfied. Then I kept looking for this kind of novels, and found that I couldn't find them at all or very few. Nowadays, they are all novels about pretending to be pigs and eating tigers, and they are crazy. Of course, there are also some that are more or less prominent, maybe because this kind of novel is too niche or not very popular! After all, it's not a cool article. Hahaha actually said some nonsense. I still want to say support Lao He, come on💪💪💪💪

The excellence of this book is that readers can think spontaneously through quick reading and the shaping of characters in the book. This kind of thinking is not only thinking about the plot and characters in the book, but also projection into reality. Using the characters in the book as examples, they can compare and analyze with themselves, and then have an impact on themselves. Nowadays, many young people lack reading and thinking about books (not recreational books such as online novels).

This book is really beautiful. I love it. When will the paper book be released?

I've read a few chapters and I really can't stand it anymore. My three views don't match my own.

I can't stand it anymore. How can Pigfoot be the vice president if he is so stupid? This story is too ridiculous. I guess it is a plot that the author forcibly put together to cater to the tastes of young and middle-aged people...

They fell in love when they were students. At that time, they had the same cognitive level and shared a common language and imagination about the future. But after entering into marriage, Shengchen was pressed by her family to press the pause button, while Fang Mushan's world was accelerating. This is a very destructive structural change. When Fang brought new concepts from the outside world into his family, Shengchen had inaccurate responses and incomplete understanding due to limited sources of information. This is not a difference in intelligence, but a difference in the structure of information intake. This also gave rise to Fang's impatience and arrogance. He is not malicious, it is just the inertia in human nature that "when others no longer understand me, there is no need to explain" is at work. Over time, sharing turned into broadcasting, and communication turned into monologue. In Fang's eyes, Sheng also changed from "people who fight together" to "people who stay at home and work together." This is a huge point of disillusionment in modern marriage: from "let's go out into the world together" to "you take care of the house and I'll make the money", from "what you said makes sense" to "you don't understand, don't talk nonsense". The characters are no longer equal, and the psyches are no longer the fulcrum of each other. Marriage has thus slipped from a "synergistic relationship" to a "structural imbalance." Being neglected and wronged, Sheng Ye subconsciously formed a conditioned reflex to carry a gun and a stick, and spoke with thorns. So what was originally a communication failure turned into a "personality conflict." What Fang heard was "What's wrong with you?"; What Sheng shouted was "You never cared about me." They are all right, but they are all on their own islands and cannot swim across. In the long-term misunderstanding and subtle disparagement, Sheng gave a "hostile explanation" to all the other party's actions. Fang Wan came home because he was procrastinating at work; in Sheng's eyes, it was "you don't want to go back to this house at all." Fang's tone was flat, indicating that he was tired; Sheng's eyes said, "You find me annoying." Once the filter is put on, the original cognitive bias will be strengthened until the marital rift turns into a rift. The failure of this marriage is not the decline of feelings, but the termination of understanding. Sheng is the more aggrieved party. It's not that she is useless, but she has lost the environment in which she grew up; It's not that she doesn't understand, but she has lost the space to express; It's not that she can't accompany him in the war, but she is left alone in the city to guard an empty house. But Fang didn't realize all this - maybe in his eyes she had changed, but in fact, she was just left behind.

How many people in life can understand clearly? Live truly and vividly? Don't forget your original intention, it's rare to be confused~

The fact that so many readers are rejecting this book illustrates a problem. Among the popular novels nowadays, in addition to cool novels, they are also fairy tales with supernatural powers. This shows that the reading comprehension of most readers is at this level, just like a movie that is a hit at the box office may not necessarily win awards! Fang Shanmu's setting made everyone very unhappy, and the plot setting made readers feel unreasonable. This shows that most readers have no similar experience and may not necessarily understand it. It also reflects a problem from the side. Most readers' experience and social status are at a certain distance from the protagonist. There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people! To be honest, I have a strong sense of immersion! Of course, I can only be considered middle class. I live in a fourth-tier city with a monthly income of 20,000+. My wife is a doctor and I have a lovely child! The differences between my wife and I are very similar to the protagonist couple. My wife took care of the children at home for a period of time for the sake of the children. The conflicts between me and her gradually emerged. Although I almost gave up unnecessary entertainment, I still couldn't meet my wife's requirements! Let's talk about work, I have also encountered similar problems. In anger, I started to start a business, and the conflict between my wife and I became more intense, and her uneasiness became more intense. In the end, I sold the shares and found a new job. In the process, there was a gap with the protagonist, but if I dealt with it the way the protagonist did, I don't think I need to sell the shares. I recommended this book to my wife, and we benefited a lot from reading this book together! If I had read this book earlier, my previous responses would have been much clearer! This is my personal opinion. Because I saw so many people criticizing this book, I couldn't help but write something. It's just a story for everyone to read! Don't spray if you don't like it!

An old friend's new book, a chat about our inner feelings!

The author, I would like to suggest that you can think a little more bizarrely, which may lead to better results and be more creative!

In the face of survival, face is the most useless self-esteem✊✊✊

Give me a reward of 100 to show your appreciation, please work hard! ! !

Apart from the title of this book that attracts people, does it have any content that can retain people? The content of this book is like a large fraud syndicate surrounding the protagonist, a fool. The front foot Gu Hao had just deceived the protagonist, and he understood it after a phone call. When he returned to the company, he found that he had been deceived again, and he was stepped on to get the upper hand. After a cup of coffee, he accepted it in his heart. After being deceived for a long time, his IQ can no longer occupy the high ground, right?

"Editor, I want to write a book!" "Do you have money?" "No!" "Damn! How can you write a book if you don't have money!"

After reading Guanshen, I also turned a few pages of other entities. The author barely hinted at some real-life characters but made them explicit. There are still doubts about the characters. It was quite shocking at the time that he dared to write about them realistically. We lost contact later. This is predictable. Publicity outlets will not allow this type of literature to continue to develop. The official articles in online novels can really grasp the readers' mentality. Power, money, and women are all what readers want, and naturally they are what the author must write about. This kind of market-oriented text will greatly satisfy readers' fantasies and desires, and bring income to the author. At the same time, it will unknowingly become a spontaneous propaganda guide, influence public opinion, and then arouse people's suspicion. The outcome can be foreseen. Official novels, like other commercial novels, inevitably slip into vulgarity and kitsch. Women and power belong to the vulgarity of official documents. The vulgarity of novels may of course be based on the vulgarity of reality. But the reality is more than just vulgarity. If everyone thinks that reality is so dark and vulgar, wouldn't those heroes suffer unjust injustice? So. What if official literature really breaks away from vulgarity and kitsch, what if it begins to be real, ideal and critical? The fact is that even if it is truth, ideal and criticism, someone will clamp down on it. The more real, ideal and critical, the tighter the clamp. The new books seem to be undergoing a big transformation. Let's take a look at the bookshelf first.

It's too poisonous to chew, and the protagonist is almost 40 and still has sex with women everywhere. Is this the middle age in the author's eyes?

The 38-year-old protagonist deals with problems as if he were eighteen. It's so poisonous that I can't even see it. First, the boss fired the protagonist and asked him to compensate for the company's losses. He also gave the boss suggestions on this situation, and naively thought that the boss would adopt them. Second, Gu Hao calculated the position of the protagonist and almost cost the protagonist his life After finishing the meal and talking about some scenes, the protagonist believed that Gu Hao was affectionate and righteous. Third, the protagonist's wife was obtained by cunning a corner. Fourth, in the marriage, the protagonist allows Gu Hao's wife Jiangbian to instigate the relationship between the husband and wife, and only dares to complain about this and that in his heart. Really, blaming each other is better than silence. Fifth, my behavior when I was about to get divorced made me vomit blood. Generally speaking, the protagonist is a mentally retarded child, so don't insult children.

After reading six chapters, the protagonist has become the vice president and is still so stupid. Can't see people clearly. Sure enough, the recommendations for squid are all for worshiping heaven.

Some people think that campus love and social love are two completely different paths. That is because when people slowly enter society from campus, their roles and living conditions change. When everything is close to money, they often choose to escape and break up. And I just think that love will be sweeter after experiencing the beauty of campus and undergoing the test of society. Therefore, campus is the most solid foundation for stepping out of society, and social love will be the extension of campus love. 😁😁😁

The style is like the urban novels that were popular more than ten years ago, full of unreasonableness and illogic. According to Internet standards, it is extremely poisonous.

Congratulations to Teacher He for starting a new book, a new starting point, and a new journey.