A Toxic Relationship

How can this be torture? This is clearly torture of me. Thoughts after reading "Shoddy Relationship" This is the only novel that I have almost fully subscribed to recently (I haven't bought the extra yet, and my withdrawal is a bit severe). It's the first time I've written a long review, and it's also the first time I've made me wonder if I'm in control. This comment is not intended to attack anyone, and there are no excessive words. There may be some wrong perceptions. Please base your reading on your own feelings. I read the article rather hastily. Please forgive me if my analysis and understanding are not in place. It only represents my personal opinion. The origin of the story is probably due to a severe literary shortage. I went to In the early stage of this article, I did not read the content about the disease in the later stage. Based only on the introduction of the copy, I can probably understand and analyze why Jin changed after getting married. First, it is more or less affected by the plot. The novel world in the article ends after the two get married. No one can predict the future life, just like in the fairy tale "the princess and the prince live happily", but no one can guarantee whether the princess's appearance and the prince's love are true. In addition, the last sentence written by Zhou Zhou was "He is a bad person" (the general meaning, I can't remember clearly) and he believed that Zhou only loved him for the sake of the plot. This sentence made Jin panic even more, making him need to use extreme methods to prove Zhou's love again and again. Second, my illness has not been treated. I don't know much about depression and bipolar disorder, but I have a rough understanding of it through the narration in the article. I use a recently popular word to describe it: avoidant attachment personality. I have this defect myself. This personality is characterized by low self-worth and lack of trust. I long for love but avoid love, and I need to go through some hurt. To get what he needs by himself or by hurting others (Jin's behavior of not going home and being cold to Zhou, I think it hurts Zhou and aggravates Jin's condition), coupled with the influence of more severe bipolar disorder, Jin tries to reduce such friction by not having contact with Zhou or does things that hurt Zhou, but the result is of course self-defeating. As for why Zhou chose to get back together in the end, in fact Zhou also had his own process, from letting go and not thinking about everything about Jin, to not hating him later, ten years for ten years, to forgiveness, forgiving the source of it all, and finally getting back together. The reconciliation between two people never happened in a moment, nor did Zhou forgive everything and get back together after knowing what Jin had suffered. In my opinion, during this period, there were (positive) assists from senior sister, Mumu, Lu, and the doctor, Jin's changes, Ming's contrast, Zhou's own sensibility defeated logic, this extremely twisted emotional reunion was not that Zhou was bullying himself who had made the choice to divorce in the first place, and he would probably not regret it again. You will still choose to leave ten thousand times. Looking back is never to bully yourself at the time, only to regret. Looking back has many meanings, depending on whether you calmly face the past and face the future with a new mentality and a new look, or whether you return to the starting point and repeat the same mistakes without repentance. Both of them belong to the former. Jin alleviated his condition and deeply understood how to love someone correctly, how to love a house and a bird, and how to accept the world. Zhou found his direction in life, learned to be independent, no longer used his own logic to measure the pros and cons of things, and tried to accept imperfection. It was the two people who truly changed themselves that made Zhou willing to look back and give Jin a chance. This also includes Zhou's inability to accept mediocre feelings after experiencing such an unforgettable love. This is also the reason why he does not accept his senior brother's pursuit. Although love does not prioritize first-come, first-served, the order of appearance is indeed important. Zhou Zai After losing his parents and being helpless, he received Jin's only love that did not need to be shared with anyone when he was most vulnerable. Of course, he was also affected by paranoia and had very high expectations for this love, so after the gap, he began to doubt everything in the past. As for me, I started to doubt my level of control. I am still a little girl who likes pure love. When I saw Zhou Bei begging Jin to come back, I would also scold him. When I saw Jin He () creating misunderstandings, I, as the control, wanted Zhou to leave. If Zhou didn't love Jin so much and didn't care about this relationship and let go of it happily, I could completely accept the exchange or run away like a quick escape. After all, Zhou had suffered so many grievances in front of me and I would fight against injustice. But after all, I am not Zhou Yulin. I ignored Zhou Yulin's same love for Jin. Regarding the large-scale plot of chasing her husband and being tortured in the later period, and Jin's large number of self-abuse behaviors, I seem to have regarded the two of them as real people. I It started to hurt and started to feel sad. Obviously this kind of husband-chasing plot is my favorite to watch. It may be the difference between being loved and not being loved. If two people love each other, I still hope they will be well, so you must read the author's demining! Don't look at the extreme attack! Don't blame me all the time and blame me. I consider myself unlucky. After all, I have read the same type of novels. The characters in the book are still alive in my heart. Since I choose to read them, I have to respect them. The author's logical thinking is also very clear and thoughtful. Personally, I feel that there are no misunderstandings that have not been solved, pitfalls that have not been filled, or feelings that are not equal. You can read what you can accept after reading the mines~ Healthy love is certainly desirable, but abnormal love is really irritating. I wish you all a happy life!

Finished Spreading Flowers [Spreading Flowers], Crematorium is really the most bloody type of writing. Anyone who dares to write is a warrior. I think this article makes up for all my previous opinions and criticisms about the crematorium. If I continue writing, I can't imagine how I can break through the heights of this article (looking forward to it). I am very grateful to the author for such a good article. This work is so spiritually satisfying. I believe that when I read the same type of book in the future, I will think of this book. No matter what perspective I write, she is an excellent wife. I hope that I can continue to adhere to my creative ideas no matter what I write in the future and not be influenced by readers. When we meet again in the future, I hope that my wife will write better and better [Come on]

This year I have seen the most burning crematorium and the most pure love crazy love [Star Eyes] written so well! My heart feels warm after reading this

Quack, quack, quack! ! It's so well written. I thought it was an old crematorium at the beginning, but I found out it was very complicated in the second half. I really like the extra chapter (?▽?)

This is the best story about chasing a wife in a crematorium that I have ever read (I know Lin Lin is Gong, and Gong is his wife). I really like this book. Lin Lin and Brother Chen are locked in a lock.

I really think you are poisonous. After seeing your crematorium, I can no longer stand other crematoriums. So, my dear, are you still writing? Are you still writing about this type of crematorium? Gong Bao is sweetly chased by his wife (●—●)

After thinking about it for a while, I decided not to. What's both annoying and makes me finish chasing is that both attacking and receiving treasures are becoming more "mature" They are entangled and in love. I'm waiting for Gong Bao's understanding and companionship. But Meng Bao still insisted on completing "self-transformation" alone. Can psychological trauma and emotional disorder really be solved with cold instruments? Behavioral therapy is useful but also wrong. Self-knowledge of warmth and coldness may be such mutual salvation. Still projected into the third dimension. I guess it doesn't matter. It's not your fault that you're sick. Be brave enough to ask for help, you are not an island alone. Of course, others may not understand that you have the power to grow within yourself. Take your time.

After reading it, I felt a little sorry for Brother Chen in the main text. He really lost a lot. Although he was a he in the end, he will be more or less disappointed when he sees what he had before. Damn it, you deserve this too. The minister you adapted is also a good fate! All in all, I wish the babies in both storylines always happiness!

Soul mates are deeply reflected in Lin Lin and Brother Chen. Although I don't know if the author will read the comments of this chapter, I still want to tell you not to doubt yourself because of some people. I am actually a bit biased. This is really the most popular article I have read in the husband's crematorium in recent years. It is written very well and can convince us that they are the most suitable soul mates for us.

It's so beautifully written, so great, so great, so great, so good cheers to the author! ! !