This is the print edition of the non-VIP chapters of The Great Hall. It differs somewhat from the online version and is posted here under the print edition title, Family Status, for readers who enjoy The Great Hall to compare with the online version.
I forgot to rate it after posting a long review, so I logged in to my account and posted it again.
After watching "Family", I don't feel regretful about the ending like many people do, but I think it is the best ending. It should be said that Yu Ming's choice is wise, and Min Qiao is a girl with a clear heart and a clear heart, who has seen through everything from the beginning. Pearl (Min Qiao) is actually a girl with real wisdom. She knows that Chinese-style marriage must be about being well-matched. She is very smart, so I like her very much! Because like her, I also believe that marriage must be about being well-matched. How about Diana who married into the British royal family? Didn't her marriage to the prince end in tragedy?
Marriage requires a good match. This is the historical experience summarized by our ancient Chinese. It should be an unbreakable truth. The traditional marriage model of ancient Chinese people is that they are well-matched. Even from the perspective of modern people, this is an unavoidable fact. Whether it is its supporters or opponents, there is only a difference in understanding. In fact, they are not consciously abiding by this ancient law. The birth of love may not require a well-matched family, but the conclusion of a marriage does require a well-matched family. Generally speaking, we can see love stories about love at first sight, but we don't see the fact of marriage where the lovers finally get married, which is enough to prove the correctness of the matching principle of marriage. The most important reason here is that marriage has evolved into a cultural phenomenon. It is related to the Confucian culture's "emphasis on etiquette over love" on marriage. The so-called "the way of marriage is the etiquette of marriage." Only those marriages that truly comply with cultural etiquette can be recognized and accepted by society and families.
"The Book of Songs" says, "If you want a wife, you must tell your parents." From the surface, it seems that you need to tell your parents what kind of wife you want to find, to show respect for "the orders of your parents and the words of the matchmaker." In fact, this is not the case. It is not as simple as whether the parents agree or not, but it is up to the parents to ensure that they are "well-matched", which is also a marriage rule set by society and the family. "Being a good match" can almost be said to be a written or semi-written marriage rule in China since ancient times. It's just that with the development of society, there have been some changes in the standards of measurement. At first, "well-matched" may consider the general equivalence of money and status between the two families; later, it also involves political interests, economic interests, and being well-matched in a cultural sense. No matter what kind, it is necessary to pay attention to the equivalence of practical interests between men and women, so that marriage can be matched.
At first, Huangdi asked his son Changyi to marry Changbu, the daughter of the Shushan clan, and later gave birth to Zhuanxu, who inherited his career; Emperor Yao married his two daughters Ehuang and Nvying to Shun, and Shun naturally became Yao's successor. No matter which factor they considered was dominant at the time, it might be the illustrious status, which strengthened the marriage to consolidate the status, or the noble morality, which was used to inherit the throne, which reflected the early people's understanding of the importance of well-matched marriage. Although the concept of family status in primitive marriage is not as strong as that of later generations, it follows a basic rule, that is, love is secondary, etiquette cannot be ignored, and marriage is an exchange of interests. Therefore, by the Zhou Dynasty, the right to control the marriage of children had been fixed and included in the etiquette regulations.
In a highly hierarchical society, marriage is almost a transaction. This kind of marriage is obviously based on the consideration of clan and social stability, and has considerable political interests. Many political marriages in history originated from the balance of power formed through mutual marriage between ancient primitive tribes and their neighbors. For example, the Qin and Jin Dynasties have been married for generations, and the kings are brothers-in-law of each other; the palace maids and princesses of the Han Dynasty have made marriages with the Hu people; and the three-generation marriage between Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty and Changsun Wuji, in addition to the purpose of attracting each other, it also has the purpose of maintaining the stability of the dynasty.
Among the emperors, nobles and bureaucrats in the upper class of society, their marriages focused on the form of portals, and status matching had an obvious transactional nature. This was a kind of political marriage that was well-matched. The Han Dynasty adopted a "marriage" policy to marry the Xiongnu to pacify the border. The Qing Dynasty's royal family had been marrying the Mongols for generations, and many princesses were married to Mongolian princes and nobles. As for the lower class society, especially after the Tang and Song Dynasties, more emphasis was placed on marriage and wealth, and family status in marriage seemed to be frivolous, and being well-matched was more reflected in real money and materials. When choosing a spouse, both men and women mostly consider the amount of family property. "Every marriage is about money. If there is more competition and less competition, it is not strange for Tian." This leads to the emphasis on betrothal gifts in the process of concluding a marriage. The heavier the betrothal gifts, the higher the woman's worth. On the contrary, if a woman gets married and the dowry is not generous, she will be looked down upon by her husband's family and even be abused.
It can be said that a well-matched marriage is related to the stability and continuation of society, family and race. It is difficult to imagine how many tragic loves that mismatched marriages can create. Those pseudo-moralists and pseudo-Confucianists who like to sing high-pitched words always talk about the supremacy of benevolence, justice, morality and love, but would rather ignore the happiness of marriage. The cornerstone of marriage is a good match, and the building of love is by no means a castle in the air. It is true that there is no distinction between high and low in the family itself, but it cannot avoid the law of inertia brought about by the social class and cultural literacy of the individual in the marriage. This is the most essential thing in a family marriage, the difference in culture and customs, and the similarities and differences in concepts, upbringing, and personal habits determine whether the marriage is stable or not. Similar cultural backgrounds produce similar social cognitions and living habits, which can indeed reduce uncertainties in marriage. That kind of make-shift marriage, even if it remains unchanged until death, for both parties, it is just people's inertial thinking that it is better to die than to live, and they are too lazy to divorce.
Love may not require a good match, but marriage cannot be ignored. Therefore, love can be vigorous and vigorous, and marriage can be eternal, but marriage can only be dull and steady. In the former, we see the fleeting beauty and the glimmer of morning light; in the latter, we see the long stream of trickling water and the blow of a whip that cuts off the stream. Jia Baoyu and Sister Lin are a perfect match in love, but they must not live a married life of daily necessities. Just imagine, Sister Lin was holding a plate of burnt fried eggs. Did Baoyu ever think, "Have I ever seen this sister?" How could the Shenying guards have time to protect this Jiangzhucao? I'm afraid she has long since withered into hogweed. The ancestors and Sister Feng settled on Xue Baochai based on the matching principle of marriage. Marriage is about mutual accommodation and tolerance, not about music, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, and wine. It is about firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea. Pan Jinlian murdered Wu Dalang not only because Wu Dalang was ugly and short, but because Wu Dalang, who sold cooking cakes, did not have the heroic spirit of Wu Er. Since ancient times, beauties have loved heroes. And this kind of heroism is exactly a kind of "well-matched" in the cultural sense. "Inappropriate family" in the cultural sense creates conflicts between values and psychological contradictions. The death of Wuhan University is essentially caused by the invisible killer of "family marriage".
Another situation is that some people think that the marriage of a talented man and a beautiful woman does not need to be well-matched, and promote it as a model. In fact, most of the marriages between talented scholars and beautiful women were not reliable. They might only produce an unforgettable love, and it mostly happened between scholars and prostitutes. This is just a coincidence of talent and elegance. It is probably a way for literati to find spiritual comfort. Similarly, if there is no appropriate match, the wine of marriage cannot be brewed. In that kind of scene designed by literary novelists, a talented man met a prostitute wearing apricot flowers on her hair, and casually praised her, "I am so lucky to have apricot flowers on my bun." At this time, the prostitute responded, "There are no plum blossoms on the branches." Then the two of them married Qin and Jin, and the marriage was happy. It was obviously the wishful thinking of the good people.
Sima Xiangru played the qin to challenge Zhuo Wenjun, and he immediately fell in love with Wenjun with the song "Phoenix Seeking the Phoenix" and eloped with him, which was extremely treasonous at the time. The reason why Zhuo Wangsun felt embarrassed was not because his daughter's immorality embarrassed him, but because she eloped with a poor boy who was not from the right family. Later, Sima Xiangru won the appreciation of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty through his "Adult Fu", and became a high official and returned to his hometown. His father-in-law, Zhuo Wangsun, was very respectful to him and lamented. He was fortunate that his daughter had a keen eye and recognized talents. It can be seen that beauty and talent are not the conditions for being well matched, but money, status and family background are the criteria for marriage matching. There is only one couple in history who can truly be called a model of talent and beauty, namely Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng in the Song Dynasty. But they are not only close friends in spirit, but more importantly, they have similar family backgrounds, living environment, life interests, and knowledge. The result is quite a sectarian marriage.
The emphasis on "well-matched" marriage is a correction to the blindness and lack of rationality in love. The ancient people's emphasis on "well-matched" marriages has practical guiding significance for today's marriages. Today's marriages obviously cannot be divorced from the principle of "well-matched", and should be enriched and expanded. This is the consensus of cultural literacy, environmental character, and habits formed under a common concept. Marriage is like a spring. When you are weak, the other party is strong. Without common hobbies, interests and tastes, there will be no stable marriage anyway. When one party is beaten to the teeth by the other party, how can there be a marriage with matching and equal personalities? Love can emphasize spirituality, but marriage cannot ignore materiality. Only when people get along with each other can they be rational. From this point of view, when people now list various conditions for displaying themselves in marriage advertisements and look for "like-minded" people, aren't they asking for a well-matched match?
I very much agree with the saying that "cultural homology" in marriage means "well-matched" in culture. This is a "gateway" pair that abandons the traditional social hierarchy divided by economic status in the pure sense of ancient marriage. It is undeniable that the modern concept of "well-matched" in marriage has given it new connotations with the development of the times. Of course, the traditional pairing of portals is no longer suitable for the mainstream consciousness of today's society. However, the portal in the "cultural sense" has a deep-rooted inertia. It will continue to inherit the blood of ancient marriages and, to a large extent, is the touchstone of a happy marriage. Being a cultural match is a process of appreciation, understanding, acceptance and adaptation by both parties. Once the marriage relationship is marked by culture, it determines the values and life principles of both parties. They are either like-minded or have different dreams.
In "Family", Yu Ming chose to leave Min Qiao. This was the best way for him to protect the love between them. Because collection is the best protection! Therefore, although I feel sad and regretful that they could not get married as lovers, but looking back at our real life, isn't this how everyone moves forward with sighs and a little regret? You can have beautiful dreams in life, but no matter how high you are in your dreams, don't forget to walk down to earth when you wake up!
"Family" - leaving to achieve love, this is the most realistic ending!
Give me tea 23333
Things are changing haha
If this mother teaches her daughter like this, how can her daughter be better off? Not well-intentioned
Compared with the original manuscript, it seems that some content has been omitted
It's great. This is the fourth time I've watched it. It's pretty good.
I recently read Daya's Hall and couldn't put it down. Ping Yang wrote it so well!
Oh my god, I met someone like a nightmare, these two poor people
In the past, I was the most impatient to read long paragraphs of psychological description, but I have thought about it again and again and pondered it carefully. Many of the views in the article have been stuck in my heart but I have never been able to express them systematically. Your words are very refreshing to me. It is really a good article, an article that can touch people's hearts, and The joys and sorrows of life expressed in the article, the open-mindedness and tolerance revealed in the author's words, the thinking and gratitude for life, I believe that it will touch everyone who reads this article a lot. The most important thing is a broad mind, and from this we can also see Pingyang's character of happy grudges. Although you think you are moderate, you carefully outline each character and arrange a cycle of heaven and earth, an ending of retribution and dissatisfaction, and also, life. We are not perfect to begin with. As long as we seize the greatest happiness for ourselves, it is already a luxury.
I have been practicing with the protagonist until today, and my heart is quite tired. The traditional Chinese medicine saying of "working the brain and body diligently but not the heart" still makes sense. Regrets, disappointments, and unforeseen thorns and bumps can only be faced with a sincere heart, face it bravely, experience it with your heart, move forward firmly on the chosen journey, and cherish it.
I forgot to rate it after posting a long review, so I logged in to my account and posted it again. After watching "Family", I don't feel regretful about the ending like many people do, but I think it is the best ending. It should be said that Yu Ming's choice is wise, and Min Qiao is a girl with a clear heart and a clear heart, who has seen through everything from the beginning. Pearl (Min Qiao) is actually a girl with real wisdom. She knows that Chinese-style marriage must be about being well-matched. She is very smart, so I like her very much! Because like her, I also believe that marriage must be about being well-matched. How about Diana who married into the British royal family? Didn't her marriage to the prince end in tragedy? Marriage requires a good match. This is the historical experience summarized by our ancient Chinese. It should be an unbreakable truth. The traditional marriage model of ancient Chinese people is that they are well-matched. Even from the perspective of modern people, this is an unavoidable fact. Whether it is its supporters or opponents, there is only a difference in understanding. In fact, they are not consciously abiding by this ancient law. The birth of love may not require a well-matched family, but the conclusion of a marriage does require a well-matched family. Generally speaking, we can see love stories about love at first sight, but we don't see the fact of marriage where the lovers finally get married, which is enough to prove the correctness of the matching principle of marriage. The most important reason here is that marriage has evolved into a cultural phenomenon. It is related to the Confucian culture's "emphasis on etiquette over love" on marriage. The so-called "the way of marriage is the etiquette of marriage." Only those marriages that truly comply with cultural etiquette can be recognized and accepted by society and families. "The Book of Songs" says, "If you want a wife, you must tell your parents." From the surface, it seems that you need to tell your parents what kind of wife you want to find, to show respect for "the orders of your parents and the words of the matchmaker." In fact, this is not the case. It is not as simple as whether the parents agree or not, but it is up to the parents to ensure that they are "well-matched", which is also a marriage rule set by society and the family. "Being a good match" can almost be said to be a written or semi-written marriage rule in China since ancient times. It's just that with the development of society, there have been some changes in the standards of measurement. At first, "well-matched" may consider the general equivalence of money and status between the two families; later, it also involves political interests, economic interests, and being well-matched in a cultural sense. No matter what kind, it is necessary to pay attention to the equivalence of practical interests between men and women, so that marriage can be matched. At first, Huangdi asked his son Changyi to marry Changbu, the daughter of the Shushan clan, and later gave birth to Zhuanxu, who inherited his career; Emperor Yao married his two daughters Ehuang and Nvying to Shun, and Shun naturally became Yao's successor. No matter which factor they considered was dominant at the time, it might be the illustrious status, which strengthened the marriage to consolidate the status, or the noble morality, which was used to inherit the throne, which reflected the early people's understanding of the importance of well-matched marriage. Although the concept of family status in primitive marriage is not as strong as that of later generations, it follows a basic rule, that is, love is secondary, etiquette cannot be ignored, and marriage is an exchange of interests. Therefore, by the Zhou Dynasty, the right to control the marriage of children had been fixed and included in the etiquette regulations. In a highly hierarchical society, marriage is almost a transaction. This kind of marriage is obviously based on the consideration of clan and social stability, and has considerable political interests. Many political marriages in history originated from the balance of power formed through mutual marriage between ancient primitive tribes and their neighbors. For example, the Qin and Jin Dynasties have been married for generations, and the kings are brothers-in-law of each other; the palace maids and princesses of the Han Dynasty have made marriages with the Hu people; and the three-generation marriage between Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty and Changsun Wuji, in addition to the purpose of attracting each other, it also has the purpose of maintaining the stability of the dynasty. Among the emperors, nobles and bureaucrats in the upper class of society, their marriages focused on the form of portals, and status matching had an obvious transactional nature. This was a kind of political marriage that was well-matched. The Han Dynasty adopted a "marriage" policy to marry the Xiongnu to pacify the border. The Qing Dynasty's royal family had been marrying the Mongols for generations, and many princesses were married to Mongolian princes and nobles. As for the lower class society, especially after the Tang and Song Dynasties, more emphasis was placed on marriage and wealth, and family status in marriage seemed to be frivolous, and being well-matched was more reflected in real money and materials. When choosing a spouse, both men and women mostly consider the amount of family property. "Every marriage is about money. If there is more competition and less competition, it is not strange for Tian." This leads to the emphasis on betrothal gifts in the process of concluding a marriage. The heavier the betrothal gifts, the higher the woman's worth. On the contrary, if a woman gets married and the dowry is not generous, she will be looked down upon by her husband's family and even be abused. It can be said that a well-matched marriage is related to the stability and continuation of society, family and race. It is difficult to imagine how many tragic loves that mismatched marriages can create. Those pseudo-moralists and pseudo-Confucianists who like to sing high-pitched words always talk about the supremacy of benevolence, justice, morality and love, but would rather ignore the happiness of marriage. The cornerstone of marriage is a good match, and the building of love is by no means a castle in the air. It is true that there is no distinction between high and low in the family itself, but it cannot avoid the law of inertia brought about by the social class and cultural literacy of the individual in the marriage. This is the most essential thing in a family marriage, the difference in culture and customs, and the similarities and differences in concepts, upbringing, and personal habits determine whether the marriage is stable or not. Similar cultural backgrounds produce similar social cognitions and living habits, which can indeed reduce uncertainties in marriage. That kind of make-shift marriage, even if it remains unchanged until death, for both parties, it is just people's inertial thinking that it is better to die than to live, and they are too lazy to divorce. Love may not require a good match, but marriage cannot be ignored. Therefore, love can be vigorous and vigorous, and marriage can be eternal, but marriage can only be dull and steady. In the former, we see the fleeting beauty and the glimmer of morning light; in the latter, we see the long stream of trickling water and the blow of a whip that cuts off the stream. Jia Baoyu and Sister Lin are a perfect match in love, but they must not live a married life of daily necessities. Just imagine, Sister Lin was holding a plate of burnt fried eggs. Did Baoyu ever think, "Have I ever seen this sister?" How could the Shenying guards have time to protect this Jiangzhucao? I'm afraid she has long since withered into hogweed. The ancestors and Sister Feng settled on Xue Baochai based on the matching principle of marriage. Marriage is about mutual accommodation and tolerance, not about music, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, and wine. It is about firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea. Pan Jinlian murdered Wu Dalang not only because Wu Dalang was ugly and short, but because Wu Dalang, who sold cooking cakes, did not have the heroic spirit of Wu Er. Since ancient times, beauties have loved heroes. And this kind of heroism is exactly a kind of "well-matched" in the cultural sense. "Inappropriate family" in the cultural sense creates conflicts between values and psychological contradictions. The death of Wuhan University is essentially caused by the invisible killer of "family marriage". Another situation is that some people think that the marriage of a talented man and a beautiful woman does not need to be well-matched, and promote it as a model. In fact, most of the marriages between talented scholars and beautiful women were not reliable. They might only produce an unforgettable love, and it mostly happened between scholars and prostitutes. This is just a coincidence of talent and elegance. It is probably a way for literati to find spiritual comfort. Similarly, if there is no appropriate match, the wine of marriage cannot be brewed. In that kind of scene designed by literary novelists, a talented man met a prostitute wearing apricot flowers on her hair, and casually praised her, "I am so lucky to have apricot flowers on my bun." At this time, the prostitute responded, "There are no plum blossoms on the branches." Then the two of them married Qin and Jin, and the marriage was happy. It was obviously the wishful thinking of the good people. Sima Xiangru played the qin to challenge Zhuo Wenjun, and he immediately fell in love with Wenjun with the song "Phoenix Seeking the Phoenix" and eloped with him, which was extremely treasonous at the time. The reason why Zhuo Wangsun felt embarrassed was not because his daughter's immorality embarrassed him, but because she eloped with a poor boy who was not from the right family. Later, Sima Xiangru won the appreciation of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty through his "Adult Fu", and became a high official and returned to his hometown. His father-in-law, Zhuo Wangsun, was very respectful to him and lamented. He was fortunate that his daughter had a keen eye and recognized talents. It can be seen that beauty and talent are not the conditions for being well matched, but money, status and family background are the criteria for marriage matching. There is only one couple in history who can truly be called a model of talent and beauty, namely Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng in the Song Dynasty. But they are not only close friends in spirit, but more importantly, they have similar family backgrounds, living environment, life interests, and knowledge. The result is quite a sectarian marriage. The emphasis on "well-matched" marriage is a correction to the blindness and lack of rationality in love. The ancient people's emphasis on "well-matched" marriages has practical guiding significance for today's marriages. Today's marriages obviously cannot be divorced from the principle of "well-matched", and should be enriched and expanded. This is the consensus of cultural literacy, environmental character, and habits formed under a common concept. Marriage is like a spring. When you are weak, the other party is strong. Without common hobbies, interests and tastes, there will be no stable marriage anyway. When one party is beaten to the teeth by the other party, how can there be a marriage with matching and equal personalities? Love can emphasize spirituality, but marriage cannot ignore materiality. Only when people get along with each other can they be rational. From this point of view, when people now list various conditions for displaying themselves in marriage advertisements and look for "like-minded" people, aren't they asking for a well-matched match? I very much agree with the saying that "cultural homology" in marriage means "well-matched" in culture. This is a "gateway" pair that abandons the traditional social hierarchy divided by economic status in the pure sense of ancient marriage. It is undeniable that the modern concept of "well-matched" in marriage has given it new connotations with the development of the times. Of course, the traditional pairing of portals is no longer suitable for the mainstream consciousness of today's society. However, the portal in the "cultural sense" has a deep-rooted inertia. It will continue to inherit the blood of ancient marriages and, to a large extent, is the touchstone of a happy marriage. Being a cultural match is a process of appreciation, understanding, acceptance and adaptation by both parties. Once the marriage relationship is marked by culture, it determines the values and life principles of both parties. They are either like-minded or have different dreams. In "Family", Yu Ming chose to leave Min Qiao. This was the best way for him to protect the love between them. Because collection is the best protection! Therefore, although I feel sad and regretful that they could not get married as lovers, but looking back at our real life, isn't this how everyone moves forward with sighs and a little regret? You can have beautiful dreams in life, but no matter how high you are in your dreams, don't forget to walk down to earth when you wake up! "Family" - leaving to achieve love, this is the most realistic ending!
Give me tea 23333
Things are changing haha
If this mother teaches her daughter like this, how can her daughter be better off? Not well-intentioned
Compared with the original manuscript, it seems that some content has been omitted
It's great. This is the fourth time I've watched it. It's pretty good.
I recently read Daya's Hall and couldn't put it down. Ping Yang wrote it so well!
Oh my god, I met someone like a nightmare, these two poor people
In the past, I was the most impatient to read long paragraphs of psychological description, but I have thought about it again and again and pondered it carefully. Many of the views in the article have been stuck in my heart but I have never been able to express them systematically. Your words are very refreshing to me. It is really a good article, an article that can touch people's hearts, and The joys and sorrows of life expressed in the article, the open-mindedness and tolerance revealed in the author's words, the thinking and gratitude for life, I believe that it will touch everyone who reads this article a lot. The most important thing is a broad mind, and from this we can also see Pingyang's character of happy grudges. Although you think you are moderate, you carefully outline each character and arrange a cycle of heaven and earth, an ending of retribution and dissatisfaction, and also, life. We are not perfect to begin with. As long as we seize the greatest happiness for ourselves, it is already a luxury.
I have been practicing with the protagonist until today, and my heart is quite tired. The traditional Chinese medicine saying of "working the brain and body diligently but not the heart" still makes sense. Regrets, disappointments, and unforeseen thorns and bumps can only be faced with a sincere heart, face it bravely, experience it with your heart, move forward firmly on the chosen journey, and cherish it.