Conversations and Confessions

So my mother is just worried about her, cares about her, and wants her to have another home before she passes away 😭 mom 😭

It seems that this case is still a cross-country case, with many people involved. Ji Yue and her mother are not in safe situations, but many of Ji's mother's actions are really hard to accept. She is the kind of person who maybe you understand that her starting point is good and her heart is not bad, but her behavioral pattern is repressive and coercive, just like NPD. It is difficult for people to believe that this person has feelings for her family and her behavioral motives are good. Even if she can understand part of her behavior, it is still difficult to accept it.

After reading this chapter, I suddenly felt that everyone is like a magnet. Those unique stories and experiences will attract people with corresponding magnetic poles to get close to each other. As they get along, the magnetism will strengthen or disappear, and then they will either stick closely together, or they will repel each other and no longer be able to attract each other.

It feels like Ji Yue is also trying hard to get close to Zhao Yaran. Now getting along is no longer the mode of you give it to me and I will give it back to you. It is more like I feel your kindness, and I want to give you the same kindness, letting you know that I feel your love, and Ji Yue has taken the initiative a lot. I look forward to the day when they can truly have a heart-to-heart relationship.

Ji Yue's feeling of avoidance is that she did not get enough close support and love from her family when she was young, so she has no sense of security and is highly sensitive to external stimuli. Whether she is with Xiaohan or Zhao Yaran, she will be emotionally sensitive. Because she cares, she is afraid of losing. Instead of losing, it is better to give up first, so that she can tell herself She is safe and has not been let down, but the difference is that Xiaohan is someone who has entered the inner safe zone for her. When getting along with her, she is not as defensive as she is with Zhao Yaran. This does consume herself and others, but from Zhao Yaran's point of view, she is also eaten to death by Ji Yue. It seems that the two of them still have a way to go 🥺

Ji Yue's feeling of being occupied in her living space is really real. She has been single all year round and her original family is like that. She has become accustomed to doing everything by herself. Once someone is so close to her in her life, she will definitely feel awkward. Zhao Yaran's answer at the end of this chapter seems to me to be telling Ji Yue that if it were in the past, Ji Yue might not be so sensitive, cautious and awkward. He once liked the same Ji Yue, but in my opinion, people will change, and experience will change people's personalities. Zhao Yaran's thoughts are not incomprehensible, because like Huan's person has changed, and maybe he needs time to accept it, but for Ji Yue, hearing this sentence shouldn't be too uncomfortable. Emma has reached an age where both parties can understand. No one wants to be a naughty person, but it is caused by the environment; no one wants to see their lover change too much, but time is also the most ruthless plastic surgery knife 🥺

I feel that Ji Yue's situation is very unsafe. Someone came to her house intentionally twice. Her mother has something to do with the virus she wants to track down, and the bureau will not let her follow up on cases related to the virus, but I hope these are all well-intentioned protections, otherwise Ji Yue's life will be too cruel.

She has reached an age where she can understand everyone. The relationship between Ji Yue and her mother feels like the epitome of many people. Many people will say that it is the problem of the parents, but I think parents are not born like this. They also like to use the status and morals of parents to control their children because of their life experiences and family environment, because they were also raised in this way, and in their era, no one told them that this is the case. It is an unhealthy mental state, and perhaps no one has the concept of mental health. Ji Yue suppressed herself for a long time, was not supported and recognized, and was directed to live her own life. She had a sense of independence but would still follow the inertia and hope to get her mother's affirmation or admit that she was wrong, as if this proved her own meaning and value. This state is really uncomfortable and makes people feel sorry for her. I really hope she can heal herself.

She has reached an age where she can understand everyone. The relationship between Ji Yue and her mother feels like a microcosm for many people. The mainstream view will criticize parents, but I think parents are not born like this. They also like to use their status and morals as parents to kidnap their children because of their life experiences and family environment, because they were also raised in this way, and in their time, no one told them that this is a kind of behavior. Unhealthy mental state, maybe even no one has the concept of mental health. Ji Yue suppressed herself for a long time, was not supported and recognized, and was ordered to live her own life. She had a sense of independence but would still follow the inertia and hope to get her mother's affirmation or admit that she was wrong, as if this proved her own meaning and value. This state is really uncomfortable and makes people feel sorry for her. I really hope she can heal herself.

She has reached an age where she can understand everyone. The relationship between Ji Yue and her mother feels like a microcosm for many people. The mainstream view will criticize parents, but I think parents are not born like this. They also like to use their status and morals as parents to kidnap their children because of their life experiences and family environment, because they were also raised in this way, and in their time, no one told them that this is a kind of behavior. Unhealthy mental state, maybe even no one has the concept of mental health. Ji Yue suppressed herself for a long time, was not supported and recognized, and was ordered to live her own life. She had a sense of independence but would still follow the inertia and hope to get her mother's affirmation or admit that she was wrong, as if this proved her own meaning and value. This state is really uncomfortable and makes people feel sorry for her. I really hope she can heal herself.