Books That Teach You How to Handle People and Social Situations! Lately, Everything I Read...

152 古 Antique Jianghu Love Qian BaohaoUrban2.3M WordsCompleted 334Reads—Score—Shelves

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There is always time for flowers to bloom and wealth

153 风 The Wind Passes Through Western Zhou City Sanxi GardenUrban260k WordsCompleted 403Reads6.7Score101Shelves

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The official technical novel "Wind Passing the City of Western Zhou Dynasty" rewrites the sophistication and technology of officialdom.

154 我 I Have a Wuling RV in the Apocalypse to Deliver Supplies Liu ZixianSci-Fi & Apocalypse182k WordsOngoing 1.2kReads5.8Score100Shelves

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Auntie is invincible in the world [laughing evilly] [laughing evilly]

156 官 Guanyi Dreams of Spring and AutumnUrban412k WordsOngoing 29.3kReads7.4Score1.2kShelves

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Write down eight emotions and sophistication

157 赌 Stone Gambling: A Life of Power and Desire Old Ghost63Urban1.5M WordsCompleted 35.6kReads9.2Score3.9kShelves

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Moving from time to time,

158 婆 My Husband's Family Treated Me Like a Bullock and Asked the Whole Family to Hand over Their Salary Cards. You Hua6k WordsCompleted 2Reads8.5Score—Shelves

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Back then, I stupidly supported the whole family, with the mortgage and living expenses all covered, but my husband's money was used by my mother-in-law to help my uncle. It wasn't until my daughter had a fever that I couldn't afford to seek medical treatment that I finally woke up. Faced with my mother-in-law, who came to make trouble, and my husband, who only asked me to be patient, I no longer compromised. Since sincerity cannot be exchanged for good treatment, then we should break up and go our separate ways from now on. [Cool]

159 律 Seeking the Way in the Legal World Half a ScholarUrban1.2M WordsCompleted 573Reads5.8Score100Shelves

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There are more at the beginning, more and more, and I keep chasing the light, but I still can't guess the ending.

160 这 This Immortal Isn't Reliable Mojie ImpressionUrban2.4M WordsCompleted 3.1kReads8.2Score327Shelves

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The second book is all about human feelings and worldly wisdom

161 天 Secret Decoding Xuanyuan DomineeringUrban919k WordsCompleted 1Reads5.8Score—Shelves

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Principles of life under high-dimensional cognition: using cognition as a shield and subjectivity as an anchor. 1. Use "cognitive coordinate system" to replace "moral labels" and see through the system loopholes behind behaviors Judging "who to stay away from" from a conventional perspective is often stuck in the label of "whether he is a bad person"; high-dimensional cognition is more concerned about "whether there are irreparable loopholes in his behavioral system" - the essence of swearing is "when the emotion is out of control, the habit of using attacks to divert incompetence". Such people's cognition is "solving problems self-control", "predation > creation", "short term > long term", there is no need to worry about "whether he will change", it only needs to be clear that "my life system cannot be integrated with the loophole system". 2. Set a "dynamic energy threshold" for the relationship, instead of "passive defense", do "active calibration". The high-dimensional practice of "a gentleman does not stand behind a dangerous wall" is not "to avoid only when encountering a dangerous wall", but to set a threshold for "interpersonal energy" in advance: your time, emotions, trust, are essentially limited energy, and every relationship is "consuming energy" or "creating energy". When a scolding person pours out his emotions to you, whether you answer or not is a waste - answering means getting involved in a conflict, and not answering means suppressing emotions; when a gambler comes to you for "turnover", whether you borrow or not is a waste - if you borrow, there is a high probability that you will not be able to get it back, and if you don't borrow, you will have to deal with moral kidnapping; when a liar approaches you, even if you are not deceived, you are consuming "the attention to identify lies." The method of high-dimensional cognition is to not give the "consumption relationship" a chance to start. For example, it is clear in advance that "I do not accept unfiltered emotional catharsis", "I will not participate in anything that prioritizes short-term pleasure", "I will not release trust to people who 'only talk about interests and not about creation'", and use clear thresholds to turn "passive avoidance of danger walls" into "active avoidance of walls that may collapse." What's more critical is "dynamic calibration": people's cognition will change, but core loopholes are difficult to fix. If a person occasionally loses control and can take the initiative to repair it (such as sincere reflection after swearing instead of making excuses), you may be able to reserve observation; but if his "consumption behavior" becomes the norm (such as asking you to "complain and vent his anger" every week, which is essentially treating you as an emotional trash can), no matter how close you have been, you must decisively lower the "energy allocation proportion" - it is not indifference, but your energy should be reserved for "people who can build a "load-bearing wall" with you" rather than used to plug the "wall cracks" of others. 3. Turn "risk prediction" into "cognitive training" and make "avoiding pitfalls" an instinctive reaction High-dimensional cognition does not rely on "memory grows after suffering losses", but trains "risk prediction" in daily life: observing how a person treats "choices in small things", you can see clearly his cognitive background - for example, someone will fall down when they lose in a game. Opportunities ("extremely low tolerance for loss of control"), some people will remember to pay back ten yuan if they borrow money ("clear understanding of boundaries and responsibilities"), some people always say "I will do it when I have money" but never take action ("zero ability to execute long-term goals"). These "little things" are essentially cognitive "test strips": people with low tolerance for loss of control will most likely use more extreme ways to vent when they encounter greater setbacks (unemployment, quarrels) in the future; people who don't take "small responsibilities" seriously are more likely to sacrifice others when encountering "big benefits"; people who only have "verbal goals" are essentially "using fantasy to escape reality". When you cooperate with them, you have to bear the risk that "his mission will eventually fall on you." Training this kind of prediction is not to "beware of someone", but to have an "early warning system" in your own cognition: when the other party's behavior triggers the red light of the "out of control test paper", "responsibility test paper" and "execution test paper", you don't have to wait for the "dangerous wall to collapse", you are already in the safe zone. 4. Let "subjectivity" become the anchor of interpersonal relationships, and do not let the outside world define "what you should be." The core of high-dimensional cognition is always to "keep your own subjectivity" - no matter who you get along with, your core cognition, code of conduct, and value priorities should not be shaken by the other party. When someone scolds you, you don't have to "prove that you are right" because your value is not defined by "his evaluation"; when someone advises you to "take a chance", you don't have to "explain why you should be practical" because your survival logic is not rewritten by "his shortcut"; when someone uses "morality" to kidnap you, you don't have to "feel guilty for not satisfying him" because your kindness should be given to people who "know how to cherish kindness". The so-called "high-dimensional life" is ultimately not the skill of "staying away from someone", but the sobriety of "anchoring someone" - anchoring one's own cognitive priorities: "What I want is long-term stability, and I will not touch short-term stimulation; I want value creation, and I will not engage in predatory logic; I want emotional autonomy, and I will not accept other people's emotional garbage." When your subjectivity is stable enough, the "dangerous wall" will naturally not be able to get close to you - it's not that you have avoided it, but that there is no "position for the dangerous wall to exist" in your cognitive coordinate system. In the final analysis, the principle of high-dimensional cognition is to "protect one's life with clear cognition": not to be dragged down by the loophole system, not to be hollowed out by consuming relationships, and not to be biased by external voices. In the end, you will find that true "security" is never a "wall of danger in the world", but that you have already built your own cognition into a wall that will not collapse.

162 官 Officialdom and Humanity Yuan Qi Yuan ShanUrban470k WordsCompleted 127Reads—Score—Shelves

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"The Woman Who Learned the Art of War" is also known as "Officialdom and Human Nature". There is no chicken soup in this book. What readers read is the real social status quo, truly close to life, and deeply reflects the pain points of society, and deeply explores the problems of human nature and society. After reading it, you will close your book and think deeply.

163 赶 Beachcombing: From the Start, One Sand Shovel Wins Me the Whole Beach Mountain PeakUrban4.6M WordsCompleted 159.9kReads9.4Score14.7kShelves

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🔥1️⃣After the death of the male protagonist Li Le, Li Miao traveled back in time to 1994. With the memories of his previous life, he had another life where he could see all the flowers in Chang'an. The writing and logic are superb. It is not suitable for those who read quick and refreshing hydrology articles. This book is worth reading slowly and calmly. The sophistication of humanity is in the writing. ✳️✳️2️⃣The male protagonist Zhao Qin travels through the seaside fishermen. Watch him go from a college student who dropped out of school to fishing and buying a boat, and gradually expanded his network of acquaintances, relying on his brains. Being humane and worldly is a way of doing things that is valued all over the world. So it's cool to see the protagonists having brains.

167 白 White Tiger Tongyi BanguHistorical53k WordsCompleted 24Reads8.6Score—Shelves

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Cultivate oneself, manage one's family, govern the country and bring peace to the world! [Working on manuscript][Working on manuscript][Working on manuscript]

168 歪 A Crooked Road Through Life Crooked-Crooked ComicsUrban1.1M WordsCompleted 211Reads9.4Score—Shelves

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Has anyone read this novel?

169 动 Move the Bones and Restore the Emotions Chu LinmuModern Romance1.4M WordsOngoing 70Reads9.4Score—Shelves

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Humanity and sophistication.

170 昨 Flow into the City Yesterday Spiny BougainvilleaUrban3.0M WordsCompleted 4.5kReads5.8Score366Shelves

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Hidden books in the snow, please add bookshelf! Please read! Please comment!

171 契 Contract Without Love Existing 11Modern Romance1.1M WordsCompleted 32Reads5.8Score—Shelves

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Come here, Leng Luoluo should not have come to this world. Just because the eldest daughter of the Leng family, Leng Baozhu, needed matching bone marrow to save her life, her husband-in-law Bai Zuhui gave birth to the neglected Lengluo Luo with an ugly country girl with the approval of Mr. Leng. For eighteen years, Leng Luo Luo and Wu Ma, the mute maid of the Leng family, have been dependent on each other! An accidental twist of fate made Mr. Leng discover that Leng Luoluo was inextricably linked to Cheng Fenghe, the richest man in Jiangcheng, and also had a close connection with Cheng Fenghe's younger brother. He sensed the value of exploitation, and in order to seize the power of the Leng family, Bai Zuhui found a lover for his wife, PUA for Leng Luoluo's spirit, and took Leng Luoluo to learn from women in nightclubs... Even Cheng Fenghe's rival Ma family also set their sights on Leng Luoluo for real estate projects! Cheng Fenghe discovered Leng Luo's "ambition" and "conspiracy". In order to avoid contact between his younger brother and Leng Nuoluo, he designed Leng Nuoluo to sign a contract of betrayal... The gears of fate have turned, where will the ending be? It's up to you to decide! The woman around me, but when all the good things are not cherished, why wait!

172 从 From the Blank Paper in the Examination Room to the Secret Words of the School Beauty, the Fantasy Campus User 10859587Urban250k WordsCompleted 2Reads—Score—Shelves

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Humanity and sophistication are the embodiment of value

173 都 Reborn, I’m Taking Shortcuts to Help the Nation Get Ahead Great CangyueUrban4.0M WordsCompleted 249.7kReads9.5Score29.4kShelves

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💥You can learn a lot of tactics, it's worth adding worldliness, high IQ to fight back in desperate situations, not recommended if you don't have high IQ

182 寻 Chasing the Murderer with an Umbrella Qiu WeilaiModern Romance225k WordsOngoing 13Reads8.3Score—Shelves

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It's a very realistic book where you can learn a lot of strategies and wisdom.

183 成 Becoming a Grandmaster, I Activated My Luck 96 Degrees Below ZeroUrban225k WordsCompleted 25Reads—Score—Shelves

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After nine years of dating, my girlfriend's family asked for a gift of 1 million. It was a showdown. I am a desperate writer, so I would hesitate even if I was offered quick money. My future mother-in-law asked me what book I thought had potential. I answered, "Becoming a master, I activate my luck." My future mother-in-law glanced at me and asked me to figure it out on my own. I was confused...

185 只 I Just Want to Retire on Time, but the Dean Forced Me to Be a Boss Shitou XiaoxiUrban433k WordsCompleted —Reads5.8Score—Shelves

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It's a realistic theme and the protagonist is so transparent, let's learn together!

188 女 The Female Bank President's Last Resort Xu CiModern Romance102k WordsCompleted 809Reads9.3Score127Shelves

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Recommend "The End of a Female President", workplace writing, high-level strategy. It writes about how the female bank president Ma Yuquan went from being an aspiring elite woman with a huge ambition, bright eyes, and determined to serve the country through finance. In the face of power and bad capital, she was trapped step by step and lost herself, thus embarking on a dead end in life. The novel has a fast pace, fluent writing, and rich plots. There are many scenes in which the best friend competes for her boyfriend, and the single and elderly heroine secretly gives birth to a child and designs a legal adoption.

189 震 Tremor Dong Xian ZunUrban338k WordsOngoing 11Reads—Score—Shelves

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I recommend this new book. The Nine Levels of Self-cultivation in it is suitable for you. The protagonists, father and son, understand the rules of the world based on reality in a modern city, and thus embark on quantum soul cultivation in the real society. From the perspective of quantum mechanics, they re-view and understand worldly cultivation, and reinterpret what creation is. It is the author's new genre of creative exploration.

190 郭 Guo Jingyuan's Notes on Officialdom Mountains, Rivers, Wind, and RainUrban595k WordsOngoing 65Reads—Score—Shelves

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It is full of positive energy, shows the authenticity of officialdom, reveals social changes, and does not deliberately pursue suspense. It is very good! ! ! !

191 重 Reborn: Hard Work Always Pays Off Do It Yourself and You'll Have Plenty to Eat and WearUrban370k WordsOngoing 141Reads7.6Score—Shelves

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I don't know what you think.

192 本 A Foreign Country LiuliujiangUrban364k WordsCompleted 31Reads—Score—Shelves

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The mastery of human feelings is the article

194 隋 Romance of the Sui and Tang Dynasties-Complete Edition Qing·chu RenhuoHistorical617k WordsCompleted 848Reads9.6Score—Shelves

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Learn Chinese customs and sophistication from classics

197 霓 Neon Taipei: My Seven-Year Descent Only Knows How to DreamUrban1.2M WordsCompleted 6.7kReads7.4Score492Shelves

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In 2000, a 20-year-old mainland boy went to Taipei alone and went from being an ignorant boy to holding the proprietress's well-maintained hand!

199 城 Cheng'an Xiao Qi Lao QiUrban639k WordsOngoing 63Reads—Score—Shelves

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Workplace guide is very useful

200 风 Hong Xiuquan, the Charismatic Heavenly King Yu SonghanHistorical1.3M WordsCompleted 6.6kReads8.4Score518Shelves

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Observe the past and know the present!