To Choose or Not

"Grandma, I don't want to get married in the future." "Haha, what are you talking about? How can you not get married?" "I want to live my own life alone, and I can go on trips with my sister in the future." "A person cannot finish his life alone. You need someone to accompany you." "Why, I think I can live a good life alone." "It's easier when two people support each other." I had this idea before and I immediately happily shared it with my family. I know that they all have the thoughts of the elders, but the rebellion of youth still made me speak out and want to compete with them. No one takes my words seriously, maybe they have experience. So I thought about this issue carefully later, and I imagined how I would feel if I struggled alone under pressure in a highly competitive social environment, then entered middle age, and then slowly grew older, how would I feel. At that moment, I really felt a deep sense of loneliness and fear, and I was immediately shaken. "What will you do if you live alone in the future, without a partner to accompany you, or children to support you in old age? Maybe you will suddenly pass away at home one day, and no one will find out." My sister also had the same idea as me, but she obviously thought about it before saying this to me. We fell silent between each other. Humans are indeed social animals, and although there are more and more independent women in today's society, there are really very few people who can insist on being unmarried or DINK. I'm glad that women now have more choices. Just because you were born into an unexpected and conflicting family doesn't mean it's your fault! When your mother made her choice, your birth was already doomed. I agree with another reader that there is nothing right or wrong about birth. The reason why you blame yourself is because you also have an ambivalent love for your mother. My family is not happy, and I have done extremely crazy or extremely humble things, but I swear that I will never do those things again. You should be kind to yourself and treat everything around you in a way that you think is appropriate. Is love inclusive? I think love is respect. It is respect for each other, whether they are relatives or lovers. The social environment your mother lived in when she was young didn't respect her, and her husband's family didn't respect her, but she forced herself to tolerate it all, and finally chose to disrespect you. Without mutual respect, the relationship is unequal. So I hope you can greet the world with a heart of respect rather than tolerance, because I think tolerance is difficult and tiring, and I can only try to live in my own way. Then I would like to say a few words about having the confidence to be tolerated. Some people will accept others' tolerance as a matter of course, and some people will be wary of others' tolerance, but tolerance has limits, just like respecting each other, I respect your bottom line, you respect my bottom line, we are all being respected, and we all have the confidence to be tolerated by each other's respect, because we are equal. Wu Wu, Jili Guala said a lot of things that were unclear and self-righteous, because I really wanted to give some advice to Dada. Although it may not be mature, I hope that Dada can make his own choices and truly live his own life.

Follow your heart and no one can stop you. Don't be afraid, since you have walked through this world once, then walk beautifully, and don't feel like you are a mistake because of the voices outside, because there is no right or wrong in this world.