So-and-So

You see, this is a big deal. If you can't fight, you still have to flirt with me.

The underlying logic of Jiang Ou and Jiang Tian's relationship is actually the same as the underlying logic of my relationship with my mother. So when I watched So-and-so for the first time, I understood why Jiang Tian said that "I don't owe anyone", and now I also understand why there are a lot of disputes. We discussed the matter objectively and rationally, because I don't know how many times I have thought about my relationship with my mother. In the marriage relationship, Jiang Ou is in the position of the victim. There is no doubt that she has been greatly hurt in this love. This is ultimately due to Ji Huanyu, so the person we should blame now is Ji Huanyu, not Jiang Ou, and not Jiang Tian In the relationship between mother and child, Jiang Ou is not a competent mother, but the most fundamental reason is Ji Huanyu. Take me and my mother as an example. She should have received the love from her husband in a marriage, but my father rarely provided emotional value or even daily care to my mother. This led to my mother transferring the love she lacked from her husband to me and asking for the care she should have received from her lover (but Every emotion in the family has a direction. For example, what I give to my mother is the love of a child, and what my father gives her is the love of love, so love and love cannot replace each other. And as a teenager or even younger child, he is at the age when his parents nourish his growth with love, not to mention directly reversing the direction of output). Ji Huanyu himself has never fulfilled his father's duties well, let alone giving love. Jiang Ou loves Jiang Tian, I can really feel it, but at the same time she is consuming Jiang Tian. She held her son tightly in her hands like a life-saving straw. As mentioned later, the psychiatrist said that in the mother-child relationship, she was always in a protected low position, so Jiang Tian was forced to perform the duties that should be performed by a husband with Jiang Ou (there are many details in the article), but how much love can a child give that is beyond his own ability? And Jiang Tian happened to be soft-hearted. He knew that Ji Huanyu was a scumbag and had hurt his mother, so he unilaterally refused to pay child support and hid it from Jiang Ou because he didn't want her to feel guilty for him. From when Jiang Tian pulled Jiang Ou's sleeve when he was a child, to when he went alone to Old Man Ding to seek some warmth from the elders, it can actually be seen that Jiang Tian actually lacks care. So he always got along with Jiang Ou in a giving manner. This is beyond the capabilities of his age. That's why Jiang Tian had an indescribable sense of maturity, and after the accident, Sheng Mingyang was shocked that he was only seventeen or eighteen years old. (Under this premise, Jiang Ou's harm to Sheng Wang was the most difficult for Jiang Tian to ignore. That's why Jiang Tian only said "I don't owe anyone" six years later. He really didn't owe anyone anything. , He does not need to pay for Ji Huanyu's mistakes, nor does he need to be cautious about his mother's emotions all his life. You take Jiang Tian's perspective as a lonely person who lacks companionship and love and meets a lover who understands you and is also soft-hearted. This is so warm and comforting, just like a person who has been walking for a long time and finally reaches a place where he can rest and keep warm, but his mother will hurt him. The person he loves is Sheng Wang was completely innocent and should not have been implicated, but it still made Sheng Wang become "Jiang Tian". Originally, Jiang Tian could stay with his mother in the past six years, but the change in Sheng Wang after six years was what made him collapse the most. It was those innocent people who were undeservedly punished. A child should not have to pay the price for what happened to his parents, and he does not need to spend his whole life waiting for the unfinished tasks of his parents.) In the end, the most fatal mistake Jiang Ou made, and also the most unblameable mistake, was that she put her son and Ji Huanyu in the same category in the ward, and what she said to Sheng Wang. The fatal thing is that she puts the blame on the wrong person. She shares her own misfortune with Jiang Tian and Sheng Wang, making two innocent people who are just in love with each other feel guilty. And the love itself is not wrong. This is Jiang Ou's problem and her knot. It has been so many years since she knew the truth until she got divorced, but she still chooses to escape. If you escape, you are destined to be unable to solve the problem. But this is the least blameworthy. She was hurt so much. In fact, the last words she blurted out were because she was under too much mental pressure and collapsed. She was clearly trying so hard to distinguish Ji Huanyu and Jiang Tian. In essence, she was asking for help. When she saw Jiang Tian and Sheng Wang, it was as if she was moved by the scene. She was too stimulated. Such emotions are difficult to digest. This requires time and her own strength. You can call her weak, you can call her pitiful, but she is not hypocritical. She is really uncomfortable and she really blames the wrong person. The life lesson that she should fight against was to remove this scumbag from her life, return her heart to its proper place with peace of mind, see clearly the differences between people, and then live a good life in the future. She actually did it later. The source of all this is Ji Huanyu Whether it's a reader or a jiangou The person most to blame is Ji Huanyu Not that Jiang Tian, who has learned to be defensive since he was a short man and started taking care of his mother before he grew up. Not the girl who has been let down for more than ten years and met unkind people. If Jiang Ou had not met Ji Huanyu, even if she was weak, she could still be weak and happy. She would not have experienced this. And for Jiang Tian to face such a mother, the culprit is Ji Huanyu But Jiang Ou should also apologize to his son, or even give him a hug, because the dispute between his parents has cost a child so much. He is also not wrong. He has really been gone for too long.

I hope everyone can read Mussuri [Cat's Claw] quietly and happily.

See the hair above the big eyes. Maybe I really crossed paths with you? Muji [poor]

Looking forward to Xiao Mou's painful experience [poor]

I have always wanted to discuss Sheng Wang's character. All beautiful words can be used to describe Sheng Wang. [Biting handkerchief] Handsome-looking and fair-skinned, young master from Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, strong learning ability, double major with excellent grades, high emotional intelligence, good at all sports and instruments, and comprehensive development of moral, intellectual, physical, artistic and labor. Only these people would think that the character is too ideal and unattainable, but Sheng Wang has the stinky behavior that a 17-year-old should have. He is shy, has a huge face, learns whatever he thinks is cool, can play games, can turn his pen and tilt his chair, can turn on the screen and raise his tail when praised, can help classmates protect their mobile phones, can secretly complain to Jiang Tian... These make the character vivid and flexible. What I like the most is Sheng Wang's character. He is hard-spoken and soft-hearted. He dislikes Jiang Tian at the beginning but still retains him when he sees his lonely figure. Jiang Ou suddenly takes over the position of mother but knows that he is good and understands that she will call her aunt. He respects girls and comforts girls who cry during sports meetings. He sees that girls like him but does not expose or laugh at them. He will generously refuse a girl's confession without belittling her. Even if her hand is injured after work, she will protect her female colleagues. Finally; confident and arrogant, will care about the ups and downs of grades, and will compete with Jiang Tian for first place, but the "charity" three-good student can say no to it; he has a delicate mind and high emotional intelligence. He has just transferred to another school and knows how to deal with the world while maintaining excellent English without making people jealous (although he was pierced by Gao Tianyang's stick [clown]). When he was taken to "catch rice" when he first met Old Man Ding, he noticed that he didn't have a refrigerator. He gave it away and cleverly asked the old man to keep the refrigerator... There are so many things I want to praise, I hope you are so beautiful, expensive, bright, and a unique little sun [biting handkerchief]

Look at my IP! In fact, I just held up a small card to take pictures of Tim and Wangzai by the Qinhuai River. [Cat Claw] It's so cute.

The years are like this blessing, gentle and long [red heart]

That. Those who don't have postcards should not bother those who already have two postcards [bad laugh]

Always like so-and-so and Xiaomu