A Heart Blossoms in Two Places

Love should come with reservations; loving someone should never mean losing your dignity.

That dignity is the self-respect you preserve, and also a firm message to the other person: I am someone with principles.

Once someone loses their principles in love, the more they love the other person, the less likely they are to be cherished. That's just how people are: what they can't have keeps them restless, while those who are favored take that love for granted.

So in an intimate relationship, the worst thing you can do is love someone without any limits. In the end, this kind of love not only torments you, but also gives the other person an excuse to hurt you without restraint.