Me and I Are Finally Married

This book is based on the collective life experience of countless ordinary Chinese women, especially rural women, spanning decades. Their stories are often silenced under historical macroeconomics, but their tenacity, sacrifice and awakening are equally thrilling. Caught between tradition and modernity, how do individuals integrate their broken selves and establish inner order and value systems? Putting aside consumerism and slogans, how to practice "loving yourself" in the dual dilemma of material and spiritual life? This book attempts to give a simple and profound answer: just like raising a life, raise yourself patiently, professionally, and persistently. In extreme difficulties, maintain life and live with human dignity. Women's position and choices in the dramatic changes in family ethics and social concepts. How can personal pain not be reduced to scars, but transformed into resources for understanding oneself and empathizing with others. True wholeness is not about the perfection of external relationships, but about internal self-acceptance, valuing and integration. In the most daily and difficult life, persisting in not falling down, not being numb, and not losing feelings and hope is itself a kind of great resistance. This book is a love letter, marriage letter and declaration of independence written by an ordinary woman to herself. It is also a warm and firm letter written to all those who are walking in the mud about how to grow strength from within.