Out of Sight, Like a Mayfly

I felt really sad after watching it, and I really felt sorry for Xu Yao. His appropriateness, restraint, forbearance, strength, loneliness, and crying are all the reasons why I feel sad and sorry for him. When I first read this article, I couldn't understand Xu Yao. Didn't he hope that Jie Tingfu would come out after his death? Then why was he so entangled after reading Jie Tingfu and having a fiancée? Why do you still have to find ways to understand and avoid being his secretary? But then I understood, because I was from God's perspective. For us, we can see clearly, and naturally we cannot substitute. But for Xu Yao, before he died, he could only feel and see, and he was the only one in his heart. Although ten years had passed, for Xu Yao, it was just a matter of opening and closing his eyes. When he opened his eyes, he saw that his former lover had fallen in love with someone else, so he was understandably collapsed and sad. But Xu Yao's reason and restraint are what make us feel the most distressed about him, especially when we see that he couldn't help but want to kiss him and stop, and then slapped himself with his backhand. This is one of the most distressing parts for me (there are so many distressing things in this article, such as weddings, falling horses, asking for Buddhist beads, etc.). In the end, he can come out and be happy, which really makes me happy, because Xu Yao deserves it, and he deserves better. There is also Jie Tingfu, his relationship is also very tangled and complicated. He is the one who obviously walked out and made a girlfriend again, but he is still the one who is in a bad mood every snowy day and Christmas. But I don't think there is a problem. I can only say that Bai Yueguang is Bai Yueguang after all. But it is not so easy to heal. After all, I witnessed my lover dying little by little in my arms. This kind of pain, which I have not personally experienced and blame him for, makes me feel a little uncomfortable standing up and talking. However, because the core of the author is still reflected in Xu Yao, so even if I understand Xie Tingsu, I still feel more sorry for Xu Yao, because I think he suffered more suffering and grief than Jie Tingsu. Finally, I think the most sublime part of this book is be. If this book were not be, I would feel it was unreasonable and cliché. Wouldn't it be an ordinary book about rebirth and restoration after a broken mirror? It's not interesting. I think this ending is the most realistic. Xu Yao will not interfere, and Jie Tingming will not choose to break up with Zhang Nanyue because of Xu Yao's resurrection. This correct three views and this plain destination are the best arrangements. It fits the love in our real life very well, because there is a sentence in the book that is right, "Two people are each other's first love and their deep love that will never change. This is really too difficult." This article gave me more feelings than simply reading a novel. It made me understand a lot. As the author said in his words, "Time can heal everything." Everything that seems reasonable or unreasonable will gradually become normal as time goes by. Stable, nothing is impossible, so I really like this ending. Be is not the most important, the most important thing is a reasonable be, not a be that is simply tortured for the sake of torture or forced together for the sake of be. What I like is this kind of natural and natural be. In addition, my wife is really great, don't be discouraged, the writing is really good and delicate, but maybe the subject matter is so no one reads it. Don't belittle yourself, one day more people will see my wife!

From August to now, I have finally felt relieved about their misunderstandings and irreconcilable mistakes. In the process of relief, I imagined the different endings between Xu Jie and Xu countless times. I hated Zhang's appearance countless times, hated her for rushing to like Jie, and imagined the scene where Xie was extremely jealous when he saw Xu and his lover together but could only suppress it (maybe it was due to his controlled mentality and first love complex, and he always wanted everything to go smoothly). Up to now, the interpretation of the relationship between the four of them that I agree with is that there is love between Xu Xie and Zhang, and between Jie and Zhang: Zhang loves Jie (Zhang is a bit weak and humble in front of Jie, although I don't know the specific story between them, but if he didn't love Jie very much, I think Zhang would not be like this); Jie should love Zhang. You should probably like her (and after more than ten years of living together, she gradually evolved into one of the most important people in her life. I think the reasons why Xie chose to be with Zhang are very complicated. They may include commitment to her mother, the most suitable and appropriate choice after the death of her lover, gratitude to Zhang for saving her from pain, reconciliation with her parents and society, etc.). I always feel that love means hoping that the person you love will get better and better, and hope that he will be happy, safe and healthy, even if it is not given by himself (both Xie and Xu give me the feeling that love exceeds the desire for exclusivity, and Xie gives Xu a unique preference). And liking is a bit selfish and more self-interested (I feel that understanding and accepting Zhang is because Zhang loves him, cares and cares for him due to love, and he is reluctant to give up and leave after enjoying it. In addition, the correct three views make him responsible for this girl. If understanding is love for Zhang, then the two of them will not get married after being together for nearly five years, they will not be lost in front of Zhang, and they will not be in front of Zhang. After Shou's appearance, Zhang had a look on his face, and she would not keep Xu's house, photos and other things secretly. It can only be said that Xu was the first love of Bai Yueguang who died when she loved him the most. This filter was too thick, and Zhang couldn't break it and kept tossing it confidently. I think she actually understood Xu Zai's irreplaceable position in her heart, but she still chose Xie for various reasons). Human nature is very complex, and choices and decisions are different at different times and under different conditions. I have read in the comment area that Zhang Xiejie's spirit is somewhat disapproving of his wife. From the author's writing, it is obvious that Zhang knows the story of Xie and Xu. The three of them are all normal and morally responsible people. There is no such thing as Xu Xiehe hiding Zhang or anything. Zhang Xiehe finally spent the rest of his life together because of each other's three views after graduating from college. After fully maturing, the mutual choice was made due to various reasons. Maybe in the end, Zhang Zai knew that there were people who could not let go of Xie for the rest of her life, but she still chose Xie because her family situation was excellent, she had good grades and had a strong sense of responsibility and ambition. She had a person she loved deeply but he was dead and she was not considered a third party. So under the condition that she loved him, there was no doubt that she chose Xie. This was the best solution for her. But to sum up the whole text, I always firmly believe that Xie's feelings for Xu have always left a place for Xu in his heart. After all, he was the person he loved deeply when he was young, and the same is true for Xu. Whether it is the mutual acquaintance and love when they were young or the perseverance when they were seriously ill, they are worthy of his memory. Although time will dilute everything, the first heartbeat of youth is left to each other. How can it be easily diluted and erased? They may be relieved and accept the fact and ending that they can't be together in this life, but the heart that they will do their best to help each other if they encounter something is still there. Finally, I wish Xu Yao and Allen, Zhang Nanyue and Tingfu peace and joy in their world, and success in the rest of their lives. I hope that if they have the next life, they can grow old together with their loved ones and be united forever. I wish the author a flood of writing ideas and that the article will become more and more popular. (Finally, I want to say that this point of view is my reconciliation with this unforgettable novel after struggling for several months. It is only my own point of view. I also realized something from the author's article that the economic foundation determines the superstructure. If you have money, everything is not a problem. What kind of love do I want to have? No one can force me financially?)

Jie Tingfu didn't love Xu Yao so much. Xu Yao made it clear that Jie Tingfu had already gotten married and let go and started over again, and was unwilling to meet again after getting married 6 years later. Jie Tingfu accepted Zhang. As for his vows and the ring Xu Yao put on his hand, there are many ways to come out. He chose to accept others. Such him made me feel that if Xu Yao had not been sick, he and Xu Yao would not have come to the end. However, Xu Yao's death left a deeper impression on him. Xu Yao is the wind. Xu Yao was so sad when Pei said he shouldn't wake up. He woke up with joy. The author tried to highlight Xie's unforgettable feeling through Xie's self-destruction, but he chose to take off the beads and get married, which made his relationship with Xu Yao full of contradictions. To be honest, it was really contradictory. I can understand walking out, but I can't understand walking out after graduating from college. I think at least he accepted it after he entered the society and really experienced a lot.

I couldn't help but read it a second time. I felt that I was just looking for torture for myself, because I had watched it once before. The second time I saw the foreshadowing laid by some wives, it made me feel sad. I really didn't expect that as early as the second chapter, Xu Yao had already seen that there were no Buddhist beads on the wrist of Xu Yao. So as early as the first meeting between the two of them, Xu Yao had already anticipated the ending where he could only let go and give up voluntarily. TAT, it hurts even more when he thinks about it, and the more it hurts, the more distressed he is, because he is so sensible, and the only thing he does that is slightly out of line is to cherish his heart He had an impure motive to become the secretary of Jie Tingfu, but when he knew that Jie Tingfu was about to get married, he decisively forced himself to let go, and then went to write a letter of resignation. Wow, how can he be so sensible? Even when his friends were forcing him, he could only break his teeth and mix them with blood. When I swallowed it, my heart felt like a knife, but I didn't forget to maintain my acting skills and congratulate him with a smile, wishing him a happy marriage, a happy marriage, and a baby soon. And when I watched this part, I also thought of the lyrics of a song: Thank you for your special invitation to witness your love. Madam, do you have no heart? I'm going to cry to death! And madam, you are so good at sending out words. You used blessing words that symbolized good things but said the most heart-wrenching words. I still can't forget the words Xu Yao said to Jie Tingsheng, wishing you a bright future, a happy family, and a happy QAQ relationship. Fortunately, Xu Yao can have his own happiness in the end. However, the two of them are still really at odds. Jie Tingfu's compromise and surrender to the family when Xu Yao was ill, as well as his meticulous care for Xu Yao, and his pleading and persuasion to stay with Xu Yao before his death were really tear-jerking. So although the two of them ended up with someone else, their past was too unforgettable, and it's no wonder that Pei Zie said in the end that they were still obsessed with each other. However, Xu Yao's reconciliation is really just suitable for returning to the commonplace, and the broken relationship does not necessarily have to be reunited (and if the two of them finally get together, it will be a forced marriage, which is not reasonable at all). The reunion after a long separation may just bring about being strangers and passing each other. It really deserves to be called aesthetics. Sure enough, failure and regret are the best.

It's so sad, but the writing is much better than most authors! I don't like to read be's articles, so I read this article on a whim. I'm very lucky, it's very consistent with real life, and I can empathize with be. I don't know how the author wanted to write it, but my feeling after reading it in one go is: Jie still loves Xu deep in his heart. I believe that human feelings are limited. After such an unforgettable love, it is almost impossible to give the same level of love to a second person. Jie slowly cheered up after Xu left and slowly accepted Zhang. Does he love Zhang? I think it's love. But my true love was given to Xu. When he doubted Xu's identity later, he would test it because he was someone he loved deeply. But he is in love with Zhang now. As a person with normal views, Xie took responsibility and did not break up with Zhang to pursue his resurrected love. After Xie and Zhang got married, they had a long-term relationship and developed a family relationship and love with Zhang. Therefore, when hearing about Xu's love life, there would only be a little fluctuation. Human feelings are very complicated. Who says that people can only love one person? Everyone has done nothing wrong. They all stick to their moral bottom line and are serious and responsible people for their feelings. The mistake is just the wrong timing. It touched me deeply. Both Xu Hehe and Xu Hehe are good children, and it is precisely because they are so good that it is regrettable. Just like our lives, not all true love can be cultivated. If you have a true love, please cherish it and treat this relationship well. This may be the strongest love in your life.

After reading the whole book, I found that the most sadistic character was not Jie, but Pei Yusheng. The various reactions to the explanation are all normal as written by the author. Pei Yusheng was forced to accept the wedding like a lunatic, and had gone beyond the boundaries of being friends (not that the behavior itself was right or not, but his method, which was like a feudal patriarch). Also, the author has never said directly whether Jie loves Zhang Nanyue or not. The most likely answer is that he doesn't. Everyone who mentions Zhang, including Zhang himself, says that he opens the door to understanding and helps Jie get out. It's kindness, not love. The author's article is emotionally complicated and contradictory. Perhaps the author subconsciously believes that the deep love of life and death cannot be replaced, and walking away from it does not mean that you will love again. The prerequisite for coming out is also because the lover died. How many times can a person have love at all costs in his life? Not too much.

It felt like even if Shou Jian was healthy and alive, they would not be able to make it to the end. Shou's leukemia and death made their young love stronger, and Shou's rebirth made it more painful. But aside from these dramatic elements, their love was actually just that.

After reading many long comments in the comment area, they are sincere. My personal selfishness is that I hope that Xie can attend Xu's wedding, and that he is not very calm (but in this case, Xu's reconciliation will not be a real relief, and it is unfair to Zhang and Allen. In fact, I feel that the real relief is Jie, not Xu. If he really came out with Zhang's care, he would not have a violent incident when it snows on Christmas. I am irritable and irritable, but when I see snow, I am stunned, and then I think of him without being angry... If I write a side story about Allen and Xu in the future, I hope that Allen is a sunny and cheerful boy, and there can be no shadow of Xie on him. I was deeply touched by the last words of the author. Everyone is right, but it is a mistake, so the feelings of Xu Xie and Xie when they were young can only be kept in their hearts as a memory.

I stayed up late to catch up. In fact, I read an article written by a wife a long time ago. She was in a car accident and woke up eight years later with a new love. But then I was forced to do it, and I always felt very sorry. This was not the story I wanted to see. In my heart, I have always felt that such a reunion should eventually become dull, so I have been looking for such a story. After... Uh, nine years, I finally found him! Although it is a rebirth story, the setting is different, but it is already very satisfying! The writing style of Dada is great. The alternating narrative comparison between the past and the present gives people a more intuitive emotional collision, but there is a lack of words. In short, come on Dada, come on, it's really great!

Really enjoyed this article!!!!!!! After reading this article, I often think that no matter how strong the love is, one day it will really become thinner due to time. Even if it exists, it will be so embarrassing compared to the past. But my hope is only mine. From the moment the people in the book were born, they also have their own consciousness, their own character, and their own way of life. I can't control or change them. And my Xu Yao is a very strong person. He can fall in love with someone without hesitation when he was a boy. Then when he comes back and finds out everything, he will quickly cut through the trouble and do what he thinks is right. But this really makes me feel sorry for him. But it turns out that he has begun to accept another relationship, and slowly he can accept the existence of another person, marry her, have children, grow old together, and slowly begin to have the only lover in this life. I still want to cry when I think about it. Lovers cannot get married in the end. They love each other but have to separate. When they meet again, they are already passers-by.