Writing a Wife

A private message asked a question that I have been thinking about for a long time, and many people have asked this question before - why are Xiaobai and Lao Li obviously HE, but the process of watching it is so sad? Yes, sad, maybe a little aggrieved. Mainly because the author was in a state of wrenching sadness during that period, so the sense of substitution became concrete. I remember that during the writing process, some book friends raised questions. Although there is no absolute contradiction between the male and female protagonists, where does Xiaobai's inexplicable hatred for Lao Li come from? I looked back specifically at that time and found that indeed, there were not many conflicts between the two of them on the surface. The original intention of getting together was also very simple, which was to use each other and there should be no hatred. Haha, so the author is looking for a contradiction, but the contradiction between the two cannot be found from the intuitive world, because the difference in status between the two is too great for there to be a contradiction. Xiaobai at that time, and even Xiaobai later, was not enough to be Lao Li's problem - this is the reality, and this is the saddest thing about Xiaobai, but she can't blame others, because the source is herself. Her initial choice caused this result, and she can only bear the consequences herself - this is the rule of the adult world. Since we cannot find contradictions from the intuitive world, we can only create them from the deep and inner world, regarding class and dignity. Although Xiaobai has always framed herself with indifference and self-mockery, she still can't hide her true nature. She is actually a person with a very strong self-esteem, and is stubborn, decisive, and at the same time very smart, so smart that she is a little conceited, which prompted her to choose this path. Can you say that her original purpose was just to see her niece? It should be more than just that, right? Her self-esteem must have suffered a big blow when she watched her only relative being played with, abandoned, and her niece taken away. What happened to her sister even gave her nightmares as an adult. But this "little" blow also made her understand some truths. For example, people of their background cannot get real peace in that social state, and no one is willing to really help them. What thoughts did she have before entering Li's house? Ever wanted a little revenge? Have you ever thought about helping your niece or even taking her away when she is having a bad time? Looking at the blood mark on her hand when she met Li Jidong after entering the house, we can see some clues that she has experienced it. From a planning point of view, she was lucky. She was lucky enough to meet Lao Li from that period - an ambitious power grabber who had just returned to Hanbei and was under attack from internal and external powers. If it were Lao Li in any other period, the two of them would not have crossed paths - just looking at Lao Li's future backyard, we can see that the education of Li's parents was still very effective in terms of personal issues, and Lao Li did not have too many deviations in his personal ethics. This is also the reason why the Li family's parents were not overly defensive against Xiaobai, because they guessed Xiaobai's true identity - a chess piece. For children raised by themselves, parents are still somewhat sure of their character. Of course, there are also temptations, such as the first child that Lao Li and Xiao Bai had no chance of meeting. It's just that when I wrote this, I felt it was too hurt, so I was a little selfish - I still wanted to give Xiaobai a little more kindness. So she didn't let Zhao take action. Putting herself in his shoes, it was really difficult for her to do this. Zhao is still kind-hearted. In the struggle between her son and politics, she finally chose her son. This is also the real reason why Xiaobai is grateful and always respects Zhao - when she chooses her son, she also gives Xiaobai a respect. This is the first respect Xiaobai has received in the Li family. She hates evil as much as she hates it, and she also repays kindness, so she has always respected Zhao for the rest of her life. But Lao Li, who is well versed in political struggles, has doubts about his parents. He has no choice but to do so. He was raised by his parents as the heir of Hanbei. He has been immersed in the alliance and opposition between the Li and Zhao families since he was a child. How could he not understand their thoughts and methods. Faced with the news of Xiaobai's miscarriage, the silence of the family of three seemed so ridiculous and sad. Husband and wife, father and son, mother and son were all suspicious. And this ridiculous scene has continued into Lao Li's marriage. His marriage to his cousin Zhao Nuying is basically a replica of his parents' marriage, and it is also a very normal marriage relationship in his perception. That is, he does not think that husband and wife must be the closest alliance, so the Zhao sisters in the Hexia Palace will never become his Xiemapo. He has always regarded Nuying as his sister rather than his wife, perhaps out of projection of his feelings for his mother. He hopes that her mother is just his relative, not the spokesperson of the Zhao family's power. He is a victim and also a perpetrator, so he lets Zhao Nuying have her way in life and tolerates all her little tempers, but is this useful to Zhao Nuying? No! He knew it, but there was nothing else he could do to compensate. The second lady asked him: How did you endure it when you were with us? His answer: Find something to focus on. He has always been so honest and disgusting, but not intentionally, because this is his life. Doesn't Ms. Zhao understand her son's thoughts? You should understand, right? And efforts have been made to mend the relationship between mother and son. For example, accept Xiaobai. There are several comparison groups here, namely the old princess and Yue Zitong. Both of them are relatively orthodox aristocratic women who do not bully others casually. Although they do not show obvious disgust towards Xiaobai, they are not very warm either. But Zhao, who was born in the same family, was not like that. Compared with those people, she could be said to be very kind to Xiaobai, and she gave her very gentle comfort when she was most sad. She loved the stranger she met for the first time. Therefore, in the second half of her life, she gradually gained affection from her son instead of simple respect. Moreover, her son also gave her grandson to be educated, which made up for her family happiness, and she did not follow the same path as her son in educating her grandson. Abang's affection for his parents was far better than that of Lao Li. Let's digress here and talk about Lao Li's four children. These four children were raised by different people. Abang was raised by the Zhao family, the eldest daughter and the youngest son were raised by the Zhao sisters. Only Luoluo was raised by Xiaobai and Lao Li. Although the four people have different personalities, they are all good in character and conduct (there are extra stories about the four in Luo Hua's book), which shows that the people who raised them have put in a lot of effort. Who does Lao Li like the most? There is no doubt that it was Luoluo, so Luoluo eventually became the person who controlled the entire family. Under such doting, they were able to raise their youngest daughter, which shows that Lao Li and Xiao Bai put a lot of effort into it - this comes from the later Luo Hua genealogy, and they did not consider so much when writing about the wife. Let's talk about Xiaobai and Lao Li. In the early stages of the relationship between the two, it can be said that Xiaobai was on the defensive on one side, because Lao Li didn't have much defense against her from the beginning to the end? Who would be on guard against ants? That's right, Ant, this was Xiaobai's original identity. When Lao Li decided to overturn the in-law relationship between Li and Yue, she happened to be in front of him, and all of her conditions met the requirements. During this period, Lao Li had just returned to the north of Han Dynasty. There were brothers, uncles and nephews fighting for power at home, and powerful enemies outside. He needed something to take the initiative. Putting down his marriage to Yue Zitong would not only attract the attention of the family bosses, but also make preliminary arrangements for "steaming", so he brought Xiaobai into the palace. One stone stirred up a thousand waves, and the family members actually took advantage of Xiaobai's matter to attack him, which successfully attracted the attention of the family bosses. The old man, King Bei, couldn't help scolding his son in his heart. He had been holding back in the capital for so many years, but you taught him such a lewd thing? After attracting attention, there was a series of external output by Lao Li. The methods were so tyrannical that the descendants of Lao Li's family who were used to being beaten were dumbfounded. Is this guy reading too many villain books? How can you revitalize the family by doing so many things that are just trying to make a fool of yourself? This was suicide, so he pounced on and bit him even more ferociously. This biting continued until Li Jidong, who had decided to rule the princes, after all, no one could have imagined where the end point of Li Bozhong's goal was? Every time you go up a step, you won't even have a chance to breathe, and you will immediately attack the next step. Even a thousand-year-old bull spirit can't bear such torture. Therefore, there is never a shortage of fans around Lao Li, let alone opponents. Therefore, there was no emotional exchange between him and Xiaobai in the early days. If there was any, it could only be regarded as a little fun of conquest between men and women. The turning point came from a piece of music - Qing Ping Qu. After so many years, Lao Li still remembers that piece of music, and always thinks that Xiao Bai's is the best. Can it be bad? That is Xiaobai's revenge, revenge on those who caused the tragedy of her life, and accuse them of their shame. Although ants are weak, they are still alive. Before writing that chapter, I listened to many songs, and finally chose Jiang Shuna's "Laughing and Talking for Life". If you are interested, you can listen to it. The entire chapter was completed in this song. After finishing, he gave Xiaobai three rounds of applause with Lao Li's hand - Good scolding, you guys who don't care about production, think you are noble, and treat people like ants, how can you have the face to look down on others? Xiaobai has always been sad and angry about her lowly status as a singer, but at this banquet, facing those who wanted to make her look embarrassed, she suddenly understood that she was not lowly, but those who caused misery to all living beings. This sudden enlightenment affected her for the rest of her life. In the second half of her life, she was always very kind to people of the same background as herself, such as Tong's sister-in-law, Qin Quan's biological mother, and the traffickers and pawns that Lao Li met in Qinchuan. This kind of kindness was not warm in words, but looked at level, and she no longer had the mentality of watching a movie as Lao Li said. She could live a good life in the "folk", that was her world, so on that stormy night, she ran into the darkness without looking back. It took a long time for her to fall in love with Lao Li, because in her heart, she no longer felt that she was a dwarf. In Xiaobai's case, the emotion after equality is love. In her heart, she became an equal, so she gradually stopped acting in many interactions after that. After the chaos in the capital, and when her niece was almost involved in the war, she yelled and beat Lao Li. How could she still be like the flattering concubine before? We are like a pair of partners. I have worked so hard to cooperate with you, but you have not kept your promise, so I ask you whether I should fight? Lao Li showed her the battlefield at the foot of the mountain. He tried hard, but failed. So the two losers fell silent - they were still too naive. You think you are smart, you think you work hard, you are smart and hardworking, shouldn't you succeed? ——The first lesson in life, being smart and working hard does not equal success. Xiaobai knelt down and worshiped the gods and Buddhas for the first time after the chaos in the capital. Lao Li was standing behind her. Who are you kneeling for? For the lives lost. From here on, there is an emotional bond between them? But at this time, the Zhao sisters came. The Zhao family played an important role in helping Lao Li gain power. When he went to the capital for the first time, Zhao Nuying's brother introduced Fang Xing's master and apprentice in private, and the two discussed how to "divide the spoils." It's a pity that Lao Li was not very good at the beginning and behaved very disobediently, so he suffered his first big defeat later. That was the Zhao family beating him up, asking him to act like a beggar when begging for food, and telling him not to speak human words when he was a dog. Lao Li's fortune came from his uncle's family, so he joined forces with and opposed Lao Zhao's family until his death. Every time Lao Zhao's family beat him, the timing was very good. It was so good that Lao Li was so anxious and itchy with hatred, but he had to struggle to deal with it. There was no other way. This is what power confrontation is like. Just like Xiaobai meets him again, whether he wants it or not is secondary, the key is not getting rid of it. But being unable to get rid of it does not mean that you have to accept your fate. In this regard, Xiaobai and Lao Li are very similar. After getting the chance, Xiaobai fled into the darkness without looking back, and became her slave safely. I personally like this very much about her. After tasting the rich food and clothing, she can still live a simple life with stable emotions. I really want to give her a thumbs up. The most powerful thing about a person is not how capable he is, but the courage to start over at any time. This quality of hers was discovered by Lao Li when they met again. Another place that looks like him. Speaking of which, these two people are both narcissistic, and they like copies of themselves. After meeting again, Lao Li's attitude was different from before. From here on, they were just communication between two people. One no longer pretends, the other is honest. Lao Li told Xiaobai more than once - you tell me, I will listen. And spent the rest of his life fulfilling his promise. He knew that Xiaobai always had doubts about him. After all, it was difficult for people from two worlds to understand each other. What I admire about Lao Li is that he doesn't force himself to understand things he doesn't understand, nor does he force others to understand him. Just like he didn't understand that Xiaobai "sold" himself easily just to "take care" of his niece. In his world view, such a thing did not exist, but he did not make any further comments because Xiaobai said that "we" and "you" are two different sets of rules. Further back, Abang came. Here, Xiaobai worshiped the gods and Buddhas again. The first time I prayed was for my lost life, this time I prayed for my murderous intention. Both times, the executors were novices, but the essence was the embodiment of Lao Li's mentality. The first time was to mourn the soldiers, and the second time was to pay tribute in advance for the upcoming massacre. From here on, Lao Li never put down the sword in his life. The growth of men is very different from that of women. Women often grow step by step, while men often grow up in an instant. When I wrote this article, I happened to experience one, so I was particularly touched. When Xiaobai asked him: Where to go back? Lao Li, who thought he had power, held his son in one hand and Xiaobai in the other, but found that he couldn't even protect his own woman and child. It couldn't be said to be a slap in the face, it was simply a slap in the face. And this was not the only slap in the face. As he took over Hanbei, more and more crises were approaching, including his brother's rebellion, the chaos in the backyard, and the Zhao family's beatings. So much so that Xiao Bai, who had never interfered with Li Zhai's affairs, had to "pull" him, just like Xiao Bai's gentle tug when he was beaten in the palace. The icing on the cake is never as good as the timely help. After a series of crises hit him head-on, Lao Li finally gathered his strength and began to implement the challenge he made in front of the gods and Buddhas. He saved the little emperor with half his life. (In Luo Hua's book, Yue Yinan mentioned this section when recalling it. In the blood and fire, Old Li took off his armor and wrapped the little emperor. What a beautiful picture of a loyal minister and good general - but in the end it was discovered that he was a villain!) It was also here that Xiaobai's feelings for Lao Li finally sublimated and evaporated, and no matter how thick the plastic film was, they couldn't hide it. She actually went against the whole world for him. The two people's attitudes towards this sublimation were completely opposite. Lao Li smiled happily, but Xiao Bai cried profusely. Lao Li was happy that she could no longer escape, while Xiao Bai was sad that she could no longer lie to herself. She has hated people like Lao Li from the beginning to the end. It is people like them who have caused misery to all living beings, so she has always regarded them as enemies. But now she has fallen in love with her enemies. How ridiculous. The emotional progress has reached this point, and their story is coming to an end. Qin Chuan can be regarded as a gift to them. Lao Li cultivates his moral character here, thinks about his own position in life, and makes preliminary plans for the rest of his life and the future of the Li family. It was originally a gift to the two of them, but in the end it became a gift to the author himself. Unexpectedly, it led to so many stories in later generations. Many people said that this article is too short, why not make it longer? The tone of the entire article is one of hardship. The author himself couldn't bear it if it was too long. This article can be regarded as a journey of self-redemption for the author. Before that, the author had a chemical pregnancy without knowing it, and her grandmother passed away the next day. She was not too sad at the moment. Who would have thought that grief would be so painful after delay. Looking back now, thinking about the unbeatable qualities of Xiao Bai and Lao Li, it must have been hinting to myself at the time, right? I received many private messages from friends saying that they liked this article. Thank you all very much. I also received a lot of unfavorable comments. For example, Xiaobai's identity is very sensitive. I also accept criticism on this point. It is indeed to create conflicts and set various restrictions on the characters. It is not easy to create conflicts between two smart people who know how to give in and make progress. The logic must be smooth and the words must be justified. Class opposition was the only thing that felt appropriate at that time, so Xiaobai's identity was tragic. But I've written it all, if you don't like it, just change the category and read it. I will try my best to make some reminders in the copywriting in the future. Well, here comes the question at the beginning of the next article. To be honest, I don't know either. In the early years, I wrote as I pleased. Because there were so many things to express, I dug holes very quickly. But as I get older, it becomes a little harder to write. You have to first find your favorite genre and favorite characters, and then choose a perfect time to start the story.

I have been reading this book for almost 10 years, and recently I couldn't help but read it again. Every time I reach the last chapter, I always feel my scalp numb and filled with emotions. People who read books always want to stay in the best moments, and they can't accept that it is their children who tell me the ending in the end. It seems that when the news came from a close friend, it was already the next year when the bones were buried in the loess and the grass grew wild, making it difficult for me to express my feelings. He was caught off guard and received a sap blow. Fortunately, they all got what they wanted, which was the only thing that could comfort them when they dreamed back at midnight.

If you expand on how the male protagonist seeks to achieve dominance in life, it will really be a standard male video article. The number of first partners (specifically refers to the male protagonist, there is no requirement for the female protagonist) Because the author wants to create a perfect image of a heroic lover in troubled times for female readers, and depict a dreamy love story in which the male and female protagonists overcome the disparity in status and against the turbulent background of the current situation, so as to satisfy women's yearning for ideal love. In this aspect, the author is actually very successful. But the male protagonist is a practitioner of polygamy. In the ancient world view, this kind of marriage system is of course normal. But as educated modern people, how can we accept it? As a female channel serving women, the female protagonist actually makes the heroine the winner of polygamy. It does not write about the pain of women in it, but uses "beautiful love" to cover this suffering. It is unrealistic to have a powerful, rich, handsome and affectionate man, not to mention that such a man would even fall in love with and promote a "ge Ji" whose status is unequal in a feudal society. Since it is already unrealistic, why not be unrealistic to the end and set it to 1v1. Everything in this article is good, except that the male protagonist is a practitioner of polygamy. The setting that the female protagonist becomes the winner of polygamy only by relying on the "love" of the male protagonist is really appetizing. The life trajectory of the second heroine. The heroine's whole life seems to be waiting for the hero to join her. Whether it's blessings or misfortunes, most of the joys, sorrows and joys are caused by the hero. The main line of life will always have the shadow of the hero. On the other hand, the male protagonist actually has his own main plot, and being with the female protagonist is just a branch plot of his life. This situation is actually similar to most male-oriented works nowadays. The female protagonist has no growth trajectory of her own at all because of the love needs of the male protagonist, while the male protagonist has his own main line of life. After reading through it, I can only lament why women are obsessed with "love" and why they deify the "love" brought by men so much that women themselves are willing to give up themselves and become a small part of men. These are some of my thoughts after reading it. I would like to thank the author for writing such a wonderful article. It also made me feel that what women yearn for is love and what men need is the true meaning of love. It's a bit messy, but in the end I hope women can find the main line of their lives and regard love as a small branch line of life.

I prepared myself mentally before reading it, but after reading it I felt very empty and melancholy... It's so well written! Although I generally prefer to watch some reasonably written ancient dramas about strong women, and don't like to watch Qiao Musiluo's shelter and dependence relationship, I have to admit that what appeals to me the most is how ancient novels describe the shackles of women, whether they are those who struggle with blood to break through the shackles, or those who try to live out their own comfortable world within the shackles. Downplaying this shackles actually loses the charm of reading ancient novels, and also makes the portrayal of male characters flat. Bai Qing and Li Bozhong are both trapped people, but women's shackles are always heavier and more involuntary. It's hard to evaluate Bai Qing's happiness, and it's hard to say whether you are happy for them or sad for them after watching it. The author sometimes writes about their care and concern for each other in just a few strokes, which is really touching. It is a light but very sincere feeling. I felt even more melancholy when I saw the silent chapter. It was 2008...

I still can't accept that men have company while women wait alone. Because I can't do it haha.

Wow, the extra episode is so awesome, it's so heart-wrenching! From chess pieces to off the chessboard, it takes generations of a surname and decades or even centuries of planning. It's so true. The glory of a surname is actually countless battles of blood and fire. This is the real reason why ancient aristocratic families can stand firm. Seeing this, I suddenly felt relieved that Li Bozhong did not ascend to the throne of God in the end. As he said, what he did was neither unprecedented nor unprecedented.

I read Niangzi because I was curious after watching Wuyi Lane. I have a preconceived idea, and I don't like Wu Zizhao very much. From the time Li Bangwu was born to seeing him grow up, I had the mentality of an old mother. I read the ending of the princes, so I felt that Wu Zizhao actually didn't love Li Bangwu, which made people angry (laughing and crying). But maybe Wu Zizhao himself is very charming, otherwise he wouldn't be able to charm the capital. I don't dare to read the princes, and I feel extremely sad just after reading the ending. My wife's writing style is very good, and the style of this series is very big, but I think Wuyixiang is suitable for me. It is a sweet and sweet life for two people. It is so comfortable to read the novel. I hope my wife can write more articles like Wu Yi Lane

I read this article many years ago but don't remember the title, but I was deeply impressed by the plot, especially the utopia that the hero built for the heroine—the home on Mapo. He built an ideal place in troubled times, and it is within my power to protect my ideal family, love, and family here. In my eyes, it can be regarded as the ultimate romance in troubled times.

This ancient poem is really refreshing. The writing style, characters, and troubled times are all very special. It was actually written more than ten years ago. Although I will be a little hesitant after reading it, it is indeed a masterpiece.

Nice. But the whole text is just a touch of sadness