Meeting Her

I am sincerely grateful to the author who has presented so many women's stories, grateful to have met the sisters in the comment section, and grateful to have come across this book. In fact, I have been looking for this book for a long time, ever since I realized that I was molested by my neighbor's elders in my childhood. But in the past, what I wanted to see was that the heroine used violence to fight violence, succeeded in revenge, and paid tribute to her former self with the blood of her enemies. My hatred is really hard to get rid of, and as I grow older, I have a deeper understanding of the memory of being molested. I understand better why that beastly senior molested me in the middle of the night when I was only seven or eight years old at the time, and why my mother and father chose to maintain a harmonious relationship with them despite knowing this. I'm disgusted, I hate it. I wish I could stab him and smash him, and I hate that I didn't kick him when I was a kid. (But I didn't understand at all when I was a child. I would always wake up in the middle of the night, looking at the huge black shadow above my body that covered the sky and the earth, and then drifted off to sleep. I didn't understand what he was doing by touching me and rubbing me. And I can't recall my mood at the time. I felt like an NPC in a patriarchal society at that time. When that beast crushed me with physical power, his reading bar kept showing experience points +1 +1 +1. I think I had no thoughts at that time and was just a plaything of the patriarchal society. I really hate it.) I have been tearing open and licking the wounds of the past over and over since I grew up, so that I can continue to fight and live. But sometimes it's really tiring, and I know clearly that I can't take revenge on him personally. (It's impossible to do it. It's been too long, there is no evidence, and it's impossible to collect evidence. He molested him in his sleep again. And the funny thing is that he is a good judge who is praised by everyone in our county. Only by constantly reminding myself of that memory can I always remember, always remember what happened to me, remember the authenticity of the experience, and remember myself. If I forget, then who can come to save "me".) I know that I can't take revenge personally and can only maintain the illusion of harmony with that disgusting couple, so I eagerly see another way, a bloody, extreme, happy, and destructive revenge. I feel that only in that way can I save myself. But I didn't find such a book. By chance, I came across this book - another choice. It is a powerful, endlessly empowering, healing choice, completely different from the destructive choice I imagined of dying together. But only the former can live well. I realized that I not only carried my own hatred, but also had the responsibility to change the situation of women. The most important thing is that it is a great good to change one's own predicament and live a positive life. It is a great good to have a personal example that empowers thousands of women. In a patriarchal society, I think women are just such a group - when individual women break through, they can feed back to the entire group. If my experience can help others and give them strength, then it can be regarded as helping me and giving me a boost. If you sometimes see yourself not as a single individual bearing hatred, but as a member of a group oppressed by structural violence, you will be full of motivation and enthusiasm for change. Women are such a powerful and resilient group. I would like to thank the author and all the sisters for allowing me to think through a lot and vent the resentment that has been raging for more than ten years.

I literally cried the whole time while watching it. It was a coincidence that I came across such an article during this time. Just a few days ago, I participated in a debate based on a video of the Marseille rape case. The debate started with a comment: The poster's comment was that don't blame the victim for not being brave, because we live in a society where many people still have the concept of chastity. Many victims feel ashamed and are unable to speak out due to mental constraints. She said that she was born in a big city, her parents both had university degrees, her mother had a higher income, and she was an only child. Her parents had no reason not to help her. However, after she mustered up the courage to ask her parents for help and said that she had been raped by an acquaintance of theirs, her request for help was still rejected and suppressed by her parents. This led to her feeling that her sexual assault experience made her ashamed for more than ten years. It was only as she grew older that she realized it was not her fault after seeing the traumatic experiences shared by other women who had been sexually assaulted. She felt that she had made a good start, but she was still limited by this situation in the end, so she thought that many girls would be bound, so she shared her experience in the hope of encouraging others. The person initially accused the poster of referring to others, and expanded the meaning to say that she was generalizing, saying that as a male, she had never seen such a thing. I said that no girl would suddenly say to a male classmate when she was growing up, "Did you know that I have experienced sexual assault/molestation?" Even from the perspective of statistical theory around him, it would be difficult for him to use his own experience as a counterexample to refute other people's generalizations. In my reply, I mentioned some sexual assault/molestation incidents that I have experienced, witnessed, and been told about. I mentioned that when my mother was in kindergarten, there was a male teacher who molested little girls in the kindergarten for a long time and many times. It was not until my mother told my grandfather about this incident that he beat that person up, and that person left the job. My point of view and that of the original poster are that many people are still ashamed to speak up or think that not speaking up is a way to protect girls. What we emphasize is just the prevalence of molestation and sexual assault and the difficulty in safeguarding rights. What we emphasize has always been the existence of molestation/sexual assault and the existence of backward concepts, not that molesters are all men and bystanders are all men. The poster's experience is about father and mother. I said that my grandpa helped my mother. I also replied many times that no one said that all men are qjf/wxf/protectors, but he kept saying that we cannot say that men are all criminals. According to our statement, he can also say that the persecutors of men by qj are all women, so he can also say that women are all criminals, and repeatedly He attacked me many times, saying that it was not his fault that I was molested or witnessed molestation as a seven- or eight-year-old left-behind child with no sexual knowledge. It was because we did not collect evidence or go to the police. He always blamed and denied my pain, claiming that all my pain was caused by myself. He also said that the things I said were collected from nowhere and processed. But at the same time, he kept patching himself up with angry and justified words. At first he said that he had never seen it, and then he said, "Are you blind? Didn't you see it?" I said that I asked my girlfriend and female colleagues, and they all said they had never seen it. Then he said that he received millions of people a year, and there were one or two obscene incidents among them, but there was no man who did not help. I really couldn't understand and communicate with him, and I felt that his condescending accusations would only hurt everyone who passed by who had traumatic experiences, so I reported him.

With tears in my eyes, women who are surrounded and suppressed by men in society have two paths. One is to rise up and resist, even if they are scarred, they will never give in; the other is to be assimilated and become the demons who suppress and oppress women. We must stay awake, maintain women's dominant position and independent spirit, and fight to the end to safeguard women's rights. The efforts of generations of women will ultimately promote the advancement of social concepts and social security!

Heavy rain falls, women rise

Hello, I read this book today. Because it was downloaded and read locally using a reading screen, the reading time in Jinjiang is not fully displayed. Thank you for creating this story. Thank you. Thank you for letting me see so many specific people. Thank you for letting me see a tough, powerful and determined Melu. I love you. After reading it, I said to myself that I would stop all wrong cycles from myself. My mother, grandmother, and aunts all have the shadow of the women in the article. I have also been told since I was a child that I should be like a girl, but the girl they talk about is that she must be virtuous, otherwise her husband's family will say that we have not taught her well. It's funny, a little girl, even when her husband's family doesn't know what she is, is already considered not to be from this family. But I know that I can realize their shortcomings because I am lucky enough to read. So I often feel that I "shouldn't be so condescending", and I sympathize with them. But now I am determined not to pull out those who cannot be pulled out. The worldview they firmly believe in is not so easily influenced. The first thing I can do is to stop the wrong cycle from me. I swear to stop the cycle of error from me. Mei Lulu also made me determined that I should value my own life, my own time, my own energy, and do what I love. Just like Mei Lulu has become a great judge. I love her, I love you, I love the female characters who give me strength. Thank you, I see so many female role models. I love you all

Da Da, you are great. You are Mei Lu Lu. Your novels have awakened many women and made more people pay attention to women's rights and pursue equality. Let's work together. I wish Da Da will get better and better. I love you.

Madam, I hope you are happy

What a powerful book. I love Mei Lu Lu, Wen Fang, Dongfang Ying, and every woman who is constantly struggling to make progress.

A very sincere and powerful article, truly written with a sword to write down the world. Several times I read the words and my eyes got wet. Sakura was really upset [ bursting into tears ] [ bursting into tears ] I hope everyone is well and the world they expected will eventually come.

Teacher Chengnan, you wrote so well. Although I have not experienced such a dark period, I still feel the same from your article. I hope that the future world will give girls more and more love. They really deserve it! Finally, I hope this book will never be blocked and give more girls the strength to move forward!