In the Midst of an Argument

Damn, you should be married, and have a very cute child. They probably forgot about us too.

Yes. I always feel like my head is big. I was rejected every time, but this time I met a good partner again. They talked about all kinds of things and it was very uncomfortable, what about the life I had planned. Getting married means giving up. Thinking, waiting, and always feeling that only those who are strong can have equal say. Only then will people take the things you say that are not children's words seriously. Suddenly, it's quite uncomfortable sometimes. If I don't get married, wouldn't I be a human being? To be so disgusting. Try again, give yourself time, and stick to it if you have the ability to achieve your goals. If you can't, just choose this stable life. Not wanting to get married has a lot to do with personality. Everyone has the same problem, and the way to deal with it is the same. I prepare very early. I have had the idea of ​​not getting married since junior high school. In the end, we are all afraid. Human nature is really just like this. Now we understand that we have seen too many truths and have lost our courage. All I feel is trouble!

One time I told my mother that I didn't want to get married yet. What should I do if she quarrels with me when I have children? My mother said, you don't quarrel with me every day, so I told the truth.

Life is a process of choice. If you choose to compromise or persist, you will probably only hurt your loved ones and yourself. No matter who comes out on top in the end, they will injure the enemy by one thousand and lose eight hundred. In fact, there is no winner at all. Life seems to be very short, but in fact it is also very long. The stubbornness at this time may not be the same then. Don't say too much and don't overdo things.

It seems that many people have such troubles. It is really difficult to make your parents accept your view of not getting married, so you can only do it slowly. If you quarrel with your parents over this topic, it would be arrogant and hurtful. Parents also think about their children. If you have such an idea and want to put it into practice, you really need to prepare in advance. By the way, when I was very young, I imagined what would happen to me when I got old. I also thought about whether I would die young, and whether it would be easier if I died when I was not very old. Of course, if you are so lucky and can meet someone you want to spend your life with in the future, that would also be great. After all, we still have a lot of time, and no one can say for sure what will happen in the future.

Sure enough, it is right to prepare in advance. I have not wanted to get married for a long time. When I first had this idea, I said it in a joking tone. Then it gradually became more and more true, and the parents slowly accepted it. It seems that it has been said for almost four or five years, right? From the beginning I didn't believe it to now I don't object to it very much. It is indeed a good method. You should work hard too! You will gradually accept it

Last night, I also encountered the same problem as you My parents began to pay attention to my marriage problems Specifically pointed out the neighbor's sister who married late as a negative example However, I don't want to get married either. My parents' marriage makes me panic. I don't want my future life to be tied to another person with a marriage certificate. But parents don't agree I don't want to quarrel, I know how pitiful the hearts of parents in the world are but i'm tired I'm scared Thinking about the foreseeable future where there will be disputes I can't help myself from thinking that it would have been better if I hadn't been born. I'm scared and tired This is a problem where there is no way to talk to anyone and get comfort. I have never been a strong person Facing such inevitable problems maybe someday in the future I'm really going crazy

This feeling is so real, so real that it makes me cry The difference is that I didn't quarrel with them. I can't quarrel with others, not to mention they are my parents. In fact, they don't know why I haven't been able to find my other half. On the one hand, I want freedom and the habit of being single, and I don't want anyone to take care of me. On the other hand, the deeper reason is because of their marriage. My distrust and fear of marriage started at a very young age. What they don't know is that I have been married since I was a child. Since junior high school, I can only stand at a certain distance to interact with people. For a long time, no matter how much I like a boy, I can't take any step forward. When I get close to a certain distance, I will push the person away. If I want to spread myself naked in the sun, it is too difficult. I have no choice in that kind of insecure situation.

I also know that it's impossible not to get married, but I don't want to get married either. It has nothing to do with preferences, it's just me being lazy. I'm afraid of the pain of giving birth to a child, the trouble of falling in love, the trouble of raising a child, and the strangeness and uneasiness of getting along with the opposite sex. I don't want an unstable life, and I don't want a future that's too troublesome. I know that without a child, I will have no one to die with, but if I want to have a child with someone, I would rather have no one to die with. Nine times out of ten things in life will be unsatisfactory. I can't predict the future, so I can only muddle along. I don't want to fall in love with anyone, because I don't want to get married at all, and I don't want to interact too much with outsiders. One or two close friends, three or two chat friends, some classmates and friends, and unique parents and brothers are enough. My heart is not big enough to accommodate only a few people who can impress me.

Alas, we are all spoiled post-80s, confused post-80s, poor post-80s`````