Roses and Braised Pork

Passivity itself is also a choice. Things may go in a good direction or a bad direction. If you don't stop the bad direction, it is equivalent to making things move away from the good direction. Passivity is another form of initiative. Li and Shen are people who stand at the two ends of passivity and initiative, and lucky Xiao Gu stands in the middle. Fortunately, this rope is elastic, no matter how they slide and flow, sooner or later they will become the helmsman of their own lives. Xiao Li's departure is not the end but a new beginning I am happy to see that Xiao Gu has mastered the secret recipe of happily letting go of grudges. Celebrating Xiao Shen's farewell to the past and new life, say hi~ Looking forward to the future, I am deeply grateful and relieved that the channel has excellent works. Lesbians can be the protagonist of a close-up of character flaws, and they do not need to be coated in a "normative" color to defend their values. They do not have to go back and forth about identity, nor do they have to find a position in a hurry, nor do they need to adapt to the given definition to frame their own behavior. I wish all lesbians can live their true selves and enjoy their unique personality realm or life attitude.

"Rose and Braised Pork" is the first novel by Niu Erer that I read. Before this, I had heard about Niu Niu, and I felt that he might be an author of the type I like. After reading it, I found that it was indeed the case. "Rose and Braised Pork" is not a long book, with 170,000 words. It takes about ten chapters a day, which means I can read it in a few days. The length is short and the time is short, but this reading process has become a stable source of happiness for me these days. Roses and braised pork have obvious symbolic meanings. At the beginning of the novel, it is mentioned that Shen Xuerou is not good at cooking braised pork and thinks that her appearance is as round and sticky as braised pork. However, the appearance of the basic-faced netizen Gu Yici is what she yearns for, thin and cool, which is the opposite of her. Gu Yici also brought a rose. From the first level, "Rose and Braised Pork" is Gu Yici as a rose and herself as sticky braised pork from Shen Xuerou's perspective. But as the story unfolds, we find that the appearance and personality of the two people actually do not match. In terms of personality, the sweet-looking Shen Xuerou is as cold and thorny as a rose, while Gu Yici is the opposite of his appearance. He is an overly soft-hearted and useless person (oh, by the way, Gu is also a good person who is good at cooking, especially braised pork). Therefore, the deep symbolism is exactly the opposite of the surface symbolism. The rose represents Shen and the braised pork represents Gu. In terms of scenes, there are three protagonists in the article. In addition to Shen Gu, there is also Gu's ex-girlfriend Li Shiyi. Gu and Li's entanglement can be said to be a collection of hundreds of bizarre submissions. It not only includes one party getting married and having a child (Li), and the other party being a concubine (Gu), but also interspersed with the embarrassing things Gu Yici did, such as borrowing money without repayment and being treated as an ATM girl, and having sex with his married ex-girlfriend on call. After that, a big fight broke out based on Gu Li's previous Internet celebrity account, and the scars of Gu, Li, and Chen were all revealed. Li is the protagonist, the introduction to Shen Gu's relationship, and even more so the villain. However, her villain does not come out to destroy Shen Gu's emotions, but her existence itself is like a quagmire. Li Shiyi trapped herself and the good old Gu Yici, while Shen Xuerou initially stayed away and watched coldly, but was eventually involved. Fortunately, Gu Yici woke up, Shen Xuerou broke free, and Li Shiyi also showed signs of running away to find a way out. The ending ended abruptly, but with a somewhat positive color. The last chapter says that Shen, Gu and Li are one person together, and I agree with that. Decisiveness, cowardice and decadence are not separate. They may be different aspects of a person, or they may be different attitudes of a person at different stages. For example, Shen was initially controlled by her mother and went astray. Her situation at that time was no better than Li's now. Another example is that Gu went from blindly supporting Shen at the beginning to being able to provide support when Shen collapsed, and to be able to break up with Li face to face. She has undergone great changes. The above is the main thread of the story. They are certainly wonderful, but I think what is more interesting is the flesh and blood of the story that fills the frame, such as the capture and description of the subtle changes in the characters' psychology, the clear and logical way of cooking, the detailed description of Lazi's understanding of the misfortune of his native family, the imagination and simulation of online public opinion during the scolding battle, and the characters' attitude and philosophy of life. Li's story is also a good portrayal of a full-time housewife caught in the middle, running between her own family (husband and daughter), her natal family (mother and younger brother), and her husband's family (mother-in-law and father-in-law). Especially since Li used to be embarrassed, the people around her accepted her identity in a very realistic way. The role of Li's mother-in-law surprised me. She is different from the feudal, conservative and dependent women of the older generation like Shen's mother and Li's mother. Instead, she is a bit more cold and hard-hearted, relying on her own hard work to support her incompetent husband and son. Li accidentally took his daughter Zhaozhao to find her, riding in her tricycle and witnessing her singing for the sight of the donkey cart. The tricycle ran out of battery in the field, so we had to wait. At this time, for the first time, they partially put aside their identities as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and communicated as women who were being dragged down by the men around them. The simple stakes contributed to their development from a big health pack to a more autonomous consciousness, allowing Li to reveal a hint of the possibility of struggling out of the difficult cycle at the end. In addition to the story content, I also really like the writing style of "Rose and Braised Pork". What first attracted me was the eloquent writing, which was restrained and as fragrant as a rose. Especially the wonderful metaphors and descriptive words. I was particularly impressed by the description of Xiao Shen's physical appearance at the beginning, especially the words describing the hands, "round, feminine, classical hands suitable for wearing jade bracelets", "the other hands have only soft curvature from the wrist to the fingertips, and the manicure, the whole body is the same color, and the outline is integrated, like a fat sculpture in ancient Greece, like the Mona Lisa." It's amazing. I have never seen such a good description of plumpness. It's so vivid. Another example is the last chapter of Gu's imagination when he was thinking about what to eat at night, "Pork belly, lettuce, garlic sprouts, chrysanthemum, chicken wings, duck legs, beef brisket, broccoli, lettuce, white mushrooms, shiitake mushrooms, king oyster mushrooms, crab mushrooms, live carp bubbling, shrimps jumping into the pot in a long queue, the garlic beauty contest started, pulling up the green onion banner, peeling off the coat, running from the corn kernel sidewalk, The tender white body and the fiery red pepper merge into one, jumping into the pot, the steam rises from the bottom of the mountains, carrying the oily and golden salted egg yolk rising, the river of soy sauce and vinegar is flowing, the volcano erupts with oyster sauce and beer, the Antarctic is floating with freshly cut tofu, and the Arctic is boiling with cold hairy duck intestines. "I like this paragraph so much, please allow me to excerpt it. Spending three cents of a thousand words to read this kind of text means I took advantage of Niu Niu. I also noticed that "Rose and Braised Pork" is a bit controversial. It seems that Gu was repetitive and incomplete in correcting his cowardly habits, which made the text in those chapters not so refreshing to read. Regarding this point, my personal opinion is that Gu's behavior is more logical. It is said that nature is easy to change but hard to change. The behavior pattern of adults is basically fixed. It is extremely difficult to change it. It must go through various iterations and twists and turns. It is lucky to be able to change. Therefore, I don't have any objections to Gu, who was too cowardly and a little cute at the beginning. However, this may also be the reason for my unique taste, because my personal taste cannot explain anything. When reading articles, you should look for articles that suit your taste. If you don't like it, don't force yourself. I am writing a review just to express my opinion and do not mean to deny anyone. As far as my feelings are concerned, I really like "Rose and Braised Pork", I still can't get enough of it. I have already set my sights on the author's column of Niu Niu, which is tender and delicious...

I came back to review it a year later and once again marveled at the overall conception of the author and teacher. Everyone has suffered a lot in life, and they are always stumbling. If you stop moving forward, you cannot avoid the unknown. Time will always come to everyone equally with the unknown. Reading it again doesn't have the heart-breaking feeling I had when I first read it. Maybe it's because I understand everyone's difficulties better, or maybe I've given up a lot on my own frustrations. All in all, I enjoyed watching it. Thank you, Teacher Niu Erer.

I really felt absolved after reading it (except that the ending ended a bit abruptly, but that didn't seem to be a problem) (but it still seemed to end a bit abruptly), wow, but it was so well written! Li is overly clingy and accustomed to trying to please others in close relationships; he is cold and straightforward, with a thick and seamless shell; Li is crazy, as if he is dependent, and wants the whole world to be responsible for his suffering. They stand on the line of passion and reason in turn, showing one kind of lack or another, and then seeing the lack in the confrontation with each other, they make up for it. At first, I thought Shen and Li were the control group. One escaped in a tragic way, and the other stayed to helplessly pick up the scattered tiles after the collapse of life. It was like pressing two different buttons to destroy and endure in a rotten world that favors boys over girls. And I deeply sympathized with the latter's misery. When reading, I could almost see many familiar elders in Li, Li's mother-in-law and mother, who were either harsh and mean, or numb and silent, all with sad faces. But later I began to realize that they did not point to positive and negative positions, or that they did not just mean bravery and cowardice, resistance and submission, and each had their own sufferings. People seem to be destined to undergo "choices", to give up some parts and keep some, and then bear the endless responsibilities after the choice, and they know what is good or bad, whether they are warm or cold, and cannot interfere. I always wonder, when Shen scolded Gu for her slimy personality and when she ate like pig food, was she also upset, and would the mother who always used vulgar words to her flash through her mind? When Li repeatedly wanted to use Gu to support his life, maybe it was because he realized early that everything was irreversible. I like Gu very much, "having compassion for others is just like having sex", but I think Gu may represent the unbearable part of us, and the kindness and unrestrained indulgence that we are particularly willing to pay in close relationships. This is romantic love, but it is not a concrete love. It is a love that treats your lover as a mirror and admires yourself. Of course you can criticize it, but I think everyone is more or less similar to Gu. Thank you Niu Erer for writing about complicated people, people who are struggling, people whose shortcomings are exposed in intimate relationships from the beginning, and then giving them space to grow, reflect, and resolve conflicts. The world has many aspects here, including choice and freedom, emotion and rationality. People are ups and downs in the sea of ​​suffering, eating three meals a day, decorating themselves, imagining love, getting what they deserve, and losing what they deserve. This is already worth touching.

You said in this article that Gu, Li, and Chen are actually the same person. As I read it, I was convinced of this: Although the connection between the three people in the book mainly relies on Gu, when I read it, I always felt that Shen and Li were actually the most similar. Although on the surface it seems that they are different in every way: Shen escaped from her original family smoothly, while Li has been entangled and troubled by her original family and the small family she built; Shen is independent in doing things, while Li relies on her ex-girlfriend everywhere; Shen... But so many differences only highlight their similarities. Their differences were based on their extremely similar pasts. Then one day, after a certain straw fell, Shen chose to leave. But Li was submissively crushed by that straw, and submissively became a woman who went with the flow and had an "unbearable past." I think some people may think that Li is a deceiver, an oppressor, and a submissive who has never resisted fate. But in fact, many people do not have that much courage, and many people even have never had the "resistance" button in their minds. Yes, those who know how to resist and have the courage to resist fate are certainly warriors, but do those who do not have the courage to resist deserve to be crushed little by little under the weight of fate? Shen is Li who has broken free from the shackles, Li is Shen who is locked up layer by layer, and Gu is the Shen Li who has subtle luck, but because of this, he becomes self-sacrificing and unable to refuse others. In fact, I like Gu very much. I can even say that I like Gu the most among the three main characters. Although it may be because the Gu described by Niu is exactly what I like in appearance... Okay! I'm just a pretty girl! (After writing, I will add: Maybe it's because I am also a white knight...) The biggest problem with Gu is that she is so clingy that I always think she is a bit of a sick pleaser personality... Because I can't understand why someone would do this... Maybe it's a personal reason. My ability to empathize is not that good, so I don't like Gu's character. The evaluation can only be based on two foundations: one is that I firmly believe that Gu himself is a person with serious white knight feelings, and the other is the speculation of the sentence "The pain of giving up on her is far greater than the pain of giving everything you have" (not the original words, I am a lazy dog and will not copy them). In fact, it is very strange that this guy who has always been indecisive, sticky and prone to tears is trying to be a knight - albeit a white knight. So I think the reason why Li is where he is today is actually inseparable from Gu, the white knight who has always been with her. (This is not to blame or excuse, if you are interested, you can Baidu "White Knight Feelings" by yourself) Yes, it was painful to take care of this woman, and it was painful to take care of her children and take on her housework, but it was even more painful to leave. It's painful to see her being domestically abused, it's painful to see her being worn away by trivial life and time, it's also painful to see her child and even think about what the birth of this child means that Li has to do, but all these pains will inspire her weird white knight spirit: Look, she is so weak and lacks the ability to save herself. She can only rely on me now. If she is a dodder, then I must be the big tree that grows with her, right? It wasn't until she finally started to want to escape, and was so lucky to meet Shen, that this morbid sentiment was shattered bit by bit along with her indecision. Speaking of Shen, on the surface it seems that Shen is a well-grown character, and it even feels like this person has completely matured: she is independent, she knows how to refuse without being overly dependent, and she even successfully escaped from a frustrated family. But in fact, beneath the surface, she has also been entangled with her mother and her mother's death. Yes, the East Asian-style pathological family that cannot be escaped... Is far away. Shen's problems are neither many nor obvious. The most obvious one is that she cannot have deep connections with others. She is secretly trapped in a nightmare that is difficult to escape, so she naturally believes that as long as she does not establish a deep connection, she will not be hurt. I'm not even sure whether this is a problem... Of course, even if it is, these problems may not be so serious problems compared to the other two, and they may even be solved naturally in the process of Shen's natural growth. But being able to get love earlier and being willing to give love is not a bad thing. Then there's Li... I actually don't know how to evaluate this character. Niu's description of this character makes me feel that I can completely hallucinate my last love interest Ji Lianzhi in her... Well, and the description is completely real. The result of knowing such a person is that even if I put every option in, I will only think: Yes, it will be like this. I don't know how to evaluate it. I think she is alive. (Although the person I know is straight.) However, there are times in the book where I feel that it would be better if at least one of her and her marriage partner had an ordinary well-off or middle-class family... It's just my feeling. Speaking of this person's PUA speaking skills... The fact that she has been able to hold on for so many years is really a case of a liar meeting a fool. If you want to deceive little Ji Zaizi in the next life, please practice again! (Hey!) To be honest, when I was reading, I had thought that the plot might turn out to be: Li finally made up his mind to get out of the marriage, Shen, as a straight woman, taught Gu how to refuse, and Gu relied on others to learn to be independent. From then on, the three of them dreamed of their own wonderful endings. (So I jumped to the last chapter to confirm he and then continued reading with satisfaction) (I didn't mean to just read he. I have very mixed tastes, but who doesn't like to read sweet stories with strong writing skills!). Because of the expectations I had for Li's line itself while reading (I will not admit that it is because I have loved a straight woman that I have this ), after reading it, I felt that this line was very well written... It's just that kind of line. Compared with the other two lines, my only dissatisfaction with this line is the part where Li reaches out to Gu to take the money... It's that kind of line. I originally felt that Li was in PUA, but when I looked closely, Li didn't even touch the edge of PUA. It was just because Gu was too stupid (.) In addition, after reading the full text, I didn't feel that a certain character made me angry (except when it was a straight woman! But that's not your problem!) Or what's wrong with your writing? There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people. If others don't like it, it just shows that you have created this character deeply. Don't let other people's words affect you. Be more confident, Niu Baobao!

When I saw Gu's clip, I hated him for his inability to fight, and I saw Li You lamented his misfortune. Behind Shen's seemingly strong appearance, there are also fragile scars. Everyone is imperfect, but because of the imperfection, they are real. I liked the mother-in-law scene the most. The character suddenly came to life. She is indeed the only mother in this article who saved up a bride price and two hundred thousand yuan.

It's really a pity that Er Er has sealed his pen.

I actually didn't wait until the end for my sister to give out sweets qaq

It's a very interesting essay, I should say that The three people are all the same person, and the three stories are all the same story, played out in a certain corner of the world at this moment. Every article written by Niu makes me cry. In this novel, I burst into tears when Li and her mother-in-law are alone in the suburbs. Freedom seems so easy to come by, but the reality is that everyone is forced to make a prison. I see my mother, my grandmother, my grandmother, my cousin, and all my female elders. I sympathize with them, but I am also afraid that they will drag me back into the quagmire of inheritance from generation to generation. I think separation should be a compulsory course in life, especially for women. After all, there are too many worldly shackles on us. I hope we all have the courage to move forward. I wanted to talk about myself, but in the end I found that the stories in the world are all the same, depending on whether the protagonist is a sticky braised pork or a rose with thorns. I originally thought that this book would not be out of date even now, but I didn't expect that it was 23 years ago. Niu's thinking is still very deep, about sexual orientation, stereotypes, identity, and online violence... I believe that this article will still have its value in 20 years. Although Niu has always said that she did not write well, I feel that after reading it, all good articles can make people think over and over. Controversies are inevitable for good works. If I could write a novel of this level, I would wake up laughing in my dreams. Finally, I wish all women in the world to move up, not be afraid of the air-conditioning, and be happy with peace of mind. I wish Niu Erer to find a good job, Mercury will go retrograde, win the jackpot, realize wealth and freedom, and let there be a silent happy person in a corner of the world.

I haven't seen Li Shiyi pay back the money + log out of WB, but there is always a feeling that she will linger around the two heroines in the future, uneasy desu(