A Lifetime of Unrequited Love

I accidentally came across this article in the comments of an article. A man in his late 40s actually opened Jinjiang and spent two days forgetting food and sleep to finish it. I cried many times while reading it, fearing that his wife would find out that he had pretended to yawn and got away with it. I never thought that stories so similar to ours happened so close to me. Your story is in Shanghai and we are in Suzhou. Your age difference and blood relationship are almost exactly the same as ours. She went to elementary school, I went to high school, she went to college, I entered the society, she worked, and I got married (otherwise, how could it be such a coincidence, my marriage age is so similar to that of Cheng Qihang). Seeing the entanglement between Cheng and Lin, it was like the love and hate between me and her were replayed in front of my eyes. I have now reached the end of the book. Now that you are old, I envy that your story ends with HE. Our story is probably the BE ending of another time and space. From the article, it is inferred that the author (selfishly thinking it is Lin Yue) is about 50 years old. She can be considered my eldest sister. Please tell me. I would like to express my sincere admiration for your Qihang. He is really brave. I can completely sympathize with his previous worries. Please continue with another ending of our story not far away (I shed tears again while typing this line).

I read the article in 2022 by chance, and read it for the second time today in 2023. I saw Lin Yue and Cheng Qihang in the early morning. I believe it is a real story, two real people, because it is absolutely impossible to conceive such a real and touching story based on conception alone. I don't know what happened to Lin Yue and Cheng Qihang in reality. The things that happened to them were very different from what was told in the article, but I understood, accepted and liked them in the story. Out of love, I also read all the netizens' book reviews and the author's replies. I wanted to know more about Lin Yue and Cheng Qihang from the book reviews, because I already regarded them as my friends, as if this could distance me from them. I am closer to them. I have never experienced love and do not understand love, but I have seen too many other people's love. There is a saying in the Song of Songs in the Bible, "Love is as strong as death." It turns out that I can't understand why love is as strong as death. Even though I have seen it so much, I still don't understand what kind of love it is. When I read this article for the first time , I just think that they are indeed in love. The so-called ethics are just moral norms formulated with the development of human history and civilization. They are set by humans, not by God. When God created Adam, the ancestor of mankind, and then used one of Adam's ribs to create Eve, Adam said that Eve was bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh. From a blood perspective, Adam Eve is indeed a close relative. Humanity was reproduced by Adam and Eve. In the beginning, only brothers and sisters of the same mother united to produce offspring. Gradually, the number of people increased, and half-brothers and sisters, cousins, uncles and nephews combined and reproduced. The ban on cousins not getting married only lasted until the Republic of China, and it still exists until now, so whenever I hear that now In reality, the marriage of cousins is criticized, and I feel sorry for them. After all, they were reborn a hundred years ago and they are reasonable, legal and ethical. At the same time, I also envy that love that must be firm even if it is not tolerated by society must be more sincere and intense. I read the article for the second time today and saw Lin Yuecheng Qihang's unchanging love for each other, no matter the circumstances. Regardless of the time of infatuation, not caring about or blaming each other's faults, perseverance, and self-sacrifice, you suddenly understand what a love as strong as death is. Compared with the impetuous material atmosphere of the current society, this kind of love seems so rare and precious. What can be exchanged for material things is not true love, and what can be discarded for others is not love. Lin Yuecheng set sail and they are the real ones. True love looks like, as for the harm to others, no one can live in this world without hurting others, the burden and guilt of sex, the guilt for relatives and friends, it is time for the two of them to truly let go. They were born for love, and I sincerely wish them a life full of love. I also hope that each of us will be born for love.

I finished reading this book in one night. This book was written by the author in 2008. It has been 17 years this year. The author is now in his forties. I don't know how I feel when I look back at this relationship. The author and I are almost from the same generation. Our views on marriage and love have been hugely different in these two decades of rapid development - the most significant one is: I no longer think that love is everything to a woman or the most important thing. In the author's story, love runs through her boyhood, youth and mature period, affecting her entire mind. I don't read much literature from the 70s and 80s. The one that stands out in my memory is Doudou's "The Distant Savior". It seems that the love of this era is in my impression. To dedicate oneself to death is romantic, and that is what women most long for and yearn for. When you meet him, you can give up everything. Is love a lie? Is a man someone you can rely on wholeheartedly? Should a woman be a pious saint in love, regardless of whether the other party responds or not? In the article, it seems to me that the male protagonist has achieved worldly success in his life. He is successful in his studies and career, and he chooses women with status. It is true that he may not be selfish, but in this whole relationship, he will not devote himself wholeheartedly. A lot of energy will be put into career, social interaction, and work. He enjoys good social treatment, social status and the love of two women. He is a vested interest. When the female protagonist is about to withdraw and choose other men, the male protagonist begins to be unable to restrain the relationship. Can this be understood as hurting his interests and offending him? Forgive me for replacing his love and affection with interests. Love is sacrifice, fulfillment, and letting go. It is not just a superficial possessiveness. The male protagonist is actually a person who is extremely sensitive to his own interests. To tease the female protagonist when she seems to be leaving him, in my opinion, this is a despicable behavior. As for the heroine, she loves the hero very much, so much that she has to sacrifice her youth and lose herself - because all the major choices she makes revolve around boys. Every time I want to say, why bother! She walked over wearing a mask. Her heavy youth seemed so worthless to me! For a man! What is love? What if you have to sacrifice yourself to sacrifice love? Love or love that is not "me"? ! Especially when the heroine devotes herself to the second boyfriend, I feel very uncomfortable. The heroine's view of love at this time has some tendency towards depression and self-mutilation. "Sacrifice" is a way for her to express her feelings. She cannot repay the love of the second boyfriend, so she wants to sacrifice her own feelings, her own. Of course, she still respects herself. Maybe the author's story is an example. Maybe there is a feeling in the world that "asks what love is in the world and teaches you whether life and death are mutual." Men also have it. I can only think so because I don't understand love. The above is the view derived from my view of love. I reject "sacrificial" love. I have given up the last family and friendship in life. Is this really worth it? This is something I can't understand, but I respect it. Maybe there is such great love in the world, but the reality is very real. How long can passion exist? Today, twenty years later, having lost its beauty and passion, what will love look like again?

Now it is 2023, and I accidentally discovered this novel. I didn't read many novels when I was young. I stayed up all night, stopped working, and took my children to school without any intention. I finished it in the past two days (because I wanted to see the ending, and the ending was HE). I couldn't calm down for a long time. True love comes first. The author may be nearly 50. I sincerely hope that she and her lover can live long and healthy. Thank you for letting me see such an excellent writing style and such a touching story.

I have been reading this article for several years, but I just saw this article today and realized that it was written more than ten years ago. Before the pager era, 2000, the media was not developed, and people's thoughts may not be tolerant. I marveled at the heroine's infatuation. She was beautiful and tenacious, knew how to advance and retreat, and was willing to endure pain. It was not easy. May she have a happy life! There is nothing wrong with being a good person and pursuing what you love. I also hope that the male protagonist will spend the rest of his life with her.

Sister Xinyu has not heard from you for more than ten years. I really miss you [crying]. I hope Lin Yue can continue her happiness, but I am afraid that she will not live well. If you have the opportunity, come back to see us readers and report your happiness. This will make us feel more at ease. We will wait for you eventually, right [kiss]

A love that is not tolerated by the secular world, during which the two of them endured, restrained and struggled. Seeing how painful the two of them were during the process, I really thought they were going to be. It is understandable that the male protagonist chooses to get married to escape his feelings for the female protagonist. After going in circles for so many years, it must be a deep fate that the two of them can be together in the end. Many people will never have love in their lifetime. It is not easy to be able to fall in love in this mortal world. I sincerely wish you two together until old age! Thank you to the author for bringing such a touching story, and I hope all lovers in the world will eventually get married.

After reading this book, I felt a lot of emotion, but what I want to say most is: I am willing to send my best wishes to Cheng Qihang and Lin Yue. There are too few people in this world who can find their true love and grow old together. For such pure and beautiful feelings that transcend all material things, most people have no position or reason to criticize or despise, but more should be tolerant or even blessed. Thanks to these two, others can truly feel the existence of true love and the beauty of this world. One last thing: I hope you two live a safe and happy life. P. S Some people guess that the author is Lin Yue, others guess that it is Jiao Jiao, but I prefer to guess that it is the result of the love between the two. Cheng Qihang and Lin Yue are both so good. I have always felt that the goodness of these two people should be fixed in material form and continued, otherwise it would be a waste. (Laugh)

The first time I read a novel, I felt my heart throb. It is now 2024. In the early hours of the morning, I was stuck on the seal and was a little annoyed. It's really uncomfortable to feel like the rhythm of reading is interrupted abruptly. But compared to the psychological shock and pain caused by the story, it pales in comparison. Looking through everyone's book reviews, I found that many of them are elders in age. Everyone also accidentally saw such a profound story and paid sincerely for it. From my naive point of view, everyone in the story is kind. However, as exposed by the author's delicate writing, I often can't help but complain because some things are not in line with my own values. But as the author mentioned in the article, true love is guiltless, and the complexity of reality, whether it is blood ties or responsibilities, all kinds of constraints are really thought-provoking! I feel sincerely grateful and touched that I can read such words! The chaotic message I wrote in the early morning has no logic at all. I hope I have time to write another one! Thanks to the author, although I only saw such wonderful writing in 2024!

I think that as the elder in this relationship, Cheng Qihang has a much greater responsibility than Lin Yue. He is not sure whether Lin Yue is just hot-headed because of temporary passion. He needs to take on the responsibility of an elder to care for the younger generation. He needs to tell Lin Yue what is right, and the same is true for his own heart, because once their relationship crosses the line, it will be doomed. In such a situation, no one can take care of everything, and no one can avoid hurting anyone in his life. Marriage, in his opinion, is the point where everything gets back on track, and it also hints that he will make up his mind. However, this relationship did not dim due to any obstruction, but became more and more intense in the entanglement of unavailable love. In the end, he finally chose to face his emotions bravely, which was also the growth of his personality and in harmony with his inner self. He finally gave up everything and ran towards Lin Yue, which required great courage. In modern society, this kind of pure love is rare. Cheng Qihang's hesitation, Lin Yue's bravery, and even after making up his mind, reason still cannot defeat the most emotional attraction of love, and even the most primitive desires of human beings. Doesn't this just prove that their love is so deep? There are many things that people have to weigh and choose in this life, and love is certainly not everything. But if there is a person who can make you look back suddenly in the turmoil of the world, glance at him for thousands of years, and rush towards him with the purest feelings, you will finally realize that the secular world is the secular world after all, and the truth and goodness cannot be understood by others. I laughed a little when I said this. I felt that the song "Ten Years Like Smoke" fits the artistic conception of "A Lifelong Love" very well. The lyrics say: "The world is very bad, it's good to have you", which is probably this sense of redemption. "Ten years are like smoke. I only wish you well." It's very similar to the scarred peace of the hero and heroine at the end. May all lovers in the world get married eventually.