Transmigrating as a Happy Farmer's Wife

The author writes vividly and vividly, making me drool while reading the article 1

Yes! Your writing about Wang Lan is very three-dimensional

Du Jun has not contributed anything to this marriage. He has always relied on Wang Lan to support him. In this marriage, it can be said that he has not fulfilled his responsibilities as a husband and father. Even the divorce needs Wang Lan to file. He thinks that maintaining this marriage is fulfilling his responsibility. It is really ridiculous!

This episode is really great! This Du Jun thinks he is a gentleman, but a gentleman is to "cultivate himself and manage the family". How can he sweep the world if he does not clean one house? As a husband and a father for eight years, he has never thought about what he should do for his children, what he can do for his children! This is what a father is like. When his wife has the ability, he won't even pay a dollar for tuition! He expressed his gratitude verbally to his parents-in-law, who had supported him for eight years despite the pressure from their sons, and he felt at ease as soon as the words touched his lips. In his heart, he still believes that "scholars" are superior to others. And that child, that child who carefully looks at other people's eyes! When his mother's heart was cut by a knife, his own father didn't feel any guilt at all? Maybe there is, but as long as you say "My child, you have suffered, dad is sorry for you", it will be even, and you can continue to feel at ease! No wonder Wang Lan looked down on him and decided to divorce him!

The character Wang Lan is much more profound than the heroine! The woman Chen Kexin said that women are much stronger than men. In difficult situations, women will always adapt quickly and find a way to change. But the man was still in a daze.

This is different from Wang Lan's life trajectory explained in the previous article. That one was Wang Lan who went to find Du Jun with her child, and then stayed in the city to work hard~~~~(>_<)

The biggest problem between Du Jun and Wang Lan should be that they have different ideas, or that they are not in the right family. Wang Lan's definition of a good life is mainly about material pursuits. As long as material conditions improve, life is good. Du Jun should pay more attention to spiritual progress. Of course, basic material conditions are still required, otherwise he will not be able to realize his dream of pursuing a spiritual level. For example, if he had not married Wang Lan, he would not have been able to enter college. When they were a poor and humble couple, both of them had the same goal, which was to improve their current lives, so that was their happiest moment. However, after they finished their start, and after Du Jun was admitted to college, the two of them worked in different directions. Du Jun's idea is that as long as basic materials can be satisfied, he should turn to spiritual pursuits, while Wang Lan believes that better material choices are the most important. If Wang Lan's personality was not so strong, and she and her children depended on Du Jun to work odd jobs around the school to live a life of a family of three, then even if Wang Lan would become mediocre or even unreasonable, given Du Jun's personality, they would make do with it for the rest of their lives. If Wang Lan valued self-study and kept up with Du Jun's world, then they would have a high chance of loving each other for the rest of their lives. Perhaps the traditional concept of "everything is of inferior quality, only those who are educated are superior" has been deeply ingrained in the hearts of every Chinese. Even after such an era, it cannot erase the arrogance that scholars are superior to others. With different cultural levels, if you want a happy couple, the person with the lower level will always work harder. Wang Lan will definitely suffer from this. There is an example of a couple around me. The husband was the young master of a big capitalist in a provincial capital city, and the sister was the son of the owner of a municipal waterworks before she was released. All the brothers and sisters could read, and they themselves were top students at Fudan University. Naturally, they were very miserable in that era. They were sent to rural areas for reform. They were not married for more than 30 years, and finally married a girl from my mother's village. I didn't know them until they retired and found out that they all lived in the same compound. We became familiar with them because they were fellow villagers. The man is already in his 70s and almost 80s, and he still speaks and acts in a soft voice. When communicating with him, you can't even speak loudly, but you can still see traces of rudeness on the woman. I heard that she herself said that when she was young, she didn't even know how to read, and was looked down upon by her brothers and sisters. In the end, she was forced to learn it, and later she insisted on reading newspapers every day. Unfortunately, she was only interested in daily life newspapers, and she still can't fit into their discussion topics at family gatherings. However, they have made do with it all their lives, and they look quite happy now. By the way, at 70, this young master still doesn't know how to cook or wash clothes. He can probably use a washing machine to wash clothes. Du Jun's family is just a small citizen, and it stands to reason that it will not be more difficult to get along with than my example. It's just that Wang Lan has a stronger personality and has her own life values ​​and direction, and this direction is not the same as Du Jun's. The most important thing is that in the most difficult years, she did not work out their differences with Du Jun, but chose to fight independently. The husband of my fellow countryman was a chief engineer of hydropower technology, and he stayed at the construction site all year round. She also accompanied him. When his daughter was born, he did not take care of her himself. He was placed in the home of his aunt who teaches in Wuhan. Until now, her daughter has not been very close to her because her daughter has always believed that she was abandoned. The hardships of life have worn away Wang Lan's love. Without the mutual support of common struggle, they also missed the best period of communicating each other's ideas. If you don't get the right person, the running-in period will eventually take longer and require more effort.

Why does Wang Lan regret? Had she not fallen in love with Du Jun, would she have left the countryside and started a business in a strange city? Will she overcome all obstacles and get to where she is now? She was able to take the initiative to propose a divorce from Du Jun, which shows that her ideas and courage are definitely not comparable to those of ordinary peasant women. She has come all the way and reached her current height. How could she dislike the reason for letting her "leave" in the first place? How could you regret leaving here? The gap between Wang Lan and Du Jun in their concepts, thinking, and values ​​is getting wider and wider. Perhaps because they have accumulated too many differences and conflicts in their lives, they are no longer able to live together. But how could her past love, past persistence and hard work be a mistake?

He doesn't want to go to school, and forcing him to go to school will result in nothing but a waste of time, energy, and money.

As a city dweller, I feel that life in cities is quite difficult. House prices in big cities are extremely expensive. I don't understand why rural girls want to marry out of big cities. In the building where I live, there are several men who are married to rural girls. Most of them are divorced, and even if they are not divorced, they are still keeping mistresses. Cultural quality, living environment, problems in all aspects.