Reborn: A Match Made in Heaven

For the so-called "true love," she acted on impulse, then forced herself to endure it for a lifetime. Though they treated each other with respect, her heart was never at peace. Given another chance, she was tired, worn out, and no longer wanted to struggle in vain. She never expected that letting things take their natural course and marrying someone of equal status would turn out to be so precious. ※※※※※※※※※※※※ When a woman meets a good man, she never needs to grow up. When a woman grows more and more mature and strong, it proves she has not met a good man. If a relationship hasn't made you a better person, then sadly, you've chosen the wrong person. No matter whom you've loved, there's only one outcome: the one who stays by your side until the end is your true love. The happiest moment in life is finding the right person: he cherishes you, indulges your habits, and loves everything about you. The male lead is a good man, and the female lead is happy! ^_^ ☆☆ Please stop repeatedly leaving comments saying the female lead is melodramatic and difficult. I know she's not an easy personality to like. She's spoiled, willful, and immature, but so what? I'd rather she be so vividly and freely herself than be sensible while bearing humiliation and hardship. Girls who are too sensible usually don't get a good ending. I'm not a self-centered woman who insists on material comforts. I've just seen too many stories about self-sacrifice and asking for nothing, and too many sad endings. ☆☆ Warning: If you don't like this, don't read! 1. First-person narration. 2. The female lead is a spoiled girl, immature and difficult early on, and never truly grows up before dying in her previous life. She takes a pessimistic view of love. 3. There are long passages of introspection and sentimental reflections. ☆☆ Friendly reminder: If you accidentally hit a nerve, click the "X" in the upper right to make a quick escape! Please don't torture yourself! And no taking it out on the author! ※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※※ "About the female lead's characterization, and answers to readers' questions" Your author had a sudden realization today: I've been such a fool! I should have made a post explaining how the female lead was written much sooner. Then readers wouldn't have to keep remarking that she's so difficult and melodramatic, or kindly telling me that my age setting is full of plot holes and that I've written her out of character. Actually, that's not the case. The female lead is meant to be exactly like this. First-person stories do have this drawback: you can't get a clear, objective picture of what a character is really like, because the perspective and inner thoughts you see belong to the character herself. And we all know that self-perception is always biased. So what kind of person did I intend the female lead to be? I've actually dropped hints in the details throughout the story, but I suspect most readers haven't been paying close enough attention to notice them. Everyone knows the female lead's background: she's a rich heiress, the youngest child, with four older brothers, and is doted on by her parents and brothers. Calling her a princess is no exaggeration, so this princess is both melodramatic and difficult, with a severe case of princess syndrome. As for the female lead's previous life, the first chapter makes it seem like a tragedy. But in fact, in my characterization, Cui Mingyuan is definitely not a scumbag, and neither are his family members particularly awful. Many people have asked: after so many years, if they didn't love each other anymore, why keep tormenting one another? Yes, if two people no longer love each other, it's very hard to keep going. So the reason their marriage lasted so long, until death, without ending in divorce, is that they did still love each other. Cui Mingyuan made mistakes for reasons I'll explain later, but you can tell from his reaction when the female lead died, and from her thoughts while talking to her granddaughter, when she mentions that he once knelt down and begged her to forgive him, that he loved her deeply from beginning to end. And think about it: the female lead's revenge on Cui Mingyuan amounted to treating him coldly and ignoring him. If someone didn't care about you, would your coldness be revenge to him? He'd be sick of the sight of you and wish you'd stay far away. So her doing this is a clear case of taking advantage of his affection. I know you love me, I know you care about me, I know ignoring you makes you miserable, so I'm doing it on purpose to get back at you. And that reaction also shows that the female lead hasn't stopped loving Cui Mingyuan. Aren't you still hung up on revenge, on whether or not to forgive him, because you still care about him? This is nothing but a childish sulk. I love you, but I'm still not forgiving you! The first chapter shows just how difficult the female lead can be. Imagine an ordinary person: a man makes a small mistake, but he still loves you deeply. Afterward, he realizes what he did, apologizes in every possible way, treats you wonderfully from then on, and never makes the same mistake again. Would you forgive him? I think most women who don't want a divorce and are a little softhearted would. If you're strong-willed and truly can't stand it, you won't put up with it; you'll have already divorced him. So this is truly the previous life of a female lead who brought her misery on herself. She could have lived happily for the rest of her life, but instead she chose to melodramatically torment them both, torture herself, and torment Cui Mingyuan even more. Later, in the wedding scene, I compared it with the wedding the female lead had in her previous life. Readers who pay close attention will realize that the wedding she considered unbearably humiliating and a sign she'd been treated carelessly was just a perfectly ordinary wedding, the sort most people have. Who has a beach wedding? The flights and accommodations alone for all the guests would cost a fortune. Only rich people who don't have to worry about money do that sort of thing. As for plastic rings, anyone who's been married or attended a wedding should know that sometimes the wedding planner provides those fake rings. Wedding rings are expensive for ordinary people, and a wedding day is full of complicated ceremonies and people coming and going. The rings aren't even worn from the start; they're only used during the ceremony. If you use real rings and they get lost, who's responsible? And asking a successful relative to officiate, or inviting your boss, is just ordinary social etiquette. But that's completely different from the kind of wedding in the social class the female lead comes from. To her, it was utterly humiliating. It really goes to show one thing: a marriage between people of unequal status won't work! The female lead was spoiled from childhood and has hardly ever suffered a slight, so her tolerance is very limited. The tiniest, most insignificant thing feels to her like the sky is falling. Of course, you can't blame her for that. Like the Princess and the Pea, she can't sleep because there's a single pea under her mattress. That's not being difficult; she's simply been pampered too much! That's why poor men can't marry heiresses. Even if they bring one home, they'll have to treat her like an ancestor. She'll feel wronged, and he'll feel even more wronged. Neither of them is at fault. It's just that their lives are too different, so they're not suited to each other! At the start of this life, the female lead intends to go through the motions and marry for appearances' sake. Some readers think she's being too much, and ask how she can be so cold to the male lead when he's so good to her. I actually think it's completely normal, and the readers who feel indignant on his behalf are the strange ones. Think about it: "The male lead treats the female lead so well, so how can she treat him badly?" In first person, that logic becomes: "I love you so much, so how can you not love me?" = = Doesn't that sound like something out of a Qiong Yao drama? How would you feel if you met someone like that in real life? What a nutcase! You loving me is your business. I never asked you to love me. Why does the fact that you love me mean I owe you anything or have to love you back? I haven't even complained about how you keep pestering me. It's so annoying! What do you even like about me? What do you love about me? I can change, if you want! Please take back your precious love. I can't handle it, okay? As I put it through the male lead in Chapter 41: love is inherently selfish. Loving someone is no nobler than being loved. You don't love someone because they asked you to; you simply satisfy your own desire to love them. And if they don't love you, they're simply following their own desire not to love you. Why make so many demands in the name of love? Whether you love someone or not is ultimately your own choice and your own business. As long as that person hasn't deliberately deceived you or taken advantage of your love, they're completely free not to love you. They haven't done anything wrong! Finally, people always bring up how the female lead lived for decades in her previous life and was still so childish, as if she'd wasted her whole life. I find that strange. How long you've lived has nothing to do with how mature you are. Yes, people generally become more mature as they get older, but that's not simply because of their age. It's because they've encountered more things and their surroundings have changed, forcing them to grow up! Why do people say someone who entered the workforce early is more mature than someone who stayed in school? Why do people say becoming a parent makes you grow up? Why do poor children have to grow up early, while children from wealthy families are immature? Because maturity has nothing to do with age. If you never have to worry about food or clothing, someone gives you everything you want, and someone is always there to protect you from the consequences of what you do, you have no need to grow up. You could live your whole life, right up to old age, and still be less mature than young people struggling to survive in the world! So why is the female lead immature? How could she not be, after living her life that way? Please add this column to your favorites! 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