P Girl's Blind Dates

My sister has been on blind dates 6 times. After graduating from undergraduate degree, she was dragged into a blind date. The chance of encountering the best is 50/50. The first one is that after getting along, I found that my personality is not compatible. The main reason is that I am not used to having another person around me suddenly. The second one is that I met the best person. Every time I made an appointment, I couldn't say goodbye within half an hour. What a cheater, it's not like I took the initiative to ask him out. If he doesn't like him, then I won't ask him out. If I ask him out but can't go, he's sick. If my parents hadn't been talking about which one of them was better than this one all day long, we wouldn't have seen him in the morning. The third one knew that he was being forced before they even met. He was late for the blind date and never spoke except on the phone. His father kept saying nice things for him, but I felt that he was not even polite enough. After meeting me, I told the introducer that it was impossible. Unfortunately, the introducer said he was too familiar with him and could not refuse. The fourth one is good in all aspects, but as soon as I saw him I felt that he would not like me. This should be the case. He would chat with me every day, basically greetings in the morning, lunch and evening, the weather, what to eat today, etc., And asked me to go to a movie more than a month later. By that time, I already had someone to date. Fifth, the meeting was at McDonald's. When we first met, I thought he was stingy, but my mother said that frugality is a good virtue. On the second date, he asked me to choose a place, and I chose a tea restaurant (the cost was not high). Then I ordered a ramen, and he also ordered ramen and a dessert. During the date, he kept saying that the ramen in this restaurant was expensive and not delicious. It would be okay if he only mentioned it once, but he said it 3 or 4 times in a row. When he left, he left first, but walked a few steps before coming back to take the order and pay. That time I went home and was furious. A date, including dinner, cost less than 40 yuan, but he kept telling me that it was expensive. I thought I couldn't afford to be with him. Later, two weeks later, he sent a text message asking me to watch a movie. In fact, I deleted his phone number at that time and had no idea who the other party was. I replied, that day is not Sunday, you have time to watch. He replied that it was only 10 yuan to watch the movie that day. Then I knew who it was. Sixth, when we get along, we hope for a good outcome. Supplementary explanation: I don't dislike 10 yuan for a movie, I think it's cheap, although my mother has always said to others: 10 yuan for a movie is enough to invite me to see it. I consider myself not a money-worshiping girl, but it's hard for me to accept that even though the other person has a salary of 3,000 yuan, he is not willing to spend 100 yuan on me, and he is still in the stage of pursuing himself. In fact, from another aspect, or what I believe more is: I am not so attractive that the other party spends money for me, but the other party thinks that I am someone who can make him relax. If he can't find the best, he can just find anyone. I'm just that casual.

I also died suddenly, and after a period of time, I actually died... That person suddenly stopped contacting me. After about two weeks, he told me that he was very confused because his ex-girlfriend came to see him. What do you mean? Do you want me to acknowledge the difficulties and return them, or do you want me to face them head on? Sister, I don't care about you anymore!

Come on! Very well written!

I've had this experience before... The last text message the other party sent me was "Let's go for a run together?", So the reason is still unknown.

I had a similar experience. I've only wanted to go on a date once. It was a friend of my cousin's classmate who suggested me when I was young. When we met, we felt good. I have no experience in dating and am relatively introverted. Later, he contacted me first. There was also a sudden loss of contact. I still don't know why. Could it be that I said the wrong thing the last time I called?

Tell an embarrassing story about a blind date At the beginning of the year, my mother couldn't stand my homely and rotten living conditions anymore, so she asked someone to introduce me to a boyfriend, and soon we got married. I fell in love with a man (hereinafter referred to as N), so we agreed to meet at a barbecue restaurant. The people present were: the introducer ( Female) and her boyfriend, N, me. Everyone arrived, exchanged greetings, and started eating. The scene was relatively harmonious at first, but soon we noticed how things seemed to be different. Enough to eat? Actually, I ordered a lot of things... After careful observation, I found that N cooked each piece of meat with lightning speed after it was grilled. Eat as fast as you can, as if you were in a deserted place... This barbecue restaurant provides each guest with a barbecue Tongs + iron chopsticks, the main people doing the barbecue that day were the introducer and his boyfriend, I helped a little while N was only responsible for eating, he The pair of baking utensils I owned was unused... I basically went home hungry that day, and it was really difficult to grab food from the tiger's mouth... After finishing the meal, wait for the check. I saw N pretending to be innocent at checkout and letting the introducer foot the bill. When he was paying, he calmly stood up, walked away from his seat, and walked away... When leaving the store, since the door of the store is an induction revolving door, if someone stands at the door, the door will automatically start to rotate. In this case, if one person goes out and another person comes in at the same time, both parties must keep the same pace, otherwise it will be too late. The person who comes in at any time will be stuck by the door... I was talking to the introducer while walking, and I didn't notice anyone outside. Came in, so I was stuck... At this time, I saw the man suddenly jumped to the side, and then showed his relief smile, as if she was glad that I wasn't involved... After this night, I really didn't have a good impression of N. After adding a □ number, I never contacted him again. I have no choice but to worry about my mother. I was eager to marry, and the introducer repeatedly emphasized that he "feels very good" towards me, so one day I decided to treat the introducer to dinner. Thanks for his help, I asked N if he would like to go with him. The following is the transcript of the conversation: Me 17:50:01 I would like to treat XXX and the others to a meal. Thank you for your help in introducing us. Do you want to come with us? N 17:51:01 Hey. . But it's a little bit pear-y. Now, it seems like I have to treat him to another meal. Me 17:51:17 …What's the matter, I'm here to invite you this time Me 17:51:22 Next time, feel free to do it Me 17:51:33 It's not taking turns... N 17:52:00 It's just that after you've invited me, it's hard for me to be free. At this point I am speechless again... As for what... Then I suggested to the introducer that I should forget it because it was not suitable. The introducer tried his best to save me and said, "He is temporarily NC. No, blabla", I relented again and decided to look everywhere again, but a recent incident made me determined not to Contact again: N usually never takes the initiative to contact me. When he does contact me occasionally, I take the initiative, and he can only use □, and never text messages. No reply... I complained to him about why he never contacted me proactively. N first said "You can't contact just for the sake of contact", and then After pondering for a moment, he said, "I think you regard this as an opportunity cost"... It is worth mentioning that N does not have a local household registration, no house or car, and his family background and income are similar to mine. I have a master's degree, but the school is average; although I have a bachelor's degree, the school is a key 211 university; I think there is no place If you are worse than him, why do you think that you are so good that you will not marry a girl unless you are him???? It doesn't matter if you are poor or short, but don't have the illusion that you are tall, rich and handsome...

Blind dates in this world are quite scary.

I was also very puzzled. Several of my blind dates were in the same situation. They were having a good chat and suddenly stopped contacting me. This made me start to wonder if there was really something wrong with me

After finally seeing the update, it suddenly died. . .

In fact, it's normal. Even if you feel that you are not his ideal partner, but you are friends with friends, it's hard to show it at the time and let the other person feel it, otherwise both parties and friends will be embarrassed. You still have to show your friendly enthusiasm on face. But you don't have to do it afterwards, just do whatever you want. If you are too attentive or kind afterwards, it will easily be misunderstood by the other party, so it is better to treat it coldly, not answering the phone, or just talk for a few words, not reply to text messages, or just reply with a few ums. ​​Then the other party will naturally know what it means, and it will not be so embarrassing without saying it out loud.