The mountainous countryside in southern Henan is foggy and the roads are long.
Jiang Xu was born in Jishen Mountain, Liaonan Duan, and was a left-behind girl who had never attended kindergarten. Her parents worked all year round, and her grandparents took care of her since she was a child. During the years when she had enough food and clothing, but lacked companionship, she was sensitive, timid, and accustomed to giving in. She early understood the clear differences between villages, towns, and counties.
The prejudices in the children's world are straightforward and sharp. Toys, clothing, family background, and conversation all distinguish the lively and lonely.
She hid her only old stuffed animal, and suffered from internal friction amid material comparisons, campus cold violence, appearance anxiety, and silent rejection. She was trapped in circles and judged repeatedly by secular standards.
Only those in the forest who stayed behind in the same village walked together year after year and were always open-minded.
He did not follow the trend, did not blindly follow the trend, did not look down upon her rusticity and clumsiness, and used years of restraint and gentleness to provide stability for her devastated youth.
Henan has a single-plank bridge for millions of candidates, and the sea of questions makes young people feel relaxed.
In order to get rid of the extreme involution, Jiang Xu went to Xi'an to study with his family, traveling thousands of miles to apply for school status, pass immigration inspections, overcome regional prejudices, and adapt to the differences in teaching materials between the two provinces. The torrent of new circles in a foreign land, utilitarian connections, subcultural disputes, and adult worldly pressures once again enveloped her.
From lonely left-behind students in villages and towns, students who are involved in involution in counties, to transfer students who wander in foreign lands,
Jiang Xu has gone through the shackles of his original life, internal strife, rumors, and the pressure of the college entrance examination.
I finally broke free from my please-pleaser personality and escaped from all the gregarious kidnappings and worldly disciplines.
Everyone thinks that being cool means being dazzling, gregarious, and having a smooth journey.
But after eighteen years of ups and downs, I finally understood:
Real coolness never comes from outperforming others.
It's about being stuck in the mud and still doing good, and enduring prejudice and still holding on to oneself,
There is no need to rely on circles, no need to cater to the world, no need to chase the current,
Heal and grow by yourself, stand upright with gentleness, and live your life as an undefined self.
Purpose: 1. Break the secular single judgment standard: excellence, gregariousness, and glamor do not equal perfection. The relaxation and self-consistency of ordinary people are precious.
2. Deconstruct the shackles of circles: Various circles of interests, utilitarianism, and connections create comparisons, exclusion, and internal friction. There is no need to rely on circles to seek identity. It is also a free way to live alone and not socialize.
3. Writing about the growing pains of young people at the bottom: Focusing on the real trauma of being left behind in southern Henan, inter-generational upbringing, urban-rural disparity, the internal examination of the Henan College Entrance Examination, and studying in another place, and acknowledging the rationality of negative emotions such as inferiority and cowardice.
4. The core of growth is self-healing: the heroine does not rely on others for salvation, but takes the initiative to break away from the shackles of her original origin, appearance anxiety, rumors and criticism, and moves from pleasing herself to accepting her complete self.
5. Interpret restraint and long-term companionship: equal respect and two-way tenderness can support people through suffering far better than vigorous preference.
6. The ultimate theme: True coolness is not defined by origin, circle, score, or region. It remains true to one's true nature through all the hardships in the world. It can survive and heal itself, and be a unique ordinary person calmly.