I am born in the 70s, and my parents have always had a bad relationship. They argue constantly, physically and verbally attacking each other's relatives and friends. They often argue so hard that they can't sleep in the middle of the night, which affects the life of the family. They even push back and forth about paying tuition fees.
There were very few people getting divorced at that time. When you were 7-8 years old, you would feel that your parents were getting divorced. When you were 8-9 years old, your parents separated and lived with your father, and you could finally live a stable life. You didn't have to cry and watch your parents quarreling and fighting each other. When you were 11-12 years old and your mind grew up, you were shocked to realize that divorce is not only good for them, but also for the children. As a parent, you also need to live a life of respect and peace of mind. There is no need to struggle to maintain the illusion of a family with both parents. Children also know the situation at home. A poor family atmosphere will also affect mental development.
When I was growing up as a single parent, my father checked my homework every day and cared about my life and friends. Neither my brother nor I was a bad learner. We helped with housework and went to college. In my life, the child who became difficult to discipline due to the divorce of my parents happened because both parents ignored the child (or thought that the other party would handle it).
It wasn't until I finished college that my parents chose to live together again, arguing every day, and complaining to their children. As a child, I was very annoyed and exhausted.
I told my parents seriously that you should live separately as soon as possible. I was worried that when I returned home for a while, I would find that both of you had killed each other and died together. Both of you thought that your life was ruined by the other. Such strong hatred is more terrifying than enemies. I didn't want to lose my parents at the same time.
I just want to say that it is terrible to tie two people who can't get along together. This has been my experience since I was a child. I have always been unwilling to be together, or use my children as an excuse to say how much I have to sacrifice for my children. It is really irresponsible, whether it is for myself or my children.
He who loves others will always be loved. That's right.
I am born in the 70s, and my parents have always had a bad relationship. They argue constantly, physically and verbally attacking each other's relatives and friends. They often argue so hard that they can't sleep in the middle of the night, which affects the life of the family. They even push back and forth about paying tuition fees. There were very few people getting divorced at that time. When you were 7-8 years old, you would feel that your parents were getting divorced. When you were 8-9 years old, your parents separated and lived with your father, and you could finally live a stable life. You didn't have to cry and watch your parents quarreling and fighting each other. When you were 11-12 years old and your mind grew up, you were shocked to realize that divorce is not only good for them, but also for the children. As a parent, you also need to live a life of respect and peace of mind. There is no need to struggle to maintain the illusion of a family with both parents. Children also know the situation at home. A poor family atmosphere will also affect mental development. When I was growing up as a single parent, my father checked my homework every day and cared about my life and friends. Neither my brother nor I was a bad learner. We helped with housework and went to college. In my life, the child who became difficult to discipline due to the divorce of my parents happened because both parents ignored the child (or thought that the other party would handle it). It wasn't until I finished college that my parents chose to live together again, arguing every day, and complaining to their children. As a child, I was very annoyed and exhausted. I told my parents seriously that you should live separately as soon as possible. I was worried that when I returned home for a while, I would find that both of you had killed each other and died together. Both of you thought that your life was ruined by the other. Such strong hatred is more terrifying than enemies. I didn't want to lose my parents at the same time. I just want to say that it is terrible to tie two people who can't get along together. This has been my experience since I was a child. I have always been unwilling to be together, or use my children as an excuse to say how much I have to sacrifice for my children. It is really irresponsible, whether it is for myself or my children.
He who loves others will always be loved. That's right.