I love her, but I hate her.
When the author Jin Jiyun was in middle age, he suddenly fell into an inner conflict because of his late mother. This experience led her to become interested in mother-daughter relationships and to explore the nature of mother-daughter conflicts from a sociocultural and psychological perspective. She found that many women had similar experiences, troubled by the entanglement of love and hate. Even as the connection between mother and daughter fades, the mother's influence seems to never disappear.
In the book, the author attempts to trace the origins of this relationship, such as the mother's natural belief that her daughter will unconditionally identify with her, the destiny of women to sacrifice, communication misunderstandings and the secret gaslighting effect. How are these misunderstandings passed on to the next generation and become more and more serious?
The book proposes clear solutions, trying to help women with similar experiences discover themselves, re-adjust the interaction model between mother and daughter, clarify boundaries, no longer be exhausted physically and mentally by the words and deeds of the other party, and finally establish an independent and coexisting mother-daughter relationship.
