My Ordinary Neighbor

It's a really good book. Some people struggle just to stay alive. Just like the heroine in the story, her native family is like a quagmire. She tried her best to climb out, but there were always people holding her back. The heroine is lucky to be able to go out and have a new life. Many people will never be able to go out in their lifetime, sitting in a well and looking at the sky, thinking that what they see is the whole world, which is very sad. Just like the heroine's mother, she is also a tragic character. She was exploited by her mother before she got married, and she was exploited by her mother-in-law and husband after she got married. She has never felt love in her life, so she doesn't know how to love others or her own children. She just lived a hard life, and her strength was exhausted just by living. She had no time or energy to improve herself, to care for herself, and to care for the people around her. I don't know how many people like this exist in China, which is very sad.

After reading "Lighting the Lamp and Boiling the Wax", I felt very deeply! I read book reviews and some people said they couldn't understand Li Yilu's subsequent support for his family, but I understood it. Her mother was limited by her environment and knowledge, so she had already tried very hard to love her. She believed her mother loved her again and again, and then she was hurt all over to slap her self-righteous love in the face, and then discovered that her mother loved her. When you become an adult, try to understand and repay your mother as much as possible. I think this is not the Virgin, this is the instinctive reaction of a kind person. To be honest, her mother's love is afraid of comparison. She loves her but she can't compare with her brother or her grandson. Speaking of Li Lele, readers will know that Zheng Yu and Li Jiarui will be very busy in the future. The relationship between Li Yilu and Zhou Congze is her luck. She has someone who can open up her heart and even have a dark and moist heart. Most people can only talk to themselves throughout their lives. Moreover, Zhou Congze likes Li Yilu as persistently as a woman from the Li family, knowing that she has inexplicable thoughts. Even if there is a dark side that hurts him, even if he is dissatisfied with her career and love, he still comes back to her. Li Jiarui also loved his sister when she was in high school. Could it be that he found a bad sister-in-law, so he has no friendship with her anymore? Or maybe you are afraid of comparison. Compared with your wife and children, others are cheap. The ending is too hasty!

What is destiny: what kind of family you are born into, what kind of parents you have, and what kind of genes you have. This is fate. What is luck: what era are you born in, what kind of economic cycle are you in. This is luck. Zhang Chunfang's family conditions and historical background determine her personal destiny. In fact, many times she has no choice but is pushed and pushed aside. In this case, women have no way out and can only struggle hard. She is a very hard-working and capable person, and it is good to live her life like this. She at least allows every child to read and take responsibility. Of course, she also has many shortcomings, such as favoring boys over girls, but this is also due to the influence of the social environment.

From a female perspective, we see the rise of the female spirit. It is a very realistic book. The character relationships and images in the book are applicable to most families. It can be said that this book made me sober up a lot. No man can be trusted, and excessive sympathy and love will not help me at all. A person is that kind of person. No matter how he changes later, he can't change his fundamental disadvantages.

I was very moved after reading this story. I think some people today are a bit extreme. In the past, some parents were too patriarchal, such as Zhang Chunfang, which was indeed excessive, but there are many such people. As a daughter, Li Yilu is kind, and the final decision she made is understandable. She was right. Because Li Jiarui inflicts the suffering she has suffered on her daughter, which one can tolerate it and which one cannot? Nowadays, many young people are much more selfish than she is. They cannot tolerate their younger siblings in their hearts. No matter how fair their parents are, they still feel that they cannot enjoy their parents' resources alone! The human heart is so difficult to satisfy

My experience is very similar to that of the protagonist, except that I am not as lucky as the protagonist, and I do not have a mother who supports me in school and a younger brother who helps me vent my anger at critical times. Everything depends on oneself. When you are wronged, you hug yourself. When you are injured, you heal yourself... Everything is carried by yourself. It seems like all they have to do is give birth to me. Whether they can survive in this world depends entirely on themselves.

I love reading any narrative centered around women. The only shortcoming of this book is that it's a bit of a curse. Although the background of the writing is from 198x to 202x, the speeches of the characters in the article are also limited by the times; but they are all articles, and I really want to change them to his father's. But to take a step back, don't be so harsh. I hope the author will write better and better, and I look forward to seeing more stories about women (I will also look for the book about genius sisters in the article).

The idea of ​​favoring boys over girls has really poisoned many families and many people, especially many girls. Treating a boy as a root and pampering him without any regard for principles will only bring disaster. You must get an education, enter a big city, get in touch with the larger world, have a deeper level of thinking, and only then can you look at problems scientifically, rationally and objectively. Fortunately, we only have two daughters in our family, and my parents treat us equally. During the epidemic, our two small families were stuck at our parents' house. Those few months were the happiest and most relaxing days after work. There are no conflicts, only harmony. Cherish the rare time together, eat, drink and have fun.

It is well written, real and down to earth. It describes the preference for boys over girls in the countryside, feudal superstition, the living environment of rural girls... The psychological description of the heroine, and the efforts she makes to control her destiny. I have experienced a lot of them and feel the same way, and it is worth recommending. The writing style is also good. I have read several books about family life, but none of them made a big impression. Only this one left a deep impression because it describes rural people so accurately. I sincerely recommend it.

Personal opinion is good ❤️ I like it very much. The protagonist Li Yilu is a person who lives very hard. She is not perfect, but she works very hard and lives very hard. From her parents and ancestors, I saw some similarities in modern life, which touched me very much. I like ❤️ very much