Our Marriage

This book is very realistic, so realistic that I could feel a deep sense of powerlessness from it. Marriage is a besieged city, those on the outside want to get in, and those on the inside want to get out. It is really not that easy to get divorced after you have children. It is a real problem. Perhaps the author can give this story an ending and a follow-up, but this seems to be a portrayal of what many people face in their lives, and most people can find the shadow of their own marriages in it. Maybe we can give it an ending ourselves, either perfect or imperfect. Either get a divorce, or have no choice but to keep going. Being an adult is really difficult. Others cannot judge and there is no need to refer to other people's opinions. I used to really want to get married, thinking that if I got married, I would have a family and settle down. Now after reading this story, if I had gotten married at that time, maybe I would have been one of them, and my life would not have been as good as Fang Yuan's. After all, Fang Yuan still had a mother, a house, a good job, and a way out. It's really suffocating to see these deep quarrels. One sentence in this story is right: Current education makes girls think that marriage is a harbor, a retreat, and a last resort. Little do they know that this is a huge lie. Another sentence: People can only rely on themselves, regardless of gender. Girls who have given birth to children really have their own weaknesses. This society requires mothers to pay more, and they also feel that they cannot concentrate on work after having children. The older I get, the more powerless I feel. Look at those women who were in the precarious situation during the Republic of China. Those women who were trapped by the times worked hard, fought and spoke bravely for their own rights. Now, I seem to be trapped in a siege, and I also believe that women should get married. But what can marriage bring me? If it was a marriage like Fang Yuan's, it would be better not to have one at all. Maybe I haven't met the person who makes me want to get married, but I hope that starting from today, I will work hard to live for myself. After so many years of schooling and more than 20 years of hard work, it is not just to become a mother of a child. First of all, I am myself, and secondly, I am someone else's daughter and have other identities. I have worked hard for so many years to study and live for myself. I hope that in reality, we can all find our own direction. If we are in a bad marriage, we may have more helplessness, but I hope we can find ourselves first and comfort the child in our hearts. If you don't let yourself live this life, you will regret it when you look back. Let's encourage you together. I hope we can recognize the essence of life and still love it.

As Xia Wenli said, "Everyone is a mirror," and so are the characters in the book. We watch their lives from God's perspective, but we also live each of our own characters as worldly people. Their experiences of frustration also remind us of how we should behave in the world. The biggest lesson I gained from the book is that no matter how urgent the pressure from the outside world pushes you, you must slowly see your own situation clearly and see who the person standing opposite is.

The writing is thought-provoking. No matter what, you still have to leave a way out for yourself in marriage, and you must be self-reliant and self-reliant.

After reading this book, the heroine has low self-esteem and is introspective. The traditional kindness of the heroine's mother has become a handle and a sharp weapon for the male protagonist, just to maintain the male chauvinist status in the marriage. Therefore, for a good marriage, you must first meet a good person, be able to adjust your mentality from yourself, and borrow Ang Lee's words to "get the approval of your wife and children through your own efforts" instead of relying on traditional male power.

Sexual behavior in modern society is very open, but women must learn to protect themselves and not have sexual intercourse casually. Even if they are pregnant, they must not get pregnant. Even if they are pregnant, do not just go to a hospital for an abortion. One wrong step will lead to the wrong step.

This book is written in a more realistic way. Women are weak in marriage. Regardless of whether they have financial ability or not, because women have a natural weakness of having children, it can only be said that women should protect themselves before marriage, keep their eyes open when they plan to enter marriage, and do not get married for any reason other than love. For example, when you reach your age, you are lonely alone, but the other person's conditions are not bad. You must enter a marriage because of love. Even if there is no good result in the end, at least in retrospect, there is still a beautiful love.

In today's society, the requirements for women are too harsh, not only to contribute to the family, but also to meet the requirements in terms of appearance, ability and career, and also to have the ability to make money. . . What about the requirements for men? We are still stuck in a very traditional era. With one job and Gu Jia, he is the perfect man. As for other aspects, it is just a luxury.

Really down to earth. Unmarried female friends can take a look.

It ended too suddenly, and I still haven't finished it

Don't get married for the sake of getting married. You shouldn't marry him after buying a house before marriage. When you are in love, you should also keep a clear head and treat things rationally. Don't be carried away by love