See the Value of Emotions: Catch His Emotions and Hold His Heart

While reading, I checked myself, looking for problems in myself, and at the same time looking for answers in myself. Perhaps due to the influence of my family of origin, I found that I have bad habits of negative interpretation, not optimistic enough, and have a binary perception of black and white in relationships. I have not achieved true acceptance. I have a somewhat pleaser personality, a little obsessive attachment, poor cooperation ability, and have not enriched my own knowledge. How can I become an interesting soul? So you really have to ask yourself to solve the problem.

I feel that every time I read a book like this that can analyze myself, I feel a lot. I can clearly understand what kind of personality I am. Before this, I also thought that my lack of love was caused by my original family, but I am not resistant to close relationships. Later, in this book, I finally understood that there are several types of attachment personality. I belong to both the anxious and fearful types. I hope that in the future life, I can work hard to grow and accept myself.

Many cases in the book allowed me to understand it very well, and I could also deepen my understanding by relating it to my actual situation while reading. It made me understand many of my shortcomings and things that I had difficulty understanding before. At the end of the book, I realized that this book was originally written mainly for women. Although I am a male, I can accept a lot of the knowledge in it. I am not against or disgusted with it. Even if I am, it is just a temporary incomprehension. Because I read "The Courage to Be Disliked" first, I have some understanding of the separation of topics. Many of the previous chapters in the book explain that people will be invisibly affected by certain reasons in the past, which also allowed me to understand many of my own unexplainable behaviors. And then because I was reading this book. I am also going through something myself, and I am very glad that I read this book, which helped me understand my shortcomings from this experience, and also guided me and corrected some of my behavioral patterns and thinking and cognitive problems. When I was reading the book, I fell into a state of confusion because of the childhood "cause theory" mentioned in the book and my own emotional problems at the time. Later, I saw that "you worry about gains and losses, care too much about the past and worry too much about the future. There is a saying that goes well, yesterday is a piece of history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift from God. "Things." And some other coincidences, combined with "The Courage to Be Disliked" that I had watched before, also made me feel relieved. At that time, I fell into a wrong understanding, that is: "My childhood trauma caused me to have big problems now, so I can only save my current self by solving my childhood trauma." But the past cannot be changed, so we can only change ourselves better if we grasp the present, grasp the present, no longer dwell on the trauma of the past, and focus on the present. Finally, I want to say to everyone, everyone is unique, be yourself. I would like to give you a sentence: "A mountain has its own unevenness, and I have my own unevenness."

It is very well written and carefully analyzes the sources of various problems that may cause various conflicts in life. From the appearance to the causes, it not only has a male perspective, but also a female perspective. It comprehensively explores the attitudes, measures, and reasons adopted by various types of people when facing different emotional crises. It can help people deeply understand what kind of person they are, why I have such impulses, and how to better improve their personality. Through various methods such as writing condolences letters, ABC emotional therapy, emotional control methods (abdominal breathing, whole body muscle relaxation), positive interpretation methods, complete attachment activation, etc. To help people understand and control emotions, better express their emotions, thereby changing their behavior and cognitive style, and better cooperating with family and friends

I really benefited a lot. At the same time, I feel how important it is to build a complete knowledge system of my own. Learning tolerance, cooperation, empathy, expressions of high emotional value, etc. Can enable us to be in a relatively more harmonious environment. Love is just a part of life and there are so many novel things waiting for us to experience! Brother Meng, please love yourself, find yourself, and improve yourself first! Every second of youth is the last second. The world is big and exciting ~ Haha, finally, I wish everyone is lovers and will eventually get married. Let's work together. By the way, I also wish me to find my girlfriend soon. It's really frustrating that she hasn't appeared yet~

To be honest, I didn't quite understand it the first time I heard it, so I'm going to read it a second time. Generally speaking, people's thinking has a lot to do with their family of origin. I want to make a chart. What I think about most now is how to educate my children. Let them grow up healthily I tried it for the second time, probably while listening to a book while working, but the effect is not ideal. I didn't summarize my understanding. It's a pity that I don't have the patience to brush it three times.

Great writing and some inspiration. I hope I can implement it instead of falling into chicken soup

Analyzing emotions from multiple angles is worth thinking about🤔 Sometimes I really don't know what I want. I feel at every stage that the result is not what I want, and I want to give up. If a relationship continues to break down several times in a short period of time, and the other party has no patience to explain or communicate to solve the problem, does it actually mean that it is no longer suitable? [Smile] Habits are also difficult to change. Sometimes I really wonder if everything before was a dream. Every time, I bow my head [almost crying]

I would like to call it a must-have book for military advisors. I will recommend this book to my brothers who want to fall in love in the future.

What a great book!

Anyway, I quite like the professionalism of the authors.

Great! The cases are very up-to-date and the questions are very precise. Really great! ! ! Humanities and Social Sciences

Reminds me of Nonviolent Communication, both books emphasize the importance of expressing emotions correctly and understanding others. Just like what the book says, "Behavior is just an appearance, and the attitude and state behind the behavior are the core of communication." We must learn to see the value of emotions in order to get along better with others.

An eye-catching book, I have benefited a lot, I hope I will get better and better [Learned][Learned]

This book is really well written. Every time I read it, I gain something new. It's great.

It's really good, I learned a lot

Found a good book

Guaranteed to give five-star reviews

Let me put it this way, I hope that all my friends can read this book, which can solve many problems encountered in work and life, improve happiness and satisfaction, and create a harmonious and healthy relationship between friends, husband, and colleagues.

It explains in easy-to-understand language how we should empathize with others and provide emotional value to others. I learned a lot. This is a very good book!

It's really good. People with low emotional value should really watch it, read it, and listen to it!

Emotional awareness, gratitude diary, taking photos of happy moments, subject separation, cooperation mode

Moral kidnapping turns into equivalent exchange, and derogation turns into praise. It's not all black and white, there is also "gray". Start enjoying the dividends of emotional value!

Very good and helpful This is an eye-catching book. Thanks to the author, I learned a lot.

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Understand yourself a little better

It's worth printing out and learning one by one.

Those who fail to do so will turn to themselves, and if their bodies are upright, the world will return to them.

Among the few books with emotional value that I could find, this is the only one that is useful and practical.

I have read a lot of books of this type, and the author must have read a lot of information, and his insights are very unique.