Get Out of Powerlessness

To be honest, this book made me see the stage I am currently in. Smiling depression, the situation in many books is exactly the same as mine. I am now in a state of severe depression. I want to die, have no interest in life, don't want to do anything, and am very tired, but there is no one around me to rely on. I have to pretend to be happy in front of my closest and dearest people every day, but if my life is really tiring every day, they won't understand me. They will just say, "Oh, why don't you smile?" You look miserable all day, who are you looking at? Why don't I say hello to people when I see them, but I really don't want to socialize, they will just keep saying what's wrong with me and what's wrong here, my parents are like this. This book is really good, there are many sentences in it that healed me. Some sentences are worth pondering and understanding. I'm thinking, if I really can't get over this hurdle of depression, so be it. At least I tried, right?

I used to hear people say that they lacked inner energy, and I thought it was so pretentious! Because I really rarely have the kind of state where I have no interest in anything, feel that everything is meaningless, and fall into an endless feeling of powerlessness. And this book opened the door for me and let me know that the state I am currently in is very bad, and there are many people who are stuck in it and are unable to extricate themselves. I read it from beginning to end and felt the long-lost happiness. It is the happiness of gaining new knowledge through reading, the happiness of opening my heart and embracing Little Red Book again, and the happiness of firmly believing that there are infinite possibilities in life, and that as long as you work hard, you will never stop there. I agree with every word in the book, such as "Unknown full picture, no comment." I also agree with what "problem externalization" advocates, "People are not the problem, the problem is the problem." We all need to separate problems from people. The book believes that true self-love is to love a person as a whole and love all of oneself. Just like when we love someone, we must accept his imperfections, his limitations, his pain and sadness, and the same goes for self-love. This was a revelation to me. In any case, we shouldn't live in self-blame. Life is already very difficult, so stop being self-conscious.

Thank you very much🙏🏻Every time when I feel sad and low, I save my mentality little by little, slowly sew myself up and regain my confidence and continue to face it. It is easy to understand and helps me a lot. I change my views and opinions on the world and people, and I also understand a lot. I must continue to work hard [Blow kiss] [Attention] [Like] [Love]

The content is very good. It uses the author's own perspective and experience to understand psychology. It is important to accept and reconcile yourself. This book is meaningful to me. I have read several psychology-related books before, and I feel that this one is really great.

As soon as I started reading it, I immediately entered a state of flow. One of the characteristics of this book is that it will continue to attract me to read it. And some books require you to generate motivation to read it. I think a good book or a book worth reading is probably the one that has some interest in you. Let's provide some guidance. We can also have a better and deeper understanding of our own psychological conditions. In fact, we all have diseases, but the degree of the disease is different. I think there is nothing to be ashamed of if you have psychological problems. The main thing is that we must dare to face ourselves who have achieved better results.

There is a force that guides me out of the past and brings some meaningful explanations for not understanding my own feelings. I begin to understand that my timid and cowardly self was just a protective mechanism. I should also be grateful that the series of actions I made back then were just my inner resistance. It turned out that I started to lose myself a long time ago. Now I can fully understand all my actions back then.

It's very interesting, and it helped me for a while. During that time, I was confused and felt that the road ahead of me was dark. I always have some one-sided thoughts, and I also want to be happy. But every time the short-lived happiness passes, there are inexplicable tears. It was really painful during that time. No one listened to my story, and I didn't dare to tell others. I could only relieve the pain with tears. I relied on tears and books to get through that period. Let me hold on until now.

Do we often deny ourselves? We often feel that we are not good enough, and we often care about what others think of us, as if we have nothing. This book teaches us how to get out of this negative mood and face ourselves bravely. One of the sentences I remember the most is, "Perhaps your insignificant and terrible self is the only light in someone's heart." The format of this book is very special. It is in the form of a dialogue, as if you are talking to yourself deep in your heart and healing the pain deep in your heart. The most important thing is for us to become brave and confident, overcome our powerlessness, and be worthy of ourselves. I hope that after reading this book, we can laugh unscrupulously and always remember that loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

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We often encounter all kinds of troubles and difficulties in our lives, all kinds of troubles and difficulties that cannot be solved with our current strength. At this time, we will inevitably have a sense of powerlessness from the bottom of our hearts. At this time, how to adjust and change your mentality becomes particularly important. So in response to this situation, the book written by the author gives good examples and solutions. The overall reading is simple and easy to understand, and can be practiced in life. Reading it makes people feel very puzzled.

There is an article in it about self-PUA. I think it is about me. I have always failed in everything I did since I was a child, but others can do it well. Before anyone said anything about me, my tears started to fall. I actually didn't want to cry, but I couldn't control myself. I haven't been able to work for a long time in the jobs I've been looking for in the past few years, especially at the front desk of the hotel. I made mistakes every day at work. I thought why am I so stupid, and I broke down to the point where I cried every day. Later, I stopped working and gradually got better. Then I listened to a lot of psychological books and started with small things to improve my sense of accomplishment. Then when you are pessimistic, don't let yourself magnify, divert your attention, and watch your favorite TV series or funny novels. Hope everyone gets better.

It is a very healing book. After reading it, I feel empowered. Some of the notes are summarized as follows: Most of the thoughts and evaluations others have about you have nothing to do with you. In many cases, other people's evaluations and accusations about you do not represent the reality. The whole you is just a projection of part of his heart. (Whatever he says about you, he is actually talking about himself) If the evaluation given by others is sincere, we should also listen. On the contrary, if it is just his own projection, we should not care. The most beautiful state of a person must be, "Knowing what you like, what you want, knowing how to do it, and finally giving it your all" Maslow believes that the state of a person doing what he is most suitable and capable of doing is "self-actualization" The root cause of a person's "heartlessness" is lack of love Why are you tired? A life with an end in sight Why not happy? Suppress your true inner desires Pleasure does not equal happiness, real happiness is mental peace There is only one true and lasting happiness in the world, which is peace of mind True happiness is always based on practical actions The source of happiness: find your goal and take action If we want to live well, we must not only have material possessions, but also have a complete soul. The first step: Create a spiritual home of your own in your heart (spiritual sustenance) That spiritual home may be a book, a movie, or a goal or dream that you insist on. Only if you are rich enough within yourself can you be able to resist excessive stimulation from the outside world, as well as interference from some overly repetitive and vulgar information, and be able to focus on the things you want to focus on without constantly feeling inner emptiness. Step 2: Find some new lifestyles that make you happy and have a richer "life aspect" (create a variety of different identities for yourself, similar to today's slash youth (people with multiple careers and identities and diverse lives) Step 3: Find a goal that you can invest in and work hard for it

I have almost finished reading this book, and the overall feeling is that it is quite good. It is a treasure book. Through the form of character dialogue, the framework and solutions to modern people's psychological problems are outlined. It is more vivid and close to life, and it is easy to understand what you want to express. This kind of dialogue should be based on the expression form of "The Courage to Be Disliked". Each of the characters has more or less the psychological problems of modern people, such as avoidant attachment, excessive self-esteem, people-pleasing personality, etc., With a more in-depth analysis, definition, causes and solutions. This book is completely different from those chicken soup for the soul series. Recommended for people who want to continue to explore the unstable core of themselves and are confused about themselves, you can check it out [laughs][laughs][laughs] All of them are related to a clearer understanding of oneself. When life is unsatisfactory, don't live for other people all day long. You are the protagonist of your life. Do what you want to do and live what you want to live. This is the true kingly way.

I like the ending sentence: You are not a strange person, you are a person like a star

In addition to a single upbringing method and solidified social concepts, we have become more and more powerless; whether it is actually a sad heart under the smiling appearance, or unable to extricate itself under the bipolar disorder of depression and mania; the author cites a large number of real cases in psychotherapy to analyze the common diseases of our time - Incompetence (the inability to live, material pursuits and spiritual beliefs) all expresses the impetuousness and uneasiness of society to some extent; and the author gradually discovered during the psychological counseling of patients that such a powerless state is definitely not hopeless. With active mentality management and active intervention, we can all successfully come out of it.

It was so painful to read this book, because the descriptions in this book always reminded me of my own unpleasant interactions with my family and other people, and how I had to overcome myself. It was so difficult for me to be moved.

1. The reason for some patients with depression is that they focus too much on themselves! Because I've experienced it! Otherwise I wouldn't say this. I have come to the conclusion that I am always happy when I am content, and I am more than less than I am. If you look more at how other people have experienced suffering, the lives of sages and philosophers, the biographies of successful people, and turn your gaze from yourself to the world and even the universe, you will find that your little love is not worth mentioning. That little darkest moment is just a short moment in the long history of human life. Once you have passed it, you will laugh at yourself for being so arrogant at that time! Watch The Shawshank Redemption, Forrest Gump, How Steel Was Tempered. Really, read more positive books and documentaries instead of indulging in short videos. Comment on the original text of the article: So from then on, I completely stopped speaking what was in my heart. One thing I learned: People who don't understand you will never understand you. 2. Some people with depression lose themselves because they care too much about others. 1. The most important core is - repression, the source of "repression", usually related to the loss of self. 2. The second key word is "false". The core of a person's strength is to have a complete and true self. Accepting oneself is the most essential, lowest and core inner strength. 3. The third key word is "out of control". Making choices for oneself, having the ability to follow one's own heart and be able to bear the consequences of the choice can, to a certain extent, determine his sense of control over his life. Lin Yin gave the answer: For me, only by constantly working hard within reasonable expectations and creating my own sense of value in the process of growing up can I have a peaceful joy in my heart. This is the most stable and lasting deep happiness. Psychologist Jung called the ultimate goal of a person's spiritual growth "individuation." It refers to the completion of the integration of one's own "self-nature" content, the most complete development of the spirit, and a long-term state of peace and satisfaction. Finding the true self and being the true self are the subjects of human life. Those who find their life goals early are happy! 3. Some people with depression think too much and do too little, and their abilities are not worthy of so many desires. The solution given by the author is: take action! True happiness is always based on practical actions. Only action, action from the heart, can change everything. There may be countless things in the world that give people pleasure, but there is only one true happiness, and that is "what the heart desires."

Very good. I am the kind of person who likes to be self-centered and perfectionistic. It is very well said. I have a lot of inspiration. Thank you author! !

In life, there are many people who are similar to us, and we can see ourselves to a certain extent in these characters. Reconciling with oneself and loving oneself become no longer so abstract, find the true self, and move towards the future we are heading for now. I hope we can live sincerely and passionately.

A very good book, I saw my own shadow and answered many of my inner confusions. This year is a year of self-exploration and rebirth. I want to bravely try and save myself. Come on!

I used to be interested in psychology because I seemed to want to study different human beings. But now, I want to see myself. Thank you for this book that accompanied me through the transition from 22 to 23 years old. Looking into the depths of life, I found a lot of despair. Since I was a child, I have felt that my existence has been blurred, lacking strength and support. Even now, I still feel a sense of emptiness in exile. But I want to overcome external obstacles and follow my heart's desires. So I understood myself in the struggle, embraced myself in the struggle, saw myself in the deepest sea of ​​humanity, and stood side by side with myself. What matters is not the universal meaning of life, but the meaning of life that is unique to me at a specific moment. Recover the natural connection with yourself, overflow with a sense of solidity in life from the depths of your heart, and pursue your heart's desires more worry-free. We are all like stars, be brave to love and be loved!

I particularly enjoyed Sia's story, her experience resonated with me. I also used to be avoidant and missed a lot of opportunities. However, seeing her change at the end really gave me a lot of strength. And Jasmine's words, "Live naturally", are so well said! This book is like a friend, giving you some warmth and encouragement when you feel powerless, giving you the courage to get out of trouble.

There is a fate between people, and the same is true for people's jade books. This is a book that I had to start reading when I saw the cover. I thought it was good after reading the beginning, and I liked it in the middle. I also enjoyed it in the middle, and it was sublimated at the end. This book completely fits my own psychology. It seems that I have found a soulmate and cherish each other. It turns out that I am not the only one with an avoidant attachment personality in this world. What people pay most attention to is the people and things that are closely related to themselves. The more I read, the more excited I am, and I feel as if I have been healed and redeemed. I recommend everyone to take a look. Many of the theoretical knowledge in psychology appear repeatedly in psychology classes, which also deepens your impression.

It gave me a lot of feelings. We all have to step out and embrace the fragile and injured child inside us and tell her not to be afraid.

"You are not a strange person, you are a person like a star." This sentence really went straight to the depths of my heart and resonated deeply.

Excerpt: Knowledge is guiltless and learning is useful, but emotions must be included because people are life. We need to understand why we study, find a way to study that suits us, and be able to choose what we are interested in studying. When you are at your best, you can find the person you truly love. Only by having more self-confidence of your own, creating a sense of security for yourself, and staying clear-headed and independent can you no longer freeze your heart due to inferiority and fear, face the cruel and complicated reality, and have more power to wait and find the feelings you like.

A very good book, I can see myself reflected in it

This is a very useful book for patients with heart failure. It triggers thinking through dialogue. Each of us has more or less experienced the powerless feeling of a walking dead. It is worth reading. You are not a strange person, you are like a star. You will shine, you will shine, even in the dark, you will definitely be able to find your own direction.

I didn't read it all, I only read the first to last chapter and the third chapter that I was curious about (because the other chapters were not like me). I personally didn't gain much [face covering]. It may be useful to some people. Ten years ago, I began to feel that the world was boring. Now I have explored various theories, and I think the most useful sentence is "The meaning of life is to find meaning." It made me not rush to end it, but to experience this world for another ten years, and I feel that it is not as boring as I imagined when I was a child. I read this book this time mainly because I get tired easily. After working hard for a week, I just want to lie down and do nothing for several days. I don't have the energy to socialize, and I am too lazy to dress up. I read Moments [laughing and crying]. I have the goals and beliefs mentioned in this book, and I don't have any internal friction. Unfortunately, these are some theories I have read. Maybe I am just tired now!

I have listened to it many times. Thank you to the reader for writing this book. It has healed me a lot. For the first time, I feel so empathetic. Thank you again.