The Courage of Happiness: Philosophy Lesson 2 of Adler, the "Father of Self-Enlightenment"

This book is very good. I used to say that I relied on myself to get out of severe depression. Now I understand that although it is self-healing, there is also help from others in the process. It may be very small, but it is continuous. Even if the heart is isolated from the outside world, the soul is still connected. I like one person and everyone, I love myself and the world. After reading it, I know there are still many areas that need to be improved, and that's what I'm looking forward to.

This book breaks people's original theory of destiny, as well as sitting and waiting for the arrangement of fate, waiting for the gears of fate to turn. In fact, from God's perspective, and from the perspective of the identity of those who have experienced it, every step taken by each and every dancer has an unchangeable result. From now on, it's fate. From the perspective of that time, the life they experienced and their mood at that time are the results that everyone should respect. And aren't each of us going to live our lives well at this time? Everyone is a dancer, and every step we take is a decision made at the moment, resulting in a constant result.

Compared with "The Courage to Be Disliked", I feel that it is much more difficult to have "The Courage to Be Happy". Like scholars, we are slowly progressing on our own life path, but we also feel that we have slowly forgotten the way we came, and we seem to have less courage. I first read "The Courage to Be Disliked" when I was in junior high school. At that time, I was introverted and sensitive, and was consumed by academic anxiety. "The Courage to Be Disliked" gave me great encouragement and helped me regain my confidence. I have walked a long way alone and become independent and self-consistent. But when did it change again? Suddenly I feel like I have returned to the self that was constantly internally conflicted. We have all grown up, and we have experienced more and more things. The problems we face are not just academic pressure. I seem to have slowly blocked myself and become afraid of social interaction. As scholars say, I have not yet become a completely independent person. I will care about what others think and will harm myself. I am afraid of happiness, so I make a lot of excuses for myself. After reading "The Courage to Be Happy", I feel that the enlightenment feeling I had before is back. But compared to "The Courage to Be Disliked", I feel that this book has become much sharper. I would like to refute it like a young person, but the scholar hits the nail on the head, like tearing open the wound and letting me face it bravely. Now. I am already a sophomore and will soon enter the society. I believe everyone will get better and better. I will too. Will I be happy? Definitely! Everyone wants happiness!

I liked "The Courage to Be Disliked" very much, so I was looking forward to reading the sequel "The Courage to Be Happy", but after reading the sequel, it was not as amazing as I imagined. Most of the contents and views of this book are similar to those of the previous book, from the separation of topics to the feeling of community. It is explained in detail that the prerequisite for subject separation is self-acceptance and respect for others. You must learn to see others as partners you can travel with, and you must have the courage to connect with others in love. Trust is the prerequisite for love, and love requires the joint construction and creation of two independent and equally completed souls. The book constructs a desirable ideal interpersonal picture based on "feeling of community" and "love". However, its theoretical foundation is highly dependent on whether the individual can first achieve "self-acceptance" and have the "courage to be hated." While reading, I was constantly troubled by a question: How can a person continue to make real contributions that are "unpleasant and non-manipulative" when his inner sense of value is shaky? It is difficult to consolidate this fragile premise with ideas alone. In addition, the complexity of human motivations determines that it is difficult for us to have a 100% pure desire to contribute, which is often mixed with the desire for a sense of belonging and confirmation of self-worth. Acknowledging and reconciling this complexity may be a more critical starting point for practice than pursuing a pure "feeling of community."

To face anything, we need courage and the support of strength. Only when we have courage and strength can we face various difficulties in life. Self-enlightenment is an important part. This book talks about this important truth. A good book about economics can really inspire a lot of people and bring a lot of wealth and power to our lives. I highly recommend everyone to read this book. It will definitely benefit you a lot.

Perhaps only by experiencing it can you feel the "truth that has not been proven by science" behind the words of these two books. But as a reader, as long as you believe it is right, it may invisibly produce a driving force in future life and help us feel happiness better. The first book takes the theme of contribution and separation of tasks as the theme, while the second book is further updated to "self-reliance and love". I think love is a false and empty word. Even though I have seen countless movies and books that contain this word since I was a child, I still don't understand it. But this book gave me a lot of inspiration. I like the sentence love is a kind of determination so much. Yes, love does require determination!

If we can really use education to build people up in the junior high school stage, help children establish their own personality and self-worth, and be able to make their own decisions and be responsible for them, that would be a great event in the education world.

We can neither throw away nor replace the container "I"; However, it's what's inside the container that matters; We must constantly strive to empty the container and inject new things, to replace it with new ideas and worldviews. And if you want to change, you must change the way you communicate with the world, and even change your own behavior. Please don't forget the original intention of the change; You are still "you", you just have to choose your lifestyle again. The Courage of Happiness I liked the previous book "The Courage to Be Disliked" very much. After reading "The Courage to Be Happy", I added it to my bookshelf without hesitation and started my journey to happiness. If the previous work can be summarized as "all troubles are troubles in interpersonal relationships" + "separation of topics"; Then it can also be said that this work is equivalent to "all happiness is also the happiness of interpersonal relationships" + "feeling of community". It gives me a very strange feeling. The previous work told us to learn to separate tasks, not interfere with other people's tasks, and not rely on other people's evaluations. However, this work requires us to try to build the trust of others and perceive self-worth through "being useful to others." Feeling of community The community here is not a group in the physical sense, such as family or company, but a psychological sense of belonging and connection. The sense of community means that individuals realize that they are "part of a larger whole" and find the meaning of existence in their connections with others. When individuals have a sense of community, a perspective shift occurs, switching from a thinking mode of what is good for me to what is the meaning of this thing for us. What I empathize with the most is that in today's work, taking the initiative to take on marginal tasks is not entirely based on personal utilitarian perspective, but purely because I feel like it and mainly because of my willingness. Having a sense of community can relieve loneliness. Loneliness sometimes does not mean being unaccompanied, but rather refusing to connect with others and being in a state of self-isolation. And to build connections, you don't necessarily have to join a specific group; Open the book and collide with the author's thoughts in the text; You can also feel the 🍅community by clicking on the book chapters and comments.

Continuing the content of the previous book, it uses a question-and-answer format to answer some of the same confusing questions for readers, leading readers to gain an in-depth understanding of its concepts. The concept of philosophy is like this. If you want to explain it, you must explain it thoroughly, otherwise various deviations will easily occur.

Go up and do good. Not nihilism. Practice it. Adler's thoughts are more practical, practical and meaningful. It is not the past that cannot be changed, nor the unknown future. The basis is what we can do, teaching us to be brave.

This book is a practical guide to Adlerian psychology, with the core of "subject separation" and "community feeling". It tells us that happiness comes from freedom, and freedom comes from the courage not to be afraid of being disliked. We must learn to separate our own affairs from those of others, and not to please or criticize harshly. At the same time, take the initiative to establish connections with others and find a sense of value in your contributions. True love is not control, but respect and independence. The conversational writing style in the book makes abstract theories approachable and easy to understand, and can directly guide our lives. After reading it, I no longer cling to other people's evaluations, learn to accept myself, dare to choose, and have easier interpersonal relationships.

① Learn to love yourself first, then learn to love others, and take the initiative to pursue love instead of waiting for love to come. ② Treat others with respect and love. This is my task. It doesn't matter if I don't respond. That is other people's task. ③We may be hurt in the process of pursuing happiness. May we still maintain our original intention and keep moving forward. ④Respect other people's issues, you can help, but don't interfere, don't restrain others in the name of love ⑥Although it will be difficult in practice, don't look back, don't stop, keep moving forward

Love is the fundamental way back. Only true self-reliance can produce true love, so first affirm yourself in daily life and fall deeply in love with yourself. After all, the most loyal listener and audience in the world is yourself, so don't ignore yourself, but listen to, accept and appreciate yourself. In this way, no matter what comes, the reaction is no longer fear, but calm acceptance. Secondly, love others, whether family members, friends or strangers. Those who love me will be happy and happy, and those who don't love me will be safe and smooth. In the end, may everything move towards happiness❤️ ————2025.12.20

This book takes the thoughts of the famous psychologist Adler as the core and uses the form of stories to show readers the connotation of the theme. It can be said to be a good spiritual reading. This book provides a systematic and comprehensive introduction to self-enlightenment. It not only introduces the importance of self-enlightenment, but also introduces how to conduct self-enlightenment, matters that should be paid attention to when performing self-enlightenment, etc. In the specific narration process, the author uses a large number of real cases to assist the explanation, reducing the obstacles readers encounter in the reading process, making it both readable and interesting.

"The Courage to Be Happy", as the sequel to "The Courage to Be Hated", is more grounded than the first one and is especially suitable for people who are troubled by internal friction, interpersonal relationships, and family trivial matters. The whole book is written in a conversational style, making it easy to read without being obscure, and there are no difficult theories to understand. If the previous book taught me to separate subjects and gain freedom, this book taught me how to actively embrace happiness. Happiness is not waiting, but requires the courage to love, give, and build a sense of community. After reading it, I have solved a lot of knots in my heart, and my attitude toward family, children, and friends has become much calmer. It is worth reading again and again, and it is highly recommended!

Face your heart. Although I have read "The Courage to Be Disliked" and this book, I still feel fearful and uneasy and dare not start. However, based on the content in the book, if I want to achieve happiness, I must take this first step! This is both the beginning of self-reliance and the journey away from ourselves and toward "us." Until the end of life!

This book is like a dear friend, using Adler's philosophy to teach us a lesson on happiness. It reminds me of Fu Gui in "Alive", who can still find happiness in life even after experiencing all kinds of hardships. The views in the book are very sharp, telling us that happiness is not about escaping from problems, but about having the courage to face impermanence. Just like the old man in "The Old Man and the Sea", even if he comes back empty-handed from fishing, he can still face life firmly. This book is a guide on the road to happiness and is worth reading.

This definitely deserves five stars. It's great to study. You can communicate with thoughtful people despite financial constraints.

Why is it called individual psychology? Because the individual is the smallest indivisible unit. Psychoanalysis believes that the "subconscious mind" controls the "conscious mind". Individual psychology believes that the two are unified and transform each other. Similarly, social phobia is considered by psychoanalysis to be "repetition of early object relationships" because of the important relationship between childhood and childhood. The person-related blow does not establish subjectivity, causing the individual to think that he is not good enough and dare not interact with other subjects. If he wants to try, he will be controlled by the subconscious. The "traumatic experience" in the subconscious tells himself that this is wrong and that if he cannot try, he will be as bad as before. This is the theory of cause. Individual psychology believes that it is an individual's choice to enter the "subconscious" or the "conscious". For example, in the book, if country A defeats country B, country A is a hero, and if country B defeats country A, country A is a bear. The same is true for individuals. During a quarrel, hiding the side that is not good for you in the "subconscious" and putting the side that is good for you in the "conscious" means that the individual chooses to be a person. People who are vain and narcissistic put both advantages and disadvantages in their conscious mind. This means that the individual chooses to be a realistic person, but the event is still the same event, but the person's choice has changed. The individual is the hands, and the subconscious and conscious minds are boxes. Psychoanalysis believes that these hands are bound by the past, and individual psychology believes that these hands are free to meet personal purposes.

After reading "The Courage to Be Disliked" and "The Courage to Be Happy", I got a preliminary understanding of Adlerian psychology, which was very shocking and rewarding. These two books have clear principles and easy-to-read words. They provided me with different perspectives and methods of looking at the world, life, others, and myself. A rare good book! It is worth re-reading and in-depth study for me many times in the future!

Seeing the sudden end at the end, I still have more to say. I believe how to get love is a question for many people. Can you get love by loving? The answer is yes. I can't believe it. Is it that simple? Wouldn't it lead to nothing and end in failure? If I still ask such questions, it means that I am not independent yet. How did I figure it out? Facing the world with a smile and loving the world is loving yourself and a way of life. When you do this, you will have achieved happiness. When you meet the right person, you will naturally know how to get love, not to mention that this is not a problem for one person. Loving others is also loving oneself, loving oneself is also loving others, and love is a subject between two people, a mutual choice, and how to choose. It is also mixed with desire and rationality, reality and illusion. (How to choose a one-word summary that is appropriate)

When I was a sophomore in high school, I read "The Courage to Be Disliked" and for the first time I was liberated from the "object of being stared at" and became the "subject of being disliked." I learned to separate subjects, no longer harm myself for other people's expectations or complaints, and told myself "you have the courage to be hated." Four years have passed, and now I am a sophomore in college, reading "The Courage to Happiness". I was once confused about "what is marriage" and "how does love happen", but now I finally got the answer, and I have learned to be a companion of Adlerian psychology with young people and philosophers, applying the theory to reality and constantly improving it.

After reading it intermittently, I was stunned when I saw "fear of other people's expectations". I was really afraid of other people's expectations and tried to prove my incompetence. Before doing anything, I had to make sure with others that I couldn't do it before I did it. Because I was afraid of not being able to meet other people's expectations, I didn't want to bear the consequences of disappointment, and I didn't have the courage to face it. , It turns out that I don't have the courage to face interpersonal relationships. I always thought that I understood interpersonal relationships, so I didn't want to make friends at all. In fact, it was precisely because I was afraid of interpersonal relationships that I didn't want to make friends. I was also waiting, waiting for the right friend to appear. I wanted to passively accept relationships, but in fact I was afraid that taking the initiative would not lead to results. Maybe I should take the initiative to take the first step and take the initiative to trust others. This is my subject. I must face it. The expectations of others are the trust of others in me. Since it is trust, why should I be afraid of not doing well? Let's finish the work first and then talk about whether it is good or not. The first step is taken first. The road ahead will be said slowly. If we talk deeply, we will be shallow. We will walk slowly on the long road in the future.

After reading it, my heart couldn't help but be filled with sadness. Such courage, such determination, such a choice... To be able to take the first step and remain unwavering in the days to come, what kind of courage does it take? I don't know much about Altay. What to choose in the future is what everyone should think about after reading this series of books. The philosopher is right, mere understanding does not produce any change. After reading it, I couldn't help but embrace this great soul. It gave me the courage to choose my way of life again. Thanks.

This book can be linked to the courage to be hated. It is rich in content and inspiring. It breaks the inherent concepts, gives the courage to embrace a new life, relieves confusion and troubles, and leads us to explore the courage to obtain happiness.

The reason why I started to want to read this book was after reading the paper version of "The Courage to Be Disliked". It stems from my love for the easy-to-understand discussion of philosophy and psychology in the form of dialogue, and the feeling that the "Courage Two-part" has not been completed in my heart. But the end of the book also shows that it is unfinished, there is no definite "end", there is no definite "result", we are all in "every moment of life". It's not that I was "destined" to read it, but that I had the courage to make the decision. It started from the moment I bought it, from the time I browsed through it, and from now on. It is highly recommended to read, because there is a new world in the book, or a world that already exists, but you have not seen it yet.

Before, I only knew the courage to be disliked, but then I discovered that he also had the courage to be happy, and learned about the new "courage". Currently, I still prefer Adler's psychology, because it is indeed an easy-to-understand psychology. There are no lengthy texts. It is the people and things that are closest to life and can be seen every day. Focusing on these, I talk about "happiness" Regarding "happiness", I think I still need to study for a long time, maybe years, decades, decades, but I still feel that if I move forward and move forward, one day I will have different feelings when I look back. I finished reading this book on the first day of July 2026.

It's so interesting. In the past, it was all stories made up by myself, "hateful others" and "poor myself". Now that I think about it, it seems to be like this. Anyone who comes to complain to you, or you find others to complain about, it's all like this!

I have read both books in the set. I thought it was a best-seller just by reading the title, but it was actually very shocking and took me a lifetime to understand. This book writes about love and being loved very clearly. It reminds me of what Yang Liping once said, "A little ant is also my child. Many lives are worthy of our love, and there is no need to have a sense of belonging." All I know is that I don't want to spend my whole life being defensive and afraid of getting hurt, it will overwhelm me.

Some contents subvert three views, but they also make sense. After reading it, it brought some changes in my views and made me realize more. I cannot fully understand and implement it immediately, I can only understand it slowly. I hope we all have the courage to be happy!