In this modern society that values extroversion, encourages social interaction, and is rich in information, sensitivity and introversion are personality traits that are not encouraged. The thoughts and mood swings of highly sensitive people are always affected by the outside world, and they are tired of coping and fall into low self-confidence.
Huge amounts of information are pouring in, and we are exhausted both physically and mentally. What should we do?
Is there a way to stop the little theater of disaster in my mind?
Do we really need to completely reject Moments and social networks?
What is your own happiness and meaning of life?
What should you do when you have a conflict with someone?
Danish psychotherapist Ilse Sander has accumulated more information counseling cases after seven years and put forward the most practical suggestions for problems commonly encountered by highly sensitive people and introverts.
14 Self-affirmation spells to affirm your own uniqueness, feel more, imagine more, and create more.
Even if you're not a social person, you can still be gregarious.
Allow yourself to be lazy and just recharge your batteries.
We don't like conflict, but that doesn't mean we don't express anger.
We only say things that are meaningful to others and ourselves.
We don't do useless socializing.
We take all issues seriously.
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Reader comments
"Written for those who are highly sensitive and have fragile souls." This is the author's understanding and confession of highly sensitive people. He understands that such people are incompatible with life in modern society, and often examines themselves based on the mainstream lifestyle and values of society, and therefore falls into pain. The author sincerely believes that highly sensitive people have amazing potential. They have developed nervous systems and can feel the nuances of things and perceive more information. But because of this, the brains of highly sensitive people are very heavy, and they need to take good care of themselves while realizing their potential.
I don't know if I have this kind of personality, but some of the descriptions fit quite well. The author enlightened me like a close friend. I was very happy and felt much better. I also have a trusting perspective on myself, others, and the world. [Understood]
Knowing yourself is also looking for similar people. Highly sensitive and introverted people are not alone. "Everyone is what they should be." Only in this way can the world be colorful, full of fun, and worth reading.
Highly sensitive people have always been regarded as different and disliked by society. They are seen as emotionally unstable, sentimental, indecisive, lacking in confidence, easily hurt, and taciturn. These negative labels also make highly sensitive people develop an anxious and nervous mentality. However, 25% of people in the world are highly sensitive people, which means that one in four people will be highly sensitive. Sander calls high sensitivity a rare gift. They have more developed nervous systems and more active perception abilities, and can often discover details that others cannot. In a relaxed state, they can think more fully and carefully, and are more sensitive to the emotions of others. Their artistic cells are very developed, and their spiritual world is extremely full. Therefore, highly sensitive people must learn to appreciate their own abilities and express their ideas bravely, even though they are different.
In this era where extroversion and social life are encouraged, introversion seems to have become a flaw that needs to be made up for; whether it is introversion or extroversion, it is largely a person's preset and is difficult to change. The author points out that the two personalities There are no absolute advantages or disadvantages to traits, so even a fragile and sensitive soul can experience happiness that ordinary people cannot imagine; it can also be gregarious. Who says that gregariousness must be with equally cheerful friends? There are always people with the same interests as us among the thousands of people.
I am very grateful to the author for his detailed analysis and description. I have accepted my sensitive self more comprehensively and deeply, which has helped me get over more childhood trauma. At the same time, I have a more comprehensive perspective on the people around me. I learned about my sensitivity to sounds, learned to protect myself better, and set better boundaries. I hope that we highly sensitive people can understand our own characteristics, take good care of our hearts, and give full play to our vitality. We are the warmth and bright color of this world!
I am an introvert. Although this book talks about high sensitivity, I also learned a lot, and this book helped me no longer worry about whether I am highly sensitive.
In this era where extroversion and social life are encouraged, introversion seems to have become a flaw that needs to be made up for; whether it is introversion or extroversion, it is largely a person's preset and is difficult to change. The author points out that the two personalities There are no absolute advantages or disadvantages to traits, so even a fragile and sensitive soul can experience happiness that ordinary people cannot imagine; it can also be gregarious. Who says that gregariousness must be with equally cheerful friends? There are always people with the same interests as us among the thousands of people.
"Written for those who are highly sensitive and have fragile souls." This is the author's understanding and confession of highly sensitive people. He understands that such people are incompatible with life in modern society, and often examines themselves based on the mainstream lifestyle and values of society, and therefore falls into pain. The author sincerely believes that highly sensitive people have amazing potential. They have developed nervous systems and can feel the nuances of things and perceive more information. But because of this, the brains of highly sensitive people are very heavy, and they need to take good care of themselves while realizing their potential.
There are a lot of repetitive remarks, but I have found resonance with many authors. Some of the suggestions and methods are indeed what I have tried to use in the past. There are some new methods that I will be happy to try in the future. While being myself, I can make integrating into society and the people around me less difficult!
It is very suitable for people with high sensitivity. It makes me feel less lonely and happy for my high sensitivity.
This is a representative work by Danish psychologist Sander. Each book is not too thick, making it easy to read extensively in the first time and intensive reading in the second time. I finished reading the first and second books in this series this week. Understanding hypersensitivity can be a turning point in many lives, at least for me. There is no point in adapting to circumstances and self-denigration, which not only robs us of the opportunity to understand ourselves, but also robs people who don't know what sensitivity is of the opportunity to understand us.
This book made me understand that I am not inferior, I am just good at observing👍👍👍👍
I feel that it is very accurate, but every time I read it, it will deepen my impression. I do feel a little uncomfortable after reading it. I always feel that most of the cases written by the author are describing myself [face covering]
This book helped me understand why I felt so uncomfortable when facing some similar problems. It was very well written!
I especially like the self-affirmation spells mentioned in the book, they are really practical. Moreover, the protagonist who shared his experience in the book made me see my own reflection and gave me a lot of inspiration. I think this book is not only suitable for highly sensitive people, but also for people around them to read, so that they can better understand them. All in all, this is a very meaningful book.
This book helped me a lot and made me understand a lot of things.
It's a very good book. After reading it, I suddenly became enlightened.
After reading this book, I learned a lot of tips that I can apply in my life. Worth reading.
Thank you thank you thank you
Know yourself and live a free life
It resonates and speaks volumes.
Let me know myself
I'm in my senior year of high school. I've felt the difference in myself since the first year of junior high school. But now that I'm about to collapse, I start to face myself. This book is great.
Many of the descriptions in the book are very similar to my situation. I can see my own reflection in the book and let myself know that this is what it is and that I am not alone.
The writing is detailed and can resonate with highly sensitive people. This will also reduce internal friction and help them find a self-accepted lifestyle.
I haven't finished it yet, but I'm halfway through it. I can say it's very interesting!
A very interesting book that helps people understand highly sensitive personalities from a highly sensitive perspective
"Written for those who are highly sensitive and have fragile souls." This is the author's understanding and confession of highly sensitive people. He understands that such people are incompatible with life in modern society, and often examines themselves based on the mainstream lifestyle and values of society, and therefore falls into pain. The author sincerely believes that highly sensitive people have amazing potential. They have developed nervous systems and can feel the nuances of things and perceive more information. But because of this, the brains of highly sensitive people are very heavy, and they need to take good care of themselves while realizing their potential.
I don't know if I have this kind of personality, but some of the descriptions fit quite well. The author enlightened me like a close friend. I was very happy and felt much better. I also have a trusting perspective on myself, others, and the world. [Understood]
Knowing yourself is also looking for similar people. Highly sensitive and introverted people are not alone. "Everyone is what they should be." Only in this way can the world be colorful, full of fun, and worth reading.
Highly sensitive people have always been regarded as different and disliked by society. They are seen as emotionally unstable, sentimental, indecisive, lacking in confidence, easily hurt, and taciturn. These negative labels also make highly sensitive people develop an anxious and nervous mentality. However, 25% of people in the world are highly sensitive people, which means that one in four people will be highly sensitive. Sander calls high sensitivity a rare gift. They have more developed nervous systems and more active perception abilities, and can often discover details that others cannot. In a relaxed state, they can think more fully and carefully, and are more sensitive to the emotions of others. Their artistic cells are very developed, and their spiritual world is extremely full. Therefore, highly sensitive people must learn to appreciate their own abilities and express their ideas bravely, even though they are different.
In this era where extroversion and social life are encouraged, introversion seems to have become a flaw that needs to be made up for; whether it is introversion or extroversion, it is largely a person's preset and is difficult to change. The author points out that the two personalities There are no absolute advantages or disadvantages to traits, so even a fragile and sensitive soul can experience happiness that ordinary people cannot imagine; it can also be gregarious. Who says that gregariousness must be with equally cheerful friends? There are always people with the same interests as us among the thousands of people.
I am very grateful to the author for his detailed analysis and description. I have accepted my sensitive self more comprehensively and deeply, which has helped me get over more childhood trauma. At the same time, I have a more comprehensive perspective on the people around me. I learned about my sensitivity to sounds, learned to protect myself better, and set better boundaries. I hope that we highly sensitive people can understand our own characteristics, take good care of our hearts, and give full play to our vitality. We are the warmth and bright color of this world!
I am an introvert. Although this book talks about high sensitivity, I also learned a lot, and this book helped me no longer worry about whether I am highly sensitive.
In this era where extroversion and social life are encouraged, introversion seems to have become a flaw that needs to be made up for; whether it is introversion or extroversion, it is largely a person's preset and is difficult to change. The author points out that the two personalities There are no absolute advantages or disadvantages to traits, so even a fragile and sensitive soul can experience happiness that ordinary people cannot imagine; it can also be gregarious. Who says that gregariousness must be with equally cheerful friends? There are always people with the same interests as us among the thousands of people.
"Written for those who are highly sensitive and have fragile souls." This is the author's understanding and confession of highly sensitive people. He understands that such people are incompatible with life in modern society, and often examines themselves based on the mainstream lifestyle and values of society, and therefore falls into pain. The author sincerely believes that highly sensitive people have amazing potential. They have developed nervous systems and can feel the nuances of things and perceive more information. But because of this, the brains of highly sensitive people are very heavy, and they need to take good care of themselves while realizing their potential.
There are a lot of repetitive remarks, but I have found resonance with many authors. Some of the suggestions and methods are indeed what I have tried to use in the past. There are some new methods that I will be happy to try in the future. While being myself, I can make integrating into society and the people around me less difficult!
It is very suitable for people with high sensitivity. It makes me feel less lonely and happy for my high sensitivity.
This is a representative work by Danish psychologist Sander. Each book is not too thick, making it easy to read extensively in the first time and intensive reading in the second time. I finished reading the first and second books in this series this week. Understanding hypersensitivity can be a turning point in many lives, at least for me. There is no point in adapting to circumstances and self-denigration, which not only robs us of the opportunity to understand ourselves, but also robs people who don't know what sensitivity is of the opportunity to understand us.
This book made me understand that I am not inferior, I am just good at observing👍👍👍👍
I feel that it is very accurate, but every time I read it, it will deepen my impression. I do feel a little uncomfortable after reading it. I always feel that most of the cases written by the author are describing myself [face covering]
This book helped me understand why I felt so uncomfortable when facing some similar problems. It was very well written!
I especially like the self-affirmation spells mentioned in the book, they are really practical. Moreover, the protagonist who shared his experience in the book made me see my own reflection and gave me a lot of inspiration. I think this book is not only suitable for highly sensitive people, but also for people around them to read, so that they can better understand them. All in all, this is a very meaningful book.
This book helped me a lot and made me understand a lot of things.
It's a very good book. After reading it, I suddenly became enlightened.
After reading this book, I learned a lot of tips that I can apply in my life. Worth reading.
Thank you thank you thank you
Know yourself and live a free life
It resonates and speaks volumes.
Let me know myself
I'm in my senior year of high school. I've felt the difference in myself since the first year of junior high school. But now that I'm about to collapse, I start to face myself. This book is great.
Many of the descriptions in the book are very similar to my situation. I can see my own reflection in the book and let myself know that this is what it is and that I am not alone.
The writing is detailed and can resonate with highly sensitive people. This will also reduce internal friction and help them find a self-accepted lifestyle.
I haven't finished it yet, but I'm halfway through it. I can say it's very interesting!
A very interesting book that helps people understand highly sensitive personalities from a highly sensitive perspective