Intimacy

It is very suitable for people with love brain to read. After reading it, you will find that love brain is just a manifestation of immature mind. Intimacy is about discovering your true nature, acknowledging all that you are, and taking full responsibility for yourself. It's definitely not about expecting the other person to give you happiness, it's not about shirking your responsibilities, it's not about indulging yourself or the other person. The existence of intimate relationships allows us to recognize ourselves, face ourselves, and improve ourselves. Become independent, strong, responsible and brave. Have the courage to trust, believe that the future is full of hope, admit your own beauty, correct your shortcomings, discover your own soul, and find the true meaning of life. True love is selfless, asking for nothing in return, and giving 100%. Responsibility for your partner is your responsibility for yourself. [Like][Like][Like] I hope that everyone can gain insight into the brilliance of human nature and gain the ability to love and be loved in this world where money is paramount and money is paramount.

It's a very good book, and I definitely make more progress after reading it than not reading it. What I learned is that we fight against problems instead of me fighting against my lover; what I learned is that anger and loss actually come from the desire to be loved; I learned to express my needs directly, not only to learn how to get along with intimate relationships, but also to shape a more sound personality; when I didn't do well enough, I still regretted why I haven't become as mature as I imagined, but there is no limit to learning about life, and I can enjoy every inch of progress. This book goes from falling in love to breaking up, breaking up and starting a new relationship. I am happy for myself. When I encounter problems, I don't always think about breaking up. I try to solve them and work hard for them. I have done a good job.

I finally finished reading this book. Some of the points in the book were enlightening: I have experienced this feeling too. It turns out that it can be explained in this way and viewed from another perspective. Some of the points are not yet understood, but I believe that in the course of my life, there will definitely be a moment when I can relate to the books I have read and use my understanding of the book to solve the problems I encounter. So, the third book in 2023 is completed, let's move on to the next one [currently in progress]

A book worth reading twice. There is also Adlerian Psychology: The Courage to Be Disliked. It is recommended to consume it together. The intimate relationship we are talking about is actually more than just an intimate relationship. The author even provides an idea for solving the problem.

After reading this book, I saw the deepest part of my soul and understood that any intimate relationship is like seeking from within and creating expectations for myself. Everyone is an independent individual. Before you have these emotions, you should first think about why, so that you can get closer to the essence of your soul, understand yourself better, and enrich your spiritual world.

This book helps you understand how to get along with your lover. It is worth recommending.

From foreseeing the unknown self to intimate relationships, from being single to being married for several years, I gained a deeper understanding of the content in the book. Intimate relationships in life need to be continuously improved. The first is awareness, awareness of oneself, and awareness of love. Moon halo, disillusionment, introspection, revelation, etc., All help to realize one's own awareness in life. It is easier to know than to do, or there may be no knowledge at all. To unite knowledge and action, to love, to feel, to be aware. Great book, full marks 💯. Uncover the complex and fascinating veil and discover the true meaning of love! ——"Intimacy". Intimacy is not only an exchange of emotions, but also an opportunity for self-growth. In getting along, we will go through stages such as the romance period, the power struggle period, and the indifference period. The conflicts and contradictions at each stage are actually reflections of unsatisfied inner needs. Arguments are not the end of a relationship, but the beginning of a transformation. You must learn to understand your own emotions, understand your partner's needs, and use love and tolerance to resolve conflicts. See love and family relationships from a new perspective, learn to grow in intimate relationships, and gain a deeper and more fulfilling emotional connection. [Three core questions] 1. Why do quarrels occur in intimate relationships? : Because of unmet needs on both sides, differences in expectations, and poor communication. (Frequently asked questions: Couples have different opinions on family financial planning. Some want to save money, while others want to improve the quality of life) 2. How to avoid escalating conflicts in intimate relationships? : Both parties must learn to be calm, listen to each other's point of view, find common ground, and control emotions. (When quarreling, you should realize that something is wrong in time, pause the quarrel first, and wait for both parties to calm down before communicating calmly) 3. Is personal space important in an intimate relationship? : Important, appropriate personal space allows individuals to maintain independence and self-growth, and helps improve the quality of relationships. (After marriage, one party wants to participate in some activities of personal interest, and the other party provides support and understanding, which makes the relationship between each other deeper) Content Sharing 1. "The real motivation behind starting and maintaining an intimate relationship is actually need." 2. "We usually project all the unmet needs that we have not had since childhood onto the person who loves us and makes us feel special. We feel that with him (her), these needs will be satisfied." 3. "Expectations are the road to hell. They block out loving feelings like acceptance and freedom." 4. "If we place too high expectations on others' ability to please us, disappointment will be the inevitable result." 5. "You will eventually find that your needs cannot be fully met, and you will feel disappointed or even resentful. If you feel resentful, it means that the first stage of the halo phenomenon is over, and you have entered the second stage of intimate relationships - disillusionment."

This book explains some problems that arise in the intimate relationship with my partner and proposes solutions. It helps me understand how to get along better in my relationship. It is very suitable for people who have a partner or are about to have a partner.

The content is particularly rich. It not only contains theory, but also combines the author's own practice to make the content more convincing and operable. Intimacy is a lifelong issue. In today's world of extremely abundant material resources, spiritual incompatibility seems to be increasingly intolerable. And intimate relationships are the best testing ground. The author gives too many ways on how to go hand in hand and enjoy this relationship instead of falling into hell on earth. It may sometimes be a one-man show, but it will always free yourself from anxiety and suffering and maintain a good state and mood. This is the most important thing.

I read this book after listening to Teacher Fan Deng's explanation, because I have been having a lot of conflicts with my husband and children recently, which made me very anxious. When I looked at it carefully, I couldn't understand it. It was very abstract and a bit shocking. It opened a window to my soul and made me suddenly enlightened. I will continue to research, thank you author Christopher Meng!

The book tells us how to face problems in intimate relationships, how to think about them, and how to deal with them from the heart. Our partners are not the source of our joy and happiness. They have no responsibilities or obligations. They are like a mirror, a teacher, and a playmate, accompanying us to spend our slow time. The world in our eyes is also a reflection of our innermost beings. We must bravely face the true thoughts in our hearts, correct them when we are wrong, and fill our souls and lives with love.

Very good. I read good books on and off for a month. I benefited a lot, I understood a lot of thoughts that I had been depressed about before, and suddenly the clouds cleared and we broke up [blowing kiss]

I like the form of telling stories. Although the whole book is relatively difficult to understand for me who have never been in love, I also gained a lot of theoretical and methodological knowledge, although the methods may not be put into use yet. However, I believe I may come back to this book from time to time when I encounter problems or something. In addition, I don't quite understand the author's definition of intimacy in the preface. Although the author is talking about true intimacy, I feel that I still need to experience it myself or go through it before I can have a deeper understanding. The most profound thing is the explanation of the moon halo phenomenon. We are willing to be blinded by love, be swallowed up by love, and yearn for a sweet life. Since you love, you must abandon distracting thoughts and the pain in the subsequent stages, solve it when you encounter it, enjoy the moment first, and work hard for your loving partner. In the end, the whole book really helped me a lot to understand and believe in myself. I will come back to read it. After all, there are too many uncertainties in close relationships in life, so reading this book is still useful.

I opened this book with a confused heart looking for answers. Intimacy is really a subject that needs to be learned throughout my life. The book divides intimacy into four stages, including disillusionment and self-reflection. Intimacy is a mirror, in which you see yourself, your longing, repression, and a part of you, living or dead, you can see in the other person. Everything you see is your interpretation. You look forward to these wonderful things so much that you can't tell whether they are imagination or reality, so that you have to transform the other person to achieve the perfection in your mind. When the other person fails to meet your requirements, when the other person does not change as you want, you will feel that the other person does not love you, and by extension you are not good enough and not worthy of being loved. All the conflicts, conflicts, gaps and pain will come, catching you off guard and making the other person feel deep pressure. Therefore, many relationships end at this stage of disillusionment. But true intimacy is the next stage of introspection. You have to understand that only you can be 100% responsible for your own emotions. Those competitions for power, doubts, attachments, and the created mentality of victim, persecutor, and savior are just excuses to avoid facing your own heart. You will find that the way you treat your partner is actually the way you treat yourself. It seems that all these problems are so difficult to solve, and these negative emotions are so difficult to control, but as long as you want this relationship, cherish this relationship, and be able to communicate calmly, then these difficult problems will eventually become a gift and make your relationship closer. You need patience, wisdom, love, practice, and you will eventually get enlightenment. Intimacy is the bridge to the soul. You find yourself and understand yourself in intimate relationships, not to make yourself perfect, but to make yourself complete. It seems easy to say, but it is indeed not easy to do. Recognizing the problem is just the beginning. Finding the answer in the problem is still a long way to unify knowledge and action. May we all find ourselves in love.

After reading this book, I really felt the author's sincere emotions. The delicate writing sometimes made me feel abstract, because I have never experienced love myself and don't know what it is. I always want to ask for it from others, but I never thought about letting myself love with all my strength. When I love seriously, love will find me! Thanks to the author, this is not the last time we meet. This time it is because of confusion and pain. Next time I hope it will be because I want to treat each other better or love each other more. Goodbye!

Intimacy is not only love, but also friendship and family affection. After reading this book, I am more open-minded and know how to deal with problems that arise in these relationships. From the halo phenomenon, disillusionment, to self-introspection and the final revelation, I suddenly understood some things that I had been confused about before. I look forward to my next intimate relationship. Let's embark on a journey of growth together~ Today is also a beautiful day. It's the same as after reading this book. Come on, Xiao Li. On the road to growth, don't forget to love freedom~

It's a good book, but I can't understand it at first glance. The main reason is that the expressions in foreign and domestic texts are different.

It's a very good book, and I have deep feelings about it, because I live close to Chaoshan, and my parents have traditional ideas. In the book, I thought of my eldest sister, who has five children in the family. The eldest sister is the victim (including my other two sisters. My two sisters' lives are not bad). They were arranged by their parents to go on a blind date early, and the other family's family conditions were not bad. It seems that my brother-in-law had a gambling habit before the marriage, and he hid it from me before the marriage. Sister, I owed a lot of money after marriage because of this. When I first found out about this, I thought my sister should get divorced, but she didn't and she gave birth to several children. Last year, another sister asked me whether she wanted this child. My sister's suggestion was not to give birth to me because she already has three children and her financial situation is not very good. But my sister decided to have the child because of some kind words from her father-in-law and mother-in-law. I expressed He expressed incomprehension and thought that my sister was a pleaser. A relative of mine married a man who was close to home and the man's conditions were okay. However, she had no job after she got married and had children. She relied on her husband's money, but he was very stingy. He didn't even give her 1,000 yuan a month. I was shocked. The marriage I saw from my sister and the people around me was not good, which led me to be a non-marriage person. Because of fear and fear, and because of my parents' thoughts, I just wanted to stay away from them. During the Chinese New Year last year, I was only 19 years old. My dad said to me that I would like dad to find you a boyfriend near home to introduce to you. I was thinking that this is what a father should say. I have not had a good relationship with my dad since junior high school. I also chose to stay in the hotel. I couldn't even say ten sentences when I went back because I didn't want to communicate. Communication, I feel that two people with different ideas will quarrel when they chat together. I went out to work, and my parents asked me if I had any money when I went back because my brother was about to get married, because girls over there have to hand over their money to their parents, but my brother didn't pay any money to the family. My sister's gift money was also given to my parents to build a house, or it was saved for my brother's wedding. I still think this This place has limited thinking and is not friendly to women, so I hate my brother, because I think he is the beneficiary, and everything is obviously caused by the ideological problems in this small place. Because of my powerlessness, I blame my parents and my brother. My parents would rather use everything to support my brother. I hate them saying that girls are good and have no pressure, and they also talk about taking gift money, as if girls are just a Items that can be exchanged. I hate this place, so I work and make money just to have capital and the courage to fight against them. I have a friend who has seven children in the family, and the last one is a son. My friend is the second child. She got pregnant out of wedlock after one year of working in a technical school. She got engaged at the same age as me. She talked about the boy in school. I think this is abnormal, but in my case That place is very common. I am glad that I went to school for a few more years. I learned some things while going to school and helped me grow. If I had not gone to school, I don't know if my future would be like them. I was very emotionally drained by my relationship with my family, had low self-esteem, and was trying to change myself. This book made me less inwardly conflicted and entangled. Now I still want to learn, read more books, and see more of the world.

The book "Intimate Relationships" is really suitable for friends who don't know how to solve the intimate relationships around them. I read it over a long period of time and benefited a lot. It can help us analyze and understand the state of mind when each behavior occurs. I have always felt that being able to understand the motivations of our partners and ourselves can help us clearly understand that the other party may have psychological trauma, but there are no quarrels in intimate relationships. I can only say that after reading it, I will feel much calmer. I hope this book can help friends who want to understand the full picture of intimate relationships.

It is a book that allows people to look directly at their own desires. I feel that this book can make those who have been looking for love take a closer look at their own hearts. Finally, I hope that everyone who wants to have a true love, or who is preparing to love someone well, will get what they want and everything they want will come true!

After reading this book, I have a deeper understanding of the development of relationships between people, or the development of more intimate relationships between people, and I have opened a channel to understand myself. The soul is our essence.

This book really helped me a lot spiritually, allowing me to be aware of things in life. Many things come from my childhood experiences, attitudes towards things, and ways to deal with things, including knowing the four stages of intimate relationships (not sure about this). Knowing that I have to face my true self, and letting my soul guide me to find the most correct way to deal with things, it really helped me a lot.

If you are looking for a peaceful and intimate relationship, be sure to read this book. Many of the case sharing and interpretations in the book are mostly in line with the way my partner and I get along. "Your happiness does not come from the outside world", "Be responsible for your own feelings", "Strive to be the right party, and your body and mind will not be calm to a large extent" "Don't expect to gain, but learn to accept", etc. They are all worth learning and understanding.

The book is very good and very beneficial. But I still want to remind my friends who are reading later that this book is only suitable for people who truly love each other, whether it is family, friendship or love, so he named it "Intimate Relationships". Not suitable for people who are not serious about relationships.

It is not only useful for the relationship between husband and wife, but also for the growth and education of children. It can also be used to trace your own psychological adjustment, personality, or reaction to something. It will also sometimes make you feel relieved. Sometimes when you encounter something, it will give you a very peaceful attitude to deal with it or laugh it off. All in all, it is a very helpful book for people. See how long it took you to read it

It is relatively relevant and practical. Through this book, I began to reflect on some of my past deviant behaviors and cognitive errors. This book filled the gaps in my understanding of intimate relationships and allowed me to better understand the nature of intimate relationships and how to treat people and things in the future.

Well, maybe my life experience is not enough. I have only understood half of this book. I am currently confused and half-understood. Even so, I feel that my soul has been sublimated. I have read the physical book "Intimacy - Parent-Child Relationship" before. This should be a chapter on couples. The presentation methods of the two books are very different, but the central consciousness they emphasize is "love". The parent-child chapter is also worth reading and is recommended to everyone.

This is the first time I read a book of this type. To be honest, I may only be able to read and understand 60% of it, but it is still very helpful to me at this stage. Most of the concepts have an impression, and you can look back and answer them when you encounter similar problems in real life.

This book made me think about a lot of things. It is a thought-provoking and growth-provoking book. Recommended for those who are heartbroken...

This book teaches us how to look inward more in intimate relationships, follow the guidance of our own souls, and be better versions of ourselves.