The Marriage-Free Syndrome

One person rejects marriage because they fear it; another rejects marriage because they’re already married? What on earth is going on? The truth is, there’s no such thing as a definitive formula for love. As Marquez wrote in Love in the Time of Cholera, security, harmony, or happiness: add those things together and they may look like love, may even be almost the same as love, but in the end, they aren’t love. Either you’re born knowing how to love, or you never will.