Dear King

There are many historical romance stories that are based on details. This is a kind of literary fiction. Since ancient times, there have been many descriptions in novels and even history books. For example, how many stories about the Three Sovereigns and Five Emperors can be proved by archeology? Nuwa's patching up of the sky and Jingwei's patching up of the sea are even more myths and legends. However, when talking about the origin of mankind, these stories can often be narrated as history, and many of them have religious implications. The problem Xie Yan faced was that the two armies were in a stalemate, and no one could think of a clever way to defeat the enemy. At this time, Xie Yan was at a loss what to do. What he was most worried about was that Fu Jian would strike first and the people would suffer misfortune. Therefore, as the young heroine Hagi Musang who traveled through time and space, she offered her suggestions and advice, which impressed Xie Yan. It was really not easy for a teenage girl to be so smart. I never thought that this girl turned out to be a scholar who had read the Twenty-Four Histories thoroughly. She knew the historical facts very well and knew what the outcome of the historical process would be. She just made up what appeared in the history books to show off in front of Xie Yan. This literary treatment is the so-called "time travel drama" and is very popular among young people.

Stepmother, commonly known as stepmother or stepmother. Generally stepmothers are not good. As the saying goes, the tail of a scorpion is the heart of a stepmother. To say someone is "raised by a stepmother" means that he was raised by his stepmother, which means that he is a child who is not loved by anyone. In the past, four generations of families lived under one roof. If the stepmother was in charge of the family, the family would basically be ruined. Unlike now, there are many second-marriage families. Some parents are second-marriage, and both parents have children. Although they are not four generations living together, the relationship is more complicated than the family relationship of four generations. However, they are stepmothers and stepfathers. The relationship is complicated. The children have less discipline, and the stepmothers have no chance to seduce each other's children. In addition, this kind of family is financially independent, and the pre-marital property is clearly divided, so there are fewer troubles and they live in peace. The second chapter of "Kindness to the King" mainly explains the origin and family background of the little heroine, and the inner world of her stepmother is deeply portrayed: Compared to those centuries-old and wealthy families, the population of the Zang family is still very simple, with a total of five masters. But unfortunately, the stepmother and her two milk babies only accounted for three votes. The biological father, who is not better than the stepfather, can barely count for half of the votes. In this family, she only has 30% of the say, so she is really weak. Although she hasn't even had her hair yet, Hagi-niang already wants to marry her off so that she won't be an eyesore at home. Although the stepmother neither beats nor scolds, and rarely teaches or scolds, Mrs. Zheng always looks at Hagi Niang with a cold look. If Hagi Niang was the daughter of a concubine, Mrs. Zheng might be more welcoming to her. At least, she could show the kindness and generosity of her mistress; but Mrs. Zheng is just a stepmother, and to put it bluntly, she just fills the house. If Hagi Niang's biological mother hadn't died, Mrs. Zheng would have nothing to do with her. Mrs. Zheng was already upset enough by taking over the house that others had lived in, the maids that others had used, and the men that others had used. She also had this living daughter of Yuan's wife hanging around in front of her every day to remind her that she was just a step-brother, so how could she still let others live a good life? This shows how difficult the life of the little heroine will be in the future!

A girl who has just begun to have love has no understanding of the relationship between men and women. It is just a vague feeling. She is both curious and afraid, and mixed with inexplicable expectations. Therefore, when the beautiful Xie Yan and the young heroine Hagi Musang embraced each other and slept together, she had expectations, but this expectation was restrained by fear. She was imagining what the consequences would be if it really happened... As a result, many tragedies that should not happen occurred in life. When I was in elementary school, I heard that a twelve-year-old girl on Beimen Street was pregnant. The man was her classmate of the same age. At that time, it was spread as a strange news in the city, but I don't know how it was dealt with later. In middle school, a female classmate climbed over the roof, got into the house next door, and had sex with a man from her father's generation. She was discovered by the man's wife, which caused a sensation. The female classmate was too shameless to come back to class and was transferred to Tang Town. Because we are an art class, there are many people who are envious, jealous, and hateful, so the reputation of "corruption class" comes out. So, girls' tutoring is particularly important. As the old saying goes, men can live in poverty and women can live in wealth. The purpose of raising a woman to be rich is to cultivate a sense of nobility from an early age, not to be afraid of power, not to love money, not to be worldly, and the core is self-respect. Where does self-respect come from? Everything is low-grade, but reading is high-grade!

Essay on "Kindness to the Lord" (50): The highest ideal of a maid in a married woman's house is to become a wife or concubine, and success or failure depends on seizing the opportunity. Zangjun once had a maid named Youtao. She almost achieved success, but she didn't grasp the opportunity well. As a result, she failed and lost her life. This is like purchasing real estate. If you make a decisive move at the right time, at the right price, and in the right location, you will definitely make a profit without losing money, and your assets will increase significantly. If you choose the wrong time, the wrong price, and the wrong location, you will be lucky to not lose money. When a Youtao left and a Cuihuan came, the fate was completely different. This is because Cuihuan was very precise in picking up opportunities, which requires courage and determination! There are many opportunities for success in life, and everyone has encountered them more or less. Some people seize the opportunities, while others give up. This often depends on a person's character. Some people act decisively, while others act coyly. Decisive people think about success and move forward without hesitation; coquettish people are afraid of wolves and tigers behind, and think about what will happen if they fail. If you do everything, you have the possibility of success; if you don't do it, you will definitely fail!

Monogamy is a symbol of human civilization. Since ancient times, the original relationship between human beings was not monogamous, polygamous, or polyandry, depending on who controlled the social group. In a patriarchal society, polygamy seems natural. However, as far as women are concerned, natural jealousy will inevitably lead to hatred between wives and concubines. No woman is willing to be a concubine and be manipulated by others. This is not just a matter of self-esteem, but a matter of power. The young heroine Hagi-niang loves Xie Yan infinitely deep in her heart, just because even if Xie Yan also loves her, the end result is just taking a concubine. This is difficult for the proud Hagi-niang to be convinced. She must leave Xie Yan as soon as possible, otherwise, she will be unable to control herself over time and will inevitably do things that go against her own integrity. During the ** period, our family moved into a new urban village. At the same time, a family who moved there actually had three wives. The young wife followed them and lived on the ground floor of Gate No. 1. At that time, I was very confused, how could a man have three wives? The new society will never allow this! Later, I heard someone say that this family moved from Shanghai (Puxi), and that the wife she wanted before liberation was criticized and driven to the countryside to escape the limelight. Under the current situation, his family kept a very low profile and rarely interacted with others. The neighbors looked at him strangely. Now, how showy it is! Men all want to have more women, it depends on whether you have the courage and money!

Never mess with a scheming girl. Since ancient times, anyone can be offended, but women must not be offended. As the saying goes, women are more cruel than men. Hagi-niang is very young and understands this truth very well. Therefore, in front of the mistress, the appearance of obedience is not deliberately put on, but a natural expression. Without the intuition of the opponent, it is impossible to achieve such a seamless performance. The mistress Zheng has the dignity of a mature beauty. Anyone who sees her will involuntarily feel a sense of intimacy with her. In real society, such women are the ones to be wary of the most. The more complimentary, caring, and kind the words come out of her mouth, the more often they end up being cheated. In the end, you don't even know how you fell into the trap. But the young heroine Hagi Musume is also a scheming girl. It's just that her scheming has more positive energy, while Zheng's has more negative energy. When these two energies are mixed together, all kinds of conspiracy stories will inevitably emerge. It is hard to say who will win.

Essay of "Kin Jun Jia" (51): Women and men are two different species. Women value immediate personal feelings, so they are particularly sensitive to all things close to them. They even have an innate intuition that can penetrate into a man's heart. However, before becoming a woman, the girlhood was just the opposite. Her feelings were slow. In her world, everything was beautiful, everyone was kind, and she was innocently full of fantasies about the relationship between men and women. The so-called first love is just the beginning of vulgarity. As she grows older and has more experience, the young and innocent girl gradually turns into a sophisticated woman, snobbish and cunning. This is the case for collector Zheng. Her experience can be said to represent the mental journey of all women. The tragedy of a woman is often like this. The femininity full of youthful vitality in her girlhood is gone in her old age! Sometimes I look through old magazine photos and compare their appearance when they were young and how they looked in their old age, which is often embarrassing.

## Marriage has been a bargaining chip for the exchange of interests since ancient times. Between countries, a marriage can resolve the threat of war; an emperor can win people's hearts by marrying a princess; among ordinary people, a marriage can reallocate assets. A free marriage in which you truly love each other does not involve any worldly transactions. However, there are few successful cases of this kind of marriage, and current social customs do not allow complete freedom of love. Falling in love means talking about conditions, and the spiritual element of love has completely disappeared. Is this inevitable for social development? In our generation, there are still people who fall in love and get married purely out of love for the person themselves. External possessions are not the focus of consideration. Maybe it was because we were all poor at that time. There was no obvious difference between the rich and the poor. However, a person's spiritual temperament is related to the environment in which he lives. The gentleness and elegance of his speech and behavior will definitely make you feel a sense of nobility coming towards you, making you feel humble. You will make a choice unintentionally, and he (she) is your future. The young heroine Haginiang subconsciously chose Xie Yan, which was an expression of pure emotion without any worldly considerations. Now, out of a woman's instinct, the mistress deliberately arranged for her nephew, niece and brother to stay with her for a few days in order to gain Hagi Niang's favor with Zheng Yu. She also arranged for Zheng Yan to gossip in front of the young heroine, intentionally or unintentionally revealing that Xie Yan would become the consort, completely breaking Hagi Niang's mind. Zheng's scheming is a kind of jealousy that women can't suppress because they feel superior. They really can't see the good in others. She used this daughter who was not her own as a bargaining chip in marriage to control the entire family.

Essay of "Kin Jun Jie" (52): Women are indeed different from men. Since ancient times, women have only had their husbands and children in their eyes, and have never thought about doing anything for themselves. Her goal in life is to live a comfortable and happy life every day. It's like today's women, who want to marry a good man, have a child, and have a big career, and regard themselves as omnipotent gods. With this in mind, the divorce rate is naturally increasing year by year. People may even stop having children and would rather fight for their careers for the rest of their lives. But no matter how big a woman's heart is, she cannot avoid the historical fact that this is a man's world, and women will always be accessories to the man's world. If we recognize this fact, restrain our arrogance, and focus on family building, I believe this social structure will be more stable. If you look at advanced foreign countries, in societies where women are full-time housewives, the divorce rate is generally very low. The ancients said this long ago, and it has been practiced for thousands of years. The status of a housewife plays an important role in the family and is the guarantee of a happy family. This position, whether ancient or modern, will be fought for. In ancient times, there were concubines and maids vying for the top spot, but today people have mistresses and mistresses vying for the top spot, and this has never stopped.

"Dear Prince" (13): When I was in junior high school, I watched Dream of Red Mansions, but the teacher found out about it and severely criticized it. Fortunately, I didn't go online and escaped. There is a plot in Dream of Red Mansions that left the deepest impression on me, that is the scene where Jia Baoyu and Xi Ren have an affair. When Xiren changed Baoyu's clothes, he found something sticky remaining on his pants, so he asked shyly, where did this stuff come from? I didn't understand it at the time, what does "there" mean? Baoyu took advantage of the situation and had a fight with Xiren. From then on, Xiren became more devoted to Baoyu. At such a young age, how could this Xiren know that sticky things could flow out of "there"? Obviously, the pleasure between men and women is a kind of instinct, which can only be mastered if you don't learn it. The maid relies on her master for her own safety and cannot help herself. Ruan, the biological mother of the young heroine Hagi Niang, found out that her husband had put the maid on the bed without telling her. Naturally, she felt resentful in her heart. Out of self-defense, she had to isolate the maid. But how did Ruan find out? The collector is secretive and does not dare to make it public, which shows that he has taboos. At least he does not dare to break up with his wife. It stands to reason that Mrs. Zheng was pregnant and living in Xiyuan. She could not have gone to the main house to check the situation for no reason. Someone must have deliberately leaked the news to her, with the purpose of turning the couple against each other. And this troublemaker must have been instigated by others, and the manipulator behind it was the one who really benefited. Who is it?

Essays of "Kinjunji" (53): The state has national laws, and every family has its own rules. This is the fine tradition of the Chinese nation. Since ancient times, if a subordinate commits treason and commits rebellion against his superiors, he must be punished according to the family law. The methods used are many and cruel, and may even lead to death. There is no need for a yamen to review the case. Many of these reasons often become excuses for violence and revenge. Nowadays, according to the law, this kind of domestic violence is considered domestic violence, and you can call the police and call 110. However, when traditional family law has evolved into tutoring, will it be effective to just resort to words and reprimand? In recent years, the media has repeatedly exposed cases of school teachers corporally punishing students to the point of jumping off buildings. Obviously, corporal punishment is ineffective and can cost lives. Do teachers have the right to corporally punish students? Who granted the authority? Do business owners dare to corporally punish their employees? Why not? After all, the ultimate goal of national laws and family rules is to change people's bad habits. If you develop good habits, you can naturally educate people with just your words. We often hear people say that in advanced foreign countries, people are very civilized in their words and deeds. This is actually the law that restricts people's behavior, and it becomes a habit as time goes by. Only in a barbaric country, an ignorant family, and an incompetent school would corporal punishment be used as a necessary means of punishment.

Essay on "Kindness to the King" (46): "Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove" is a favorite painting theme of painters in the past dynasties. The most famous one is "Gao Yi Tu" painted by Sun Wei, a painter of the Tang Dynasty. In fact, all the "Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove" painted by painters only illustrate the literal meaning of the "Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove" and fail to depict the true meaning of the "Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove". Only the expression of calligraphy art truly embodies the spirit of "metaphysical talk", and this spirit was also fully expressed in later Yuan people's paintings. The Seven Sages of the Bamboo Forest refer to the seven sages of the Three Kingdoms period of Wei Zhengshi (240-249). Ji Kang, Ruan Ji, Shan Tao, Xiang Xiu, Liu Ling, Wang Rong and Ruan Xian were first known as the Seven Sages. Because he often drank, sang and had fun under the bamboo forest in Shanyang County (today's Huixian County, Henan Province) at that time, he was known as the Seven Sages in the world, and was later collectively known as the place name Bamboo Forest. In this regard, Mr. Wang Xiaoyi, in his article "A Study of the Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove" ("Historical Research", Issue 5, 2001), searched for the relevant translations of the Buddhist classic "Taisho Zang" and concluded that the view that "Bamboo Grove" is the attachment of Buddhist classics by scholars in the Eastern Jin Dynasty is questionable. Mr. Han Geping also believed in the article "An Examination of the Names of the Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove" ("Literary Heritage", Issue 2, 2003) that the naming of the "Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove" and the meaning of the monks' interpretation of the scriptures are completely different things, and the theory of "the meaning" cannot be trusted. Wei Shaosheng pointed out in his article "Research on Some Issues of the Seven Sages in the Bamboo Forest" ("Zhongzhou Academic Journal", Issue 5, 1999) that the "Bamboo Forest" should be in Shanyang County, where Ji Kang, the central figure of the Seven Sages, lived. Mr. Chen Yinke believed in ("Lectures on the History of Wei, Jin, Southern and Northern Dynasties", Chapter 3: Talking about Misleading the Country) that there were "Seven Sages" first and then the "Bamboo Forest". The "Seven Sages" are the number of the "authors" ("Xianwen") of "The Analects of Confucius", and their meaning is equivalent to the "Three Lords" and "Eight Talents" in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. At the end of the Western Jin Dynasty, the trend of "geyi" comparing inner canons and outer books became popular. At the beginning of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, the name "Bamboo Forest" of Tianzhu was taken and added to the "Seven Sages" to become the "Seven Sages of the Bamboo Forest". "Bamboo Forest" is neither a place name nor a real "Bamboo Forest". The works of the Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove basically inherited the spirit of Jian'an literature. However, due to the bloody rule at that time, writers could not express their feelings directly, so they had to use metaphors, symbols, myths and other techniques to express their thoughts and feelings in a subtle and tortuous way. They have always been respected. The Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove only represent a style of "metaphysical talk" at that time, and do not actually refer to the individual differences of the seven people; just like the painting style of the Eight Eccentrics of Yangzhou, which breaks away from orthodoxy and advocates the freedom of creation, which is called "Wild Fox Zen" by the world, it does not only refer to the eight people, they are also just representatives of a fashion. In the development and rise of metaphysics in the Wei and Jin Dynasties, the Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove played a very important role, and their influence was mainly reflected in the promotion of ideological concepts and the demonstration of behavioral methods.

Essay on "Kindness to the King" (47): My two favorite books when I was young were "Zhuangzi" and "Warring States Policy". Reading "Zhuangzi" makes people relaxed and carefree; reading "Warring States Policy" makes people cautious about everything, calculating the pros and cons and priorities of every word and deed. Anyone who plays political tricks should read "Warring States Policy". Some people like to play power games by nature. When playing chess, one move counts three moves, and they always speculate on the opponent's thoughts. Such people live a very tiring life and often have a short life span. When a person wants to succeed in something, he will inevitably fall into a situation of intrigue, but even if the final result is successful, what will happen? Emperors, generals and ministers of all dynasties have never lived beyond the age of a hundred, but among the people, there are many people who are over a hundred years old. Is it important to live longer? Or is the so-called fame important? Let nature take its course and rule by doing nothing, this is the thought of Lao Zhuang and many centenarians.

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (49): Father Xie An reprimanded his son Xie Yan, asking him to see the situation clearly, to value his status, his future, and his sophistication. In one sentence, do what you should do! This is called "duty". When a person does what he likes to do, it is not necessarily what he should do; when a person does what he can do well, it is not necessarily what he should do. A farmer's job is to plant the land well, but he abandons the land and goes to work in the city. He may make a lot of money, but this is not what he is supposed to do; a professor does not take classes seriously and engages in academic research, but goes to a company to develop technology. Although the company receives help and benefits increase, this is also not what he is supposed to do. The so-called "keeping one's position and keeping oneself" means to be content with one's duties and behave accordingly. In the early years, there were three hundred and sixty lines, and there were rules for every line. Those who sell books will never sell shoes, those who sell shoes will never sell cars, and those who sell cars will never sell drugs. Not now, in the 360 ​​industry, you do what others do, and everyone does what they do. Wherever there is more money, just go there. In the past, art schools taught art and science and engineering schools taught science and engineering. The lines were clearly drawn. Nowadays, all universities offer art courses, and all universities teach computer science. How can we clearly see the industry boundaries? People no longer have their responsibilities, and neither does the industry. There is a buzzword called "cross-border". To see whether a person is trustworthy, first check whether he is responsible. A responsible person is very measured in his words and deeds and will not do anything that goes against common sense. Associating with such a person will give you peace of mind.

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (16): New Year's Eve is the most comfortable day after a busy year, and it is also the day that children look forward to the most. I remember when I was a child, my family sat around the table to have New Year's Eve dinner on this night. Due to material control, the dishes were very simple, but there were still chicken, duck and fish. I was always hungry and had no oil or water at all, so I tried to eat as much as possible during the New Year's Eve dinner. The happiest thing is not to eat, but to go out and watch the lanterns and firecrackers and watch the fireworks. The children run wild and chase each other, and the adults and parents don't care at all. Nowadays, living standards have greatly improved. For New Year's Eve dinner, people make reservations at restaurants, and they are no longer busy at home. After dinner, they go home to watch TV, and there is no excitement of fireworks. There are only colorful lanterns on the street, but no one can be seen. It is deserted and has completely lost the atmosphere of the New Year. No one dares to go out alone, and traffickers hide in the dark and peek at opportunities. Haginiang eats New Year's Eve dinner with her parents and brothers, which is a good opportunity to communicate with each other, but each has their own thoughts and avoids embarrassment, so it is better to speak less and eat their own rice without being able to taste anything. This scene brings out Hagi's heart. At such a young age, without her biological mother, no one loves her. It can be seen that this feeling of loneliness is indescribable to ordinary people, and it is not easy to live with a smile on her face.

Essay of "Kin Jun Jia" (55): The collector Zheng has been cornered. Things in the world tend to be like this. Once there is no way out, one will become wise in a hurry, and in order to be quick and undefeated, strike first to gain the upper hand. This is very similar to playing chess. You know that both sides have clever moves, but it depends on who makes the move first, and you can predict how many moves your opponent will make and how they will move. At this time, you must give it a try. What should you do if your opponent changes his strategy and does not follow your ideas? As expected, the collector Zheng made the first move and suddenly tied up Hagi-niang and locked her up in solitary confinement, leaving her with no one around to negotiate with. This really left Hagi-niang helpless. How to accept the call? Only by stopping.

Essay of "Kinjunji" (17): Ruling the world with filial piety became the national policy of the Jin Dynasty, which was unprecedented and unprecedented. In human relations, filial piety comes first, and filial piety is an eternal sentiment in the world. But today, the family structure has changed, customs and habits have changed, and the concept of human ethics has also changed; filial piety has lost the important meaning of connecting blood relatives and has become a very luxurious emotion. For most people, money has replaced filial piety. Problems that can be solved with money should be solved with money as much as possible. As everyone knows, there are some things that money cannot replace. In some families, parents are sick in bed, and the care arrangements for the children at home are often made by the rich and powerful. The person who contributes money is often not around his parents, and he feels at ease when the money comes out, as if his filial piety can be exchanged for money; while the person who contributes carefully serves his parents 24 hours a day, working hard and without complaint. One is using money, the other is caring. Who is more filial? Those who contribute money do not affect their personal lives, while those who contribute effort almost completely give up on themselves. In my opinion, the real filial piety is the latter, because money can buy the services of caregivers, and the comfort given to parents by children's hands-on care cannot be measured by money. Times have progressed, and now there are nursing homes. The simplest and most direct way for children to show their respect is to send their parents into nursing homes. Where can I talk about the word "filial piety"! The young heroine had a flash of inspiration and used the irrefutable reason that "filial piety is the first in the world" to "kill her stepmother Zheng under the horse" in the first round, breaking her chess game.

Essay of "Kin Jun Jie" (56): A few days ago, I taught my granddaughter to learn idioms, including "icing on the cake" and "helping in times of need". The icing on the cake is often understood as adding to the best, which seems to be a complimentary word. However, judging from the original meaning of the idiom, this is not the case. It means "It's already very good, what's the use of being better?" It is an idiom with a derogatory connotation. Giving help in times of need is indeed a compliment. When a person is in crisis and needs help the most, someone comes to help. This is the most meaningful moment. The same is true in our daily lives. We do more things to "provide help in times of need" and less to "icing on the cake". A hundred times of icing on the cake is not as unforgettable as a timely help! Haginia was imprisoned and no one could save her. At this time, even a little bit of information from the outside could be helpful in the response strategy. At this time, Cuihuan took the risk to pass the message through the wall, which really played the role of "helping in times of need", and Haginia was impressed...

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (62): Once a person is arrogant and thinks he is omnipotent, misfortune will soon follow. Therefore, as the saying goes, one should be low-key and not show off. There are many people who have been ruined by their high profile. For example, the woman who brought the Red Cross into disrepute made a high-profile appearance, but ended up being imprisoned. In the early years, Mou Zhongzhong, who exchanged unsalable goods for large airplanes, wildly claimed to dig up the Himalayas and penetrate the airflow, but he was accidentally imprisoned for decades. Not long ago, the richest man in China, ***, persuaded his descendants to set a small goal of 100 million. Unexpectedly, this small goal became out of reach for himself. It was said that he was insolvent and could not even pay off his son's bankruptcy. Being high-profile is harmful to people! Being high-profile means that this person has lost his normal sense. There are many such people in the world of calligraphy and painting. For example, some people say that in a few decades they will surpass Bada Shanren. Some people say that in a few decades, the price of his paintings will exceed that of Picasso, and he will be more valued by others. There are also such madmen around, saying that his paintings have surpassed Dong Yuan and Guo Xi. Listening to the words of these lunatics, sometimes I really feel that they are pitiful! Collector Zheng is also very excited now. Thinking that everything is progressing steadily according to her own design, she can't help but feel ecstatic from the bottom of her heart. There is nothing wrong with the maternal instinct to protect your cubs, but unexpected problems often arise just when you think you are done...

Essays of "Kindness to the Lord" (68): Ledgers There are two types of ledgers in life, one is a running account for living within one's means, and the other is a financial account for investment plans. In the past, ordinary people's lives were difficult and their incomes were low. They had to make arrangements for their expenses. They had to save what was suitable for the province and set aside what needed to be paid. This kind of daily living account has been kept by my wife since I got married, including oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, minute by minute, and trivial expenses. Over the years, I have several big books. This kind of thing is very wronging to my wife. She comes from a good family. She has never done housework since she was a child, and she has never handled money. After following me, he learned everything from scratch. He had no concept of money before, but now he has become very sensitive. He even bargains with people when he goes shopping for groceries. I don't know that such days will end from that year. I will no longer keep a running account and live my life as I want. From the bottom of my heart, I still want to thank the government and our country. Without the prosperity of the motherland, how could you and I have a happy life! I only believe in one truth: whether society is progressing and whether life is happy, you should not make horizontal comparisons between China and Europe and the United States. You only need to think about the past and look at the present. The facts are in front of you and are clear at a glance. Recently I saw a set of statistics released by the central bank, saying that the average asset of Chinese urban residents is 3 million yuan. This was unthinkable in the past. At that time, "households worth ten thousand yuan" was only a hot topic among people after dinner. In ancient times, four generations lived under one roof, and the income and expenditure of a family had to be handled by a full-time steward, usually called a housekeeper. There were also people with high authority in the family, such as the eldest wife, who personally took care of the affairs. Now Hagi has taken over the financial power of the Zheng family. She thought this would be a great thing, but after she actually took over, she discovered that this job is not something that ordinary people can do. If she doesn't do it well, she will suffer from depression and have trouble sleeping at night.

Essay on "Kinjunji" (57): "Taking out paste" is a very common word, used to describe a way of confusing the situation. Now not only adults can scoop out glutinous rice paste, but also four-year-old children can scoop out glutinous rice paste. My baby writes calligraphy every day. He is young and doesn't really like it. He just writes according to the adults' requirements. Sometimes he just wants to escape from the fun, so he starts to make paste. Mom: Oh, what should I do if I haven't written any calligraphy today? cici: I have no choice but not to write it, because it's already time to go to bed and everyone else has already gone to bed! Mom: It's only seven o'clock... cici: No, I can't write because it's too late! Mom: It's not too late... cici: It's late... (She brought a clock over and set it to 9 o'clock) cici: It's late, look. Hahaha⋯ When meeting Hagi Niang with high emotional intelligence, the collector Zheng was also stunned. It was originally a planned public trial meeting, but it was turned into a tea party...

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (58): Since the collector Zheng has "caught an adulterer and seen a couple", she should make a big fuss about the relationship between men and women, or even make malicious slanders out of thin air. Why bother to bring out the messy objects to question their origins? Women are sometimes very stupid, unable to grasp the key point of the problem, and always get entangled in trivial matters. There is a common plot in movies. At critical moments, women always ask "why". I remember that in New Zealand, on my way back from the South Island to the North Island, I passed by a motel where I had stayed. The pot was out of water, so I went to the public area inside to fill up some hot water and charge my mobile phone and iPad. Logically this is not allowed because we are not guests. If the boss discovers that there is a possibility that he will call the police, this is not a big deal in China. Halfway through charging, I looked up and saw my boss coming in. I quickly unplugged the plug and walked out with my phone and iPad. My wife didn't know why and kept asking me "What's wrong?" I didn't answer and walked out of the door. Then I told her the reason. Alas, all the women look like those in the movies! Zheng's trial method of catching small cases and magnifying them can only be settled.

Essay of "Kin Jun Ji" (60): As the saying goes, the drunkard's intention is not to drink. This collector, Zheng, was very scheming, and his purpose was not to ruin Hagi's reputation, but to kick her out of the house. This is a good move. He betrothed Hagi-muso to Jinnu, and everything seemed to be perfect, and both Hagi-muso and Jinu were taken in. When Jinnu was grateful, Hagi-niang suddenly realized that this stepmother was so insidious! Women are no less cruel than men in committing crimes, and are ruthless, but on the surface, they appear to be fluent in both emotion and reason. Coupled with their charming appearance and charming words, many men are fooled to death in this way. What Zheng is facing now is not a man, but a similar scheming fellow. This is not so easy to succeed!

"Kindness to the King" Essay (61): Baby kissing has been around since ancient times. In the past, the parents of both parties had a close relationship, mutual admiration, brotherhood, and even life-and-death friendship. After three rounds of drinking, they privately decided to marry their young offspring for life. It is said that this phenomenon still exists in some remote mountainous ethnic minorities. Today is a civilized society, and baby kissing has long been abolished. The collector Zheng's betrothal of Hagi Niang to Jinu was considered a child marriage, because Jinu was still a child under ten years old, which was rare in wealthy families in the past. Another purpose of poor people marrying babies is to add labor helpers to the family, and they can then perform the ceremony of husband and wife when the babies grow up. But the collector's family is not a run-down family. Although the owner is an eighth-grade official, he can be considered a well-off family. This kind of behavior of a woman eager to marry off a child is not honorable in appearance. Isn't Zangjun taboo?

Essay on "Kindness to the King" (63): "When the fake is true, the true is also false, and when the true is false, the false is also true" comes from a couplet in Cao Xueqin's "Dream of Red Mansions". The meaning of this sentence is: when you look at real things as illusory things, the false things seem even more real than the real things. Vice versa is also true. When something that does not exist is said to exist, the fabricated fact is even more real than the existing fact, and vice versa. The antique market best embodies this game of authenticity. If there is no difficulty in distinguishing authenticity, what fun would there be in collecting? Collection is a process of constantly removing the fake and preserving the real, and it is a process of training a sharp eye, which has given rise to many appraisal masters, especially calligraphy and painting appraisals. Some masters are themselves masters of calligraphy and painting, such as Xie Zhiliu. Although some master appraisers lack the talent for calligraphy and painting, they have innate appraisal abilities, such as Zhang Boju. All objects chosen by Zhang Boju are timeless classics, which is not something ordinary people can do. Appraisal means research, which requires very comprehensive knowledge. For example, in the appraisal of calligraphy and painting, you must have a full understanding of the original author's writing habits, how to start the pen, how to stop the pen, how to turn the pen, and how the brush strokes are smooth and reverse? What is the writing speed? So on and so forth, there should be an intuition that can be recognized at a glance. Therefore, Mr. Xie Zhiliu emphasized the practice of calligraphy and painting as an appraiser, so that he can rise from perceptual knowledge to rational knowledge. But Zhang Boju doesn't seem to be like this. He perceives the breath of the painting, just like an X-ray film. Looking at the inner substance through the surface is more accurate than the theory of practice. The pen appraisal used in calligraphy and painting appraisal is actually the handwriting appraisal in criminal cases. In the legal sense, appraisal relies on instruments and equipment and has a high probability of accuracy. I wonder if it can be used in calligraphy and painting appraisal? Collector Zheng was deceived by her own handwritten medicine list. Someone added a few lines to the medicine list, but it was exactly the same as Zheng's own handwriting. It is perfect. It stands to reason that no matter how it is forged, the original handwriting is easy to identify. However, it is impossible for a person to make a correct judgment in an emotionally unstable situation. Even if he is calm, it is impossible to make a 100% identification of a specific word. Therefore, it is common for many profiteers to take fakes to calligraphers and painters to have them signed and signed. The calligraphers and painters themselves cannot identify them. After all, they are not experts in appraisal and do not have the knowledge to identify them. Therefore, the author himself has no right of identification!

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (64): People who are lucky often have noble people to help them, such as Qi Baishi's noble Chen Shizeng, Huang Binhong's noble Fu Lei, Fu Baoshi's noble Xu Beihong, etc. Help from noble people may often be a very ordinary little thing. Once you catch it, you may be able to change your destiny. If you give up, it will be a different life. Many seemingly accidental opportunities are actually a necessity of fate. The little heroine Haginiang is really confused about the sudden change of events in front of her. Everything seems to be manipulated. This mystery has always troubled her. Obviously there are noble people secretly helping.

Essay on "Kin Jun Jia" (65): Men and women often lie to each other about their past experiences when they are in love. For example, a woman will say to a man, I have never liked anyone else except you. Men will ask, you are so beautiful, has no one except me ever liked you or pursued you? Nine times out of ten, your answer will be: No! Will men believe it? Women won't believe the same question. There are only two kinds of people in this world, men and women. Women are born to be chased by men, so it is impossible for a young and beautiful woman not to want to be chased. In the process of chasing the same woman, the relationship between several men is quite complicated. Some are strangers to each other, while some are fighting openly and secretly, while others are secretly competing. Yinnu belongs to the last category. Such people are often very confident and prove themselves with their strength.

Essay on "Kin Jun Jia" (66): The affection between men and women is the most innocent and innocent when they are young. This willfulness of thinking about each other and being willing to give everything is often revealed in adult-like expressions. I remember going to my second uncle's house when I was a child. There was a little girl of the same age as me who was very pretty, lively and cute. It turned out to be my second uncle's daughter, who was older than me. I should call her cousin. When I first met her, I wondered if I could stay at night and play games with her more. It was the Lantern Festival that day when I was setting off firecrackers. I failed to do so. I rushed over to pick them up to see what happened. The firecracker suddenly exploded in the palm of my hand. My hand was blackened but not injured. Decades later, my grandmother passed away. When she came, she still remembered me and said, "Are you the one who exploded the firecracker?", And I said "yes." Look at her current appearance, the marks of time have fallen on her face, her charm has been lost, and she has no memory of the feeling she had as a child decades ago. When Ji Nu suddenly expressed his intention to marry Hagi, Hagi was really shocked. How old is this little boy? He's three years younger than me! Isn't this nonsense? But I think this is indeed a sincere heart that dares to say and do things at that age. Maybe when you grow up, you will forget what you said back then, and time will erase the promises you once made!

Essay of "Kindness to the King" (67): Be alert Emperors have been like this since ancient times. How can they allow others to snore next to their couches? Therefore, the emperor always felt uneasy when sleeping and developed the habit of being alert at all times. During the Three Kingdoms period, Dong Zhuo was sleeping soundly. He suddenly woke up for some reason. When he looked back, Cao Cao was standing in front of him. He was shocked and shouted, "What are you doing, Meng De?" Cao Cao was so frightened that he knelt down and said, "I have a precious sword, and I came here to offer it to my favored minister." What a danger! Without the habit of vigilance, the old thief Dong Zhuo would have been killed long ago! Therefore, the habit of vigilance is so important to the emperor. The same is true for Sima Yao now. He is always wary of anyone's plot, even his own brother Sima Daozi. In daily life, some people sleep so deeply that they will not wake up even if the earth shakes. I remember that there was a magnitude 5 earthquake in Shanghai many years ago. That night, I was woken up by the banging of doors and windows, which sounded like wind and rain. I pushed my wife next to me and asked, is it raining heavily? No response. Suddenly I realized that it seemed like an earthquake, so I pulled my wife up and shouted, "It's an earthquake!" My wife was confused, and I pulled her towards the door in confusion. Feeling like something was missing, I suddenly turned around and picked up my daughter, rushed out the door and ran to an open area outside, where I saw many people escaping. Although I can fall asleep when I turn around, I am also very alert and can wake up at the slightest noise. This habit should have been developed while jumping in line in rural areas. At that time, during the busy farming season, it was common to thresh grain in the middle of the night in the fields. It was common to take a break from the busy work and take a nap. They had to go to the paddy fields to pick rice seedlings early in the morning, so there was no time to rest during the day.