Marrying a Woman in Coma

She was born in the Hou family, but the Hou family had no children. In order to maintain the status of the Nangong family, she was raised as a man since she was a child. She longed to put on women's clothes and regain her identity as a woman, until she met "her". Their fates were intertwined because of an imperial edict. She became the husband, and he became the wife. The arrival of the war disrupted all peace. She was forced to go to the battlefield, and he chose to accompany him. A series of things happened, which made his true identity surface. How should she choose at this time?