She said that if you hate someone, then you must make him like you so that you can stay by his side and correct him.
He said that if you love someone, then you must keep her by your side so that you can make her fall in love with you.
In the world of love, it's not whoever falls in love with whomever first that loses, but whoever has a higher EQ will be the winner.
However, two people can be together, so what's the point of losing a little and winning a little?