It doesn't matter, you have to be able to take it up and put it down in whatever you do. Zhong Yao found Dadalia before he found his family;
But Dardalia doesn't seem to love him, and that's okay. If you can't get Dardalia, go bravely to the end of the world!
Intention: kind, brave, emotionally stable, able to take things up and let them go