One Meter of Carereal Marriage

When I was young, I felt that security was the message that my boyfriend would reply to instantly, every promise from my lover, the hands held tightly when crossing the road, and his gentle and affectionate eyes. Later, his eyes changed and became indifferent, heartless and loveless! It turns out that love can change. The once affectionate eyes turned into indifference and disdain. Only then did I realize that most of my sense of security was given by myself! A woman's sense of security does not come from love and marriage! But it comes from making money full of energy! Appreciate it carefully at the right time, you can see the fireworks in the world, leisurely look at the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court, look at the sky, the clouds are rolling and relaxing. Indeed, if a woman places her sense of security on others, she will inevitably be disappointed. Only by creating it yourself can you control your life, enjoy freedom and beauty, and rest assured that you can go on well in the days to come. Take root downwards, "A woman must have the ability to live a good life on her own, and have something that others cannot take away. This is very important." The so-called sense of security is not that you have someone who will love you forever! It doesn't matter how he treats you, whether he treats you well or not. You can live your life well! No matter what he does to you, you have the ability to make yourself happy, have your own interests, and have your own dreams, pursuits and fun; whether you leave him or not, you have the ability to make money and a woman's sense of security, which comes from working, earning and saving money. Through work, women have their own savings. When they quarrel and get angry, they have the confidence to leave. They don't have to feel wronged because they have no money, and continue to stay and suffer, and live a life of dependence on others and no self-esteem. The so-called sense of security does not mean that you have an extremely stable life at the moment, but that no matter what kind of relationship changes or marriage changes you encounter in the future, you can control and choose how your life will look like. No matter who leaves you, you can rely on yourself, live happily and without worries about food and clothing, travel during holidays, see the mountains, rivers, flowers and birds, and be happy and carefree. When you have a downward-rooted economic foundation and financial ability with your palms facing down, you will always have the confidence to face all the storms in life. Some women give up their jobs in order to take care of their children and family, and rely on their husbands for all living expenses. She takes care of her baby every day, prepares three meals a day for her husband, and keeps the house spotlessly clean. However, there are ambiguous messages between her husband and his new lover on his cell phone! Disrupting her peaceful life, after a quarrel with her husband, she went to talk to her best friend and wanted to know why she divorced in the first place. He also admitted that he wanted a divorce because a third party had intervened in their lives. However, her best friend's words gave her a blow: "Are you qualified to get a divorce? Not everyone can afford a divorce these days." Years of living as a stay-at-home mother has caused her to lose the financial ability to take root downwards. She has no work experience, lacks the ability to work, and has no financial foundation to make capital! Without money and resources to support her, even if she gets divorced, she won't be able to get custody of her children... For women, marriage is not a refuge. There are many real problems that need to be solved. If a woman just wants to sit back and enjoy her success, and is not familiar with the world, the quiet days will be broken. If you are unable to move forward with a heavy load, and cannot bear the burdens of life, every meal, every porridge, every needle and thread, you will eventually lose the beauty and the so-called sense of security. As long as women have the courage to take root downwards and work hard to lay a good financial foundation, a sense of security in their hearts will naturally arise, and they will be able to move forward firmly towards a better future without fear. Growing upward, I like a saying very much: The only sense of security in life comes from fully experiencing the insecurities of life. When you truly realize that the so-called love is an illusory promise and the relationship is full of variables, you suddenly realize that only you can give yourself a sense of security! A woman's sense of security is given by herself! In a woman's life, many evaluations are limited to marriage, the role of mother, and whether she is doing well, as if she is worthless as a woman. However, those girls who work hard, grow upward, believe that they have an undefined life, and actively pursue their dreams have a sense of security in their hearts that cannot be shaken by others. The most important thing is for a woman to be herself and make herself better and happier. Whether she is married or not, she cannot lose herself. She must have herself, focus on what she likes, and have fun! Women must have dreams. What if one day they come true? Every woman should not be limited to a certain attitude. Women, like men, are qualified and capable to realize their self-worth, grow upward, achieve their dreams, and create a new world of their own through their own efforts. And this hard work has created a sense of security that women can give themselves. You know, the value of a woman's existence is not beauty. It is not a vase for people to enjoy. Nor is she a man's accessory to be ordered around by men, nor is she a free nanny who only serves as a family for children. You know, please yourself and achieve yourself! It is the most inflated posture for a woman to feel safe! Those who go through the process of constantly improving, making their spiritual world more fulfilling and enriching, making themselves infinite, getting closer to their dreams and fulfilling their lives, are endlessly joyful. Grow toward the sun, I once saw a post like this in the community: "I am a nearly 36-year-old, older single woman. There are many people around me who care about my life, but most of them are urging me to find a partner quickly, get married, and have children, otherwise it will be difficult for me to do everything as I get older. I am quite satisfied with my current life. The money I earn is enough to support myself, and I can also help my parents and family when they need it; I exercise in daily life, keep fit, read and write, cook and maintain my health. I have three or two friends who I meet from time to time, travel and leisure. A person's life has its own fireworks in the world. It is not pessimistic or negative. It is just that I have not started a family or given birth to a child. Others say that my life is unstable and insecure. I really can't figure it out. " I completely understand this friend's confusion. Many times, even if you work hard, be positive, and have your own rhythm of life, because you haven't started a family yet, in the eyes of outsiders, you seem to be a poor person. But in fact, if you really live a good enough life and work hard to live your life the way you expect, you don't have to be afraid. You must know that the biggest threat to a woman's sense of security is fear. The fear of unknown uncertainties often makes people feel overwhelmed by life. And if you can face the present calmly and even think about what you will endure in the future, you don't have to feel missing or insecure. As a saying goes: When you use the time you spend chasing a horse to plant a meadow, perhaps when spring comes and the flowers bloom next year, there will be a group of horses for you to choose from. Run toward the sun, live well, and savor life. Your sense of security should not be defined by others. When it comes to marriage, the life of women in this besieged city is actually not easy. Some have to face the increasingly cold relationship, some have to face the cheating of their lover, some are involved in conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and money disputes. In short, many women who have entered into marriage are troubled by trivial matters all day long. Therefore, married women may not necessarily live such a glamorous and happy life! As for a single woman, she doesn't have to look at her husband's face all day long, and she doesn't have to be angry with her husband's family. There are many single women who are free and comfortable, feel comfortable, and are in a good mood and live a fulfilling life. So is it okay to live alone? You can't judge by whether you are married, divorced, single, or starting a family! Live up to your life, grow upward, look for the light contained in the dark night, look up at the stars, and live up to your dreams; run towards the sun, muster up the courage to run into the distance, chase the light, and live up to yourself. Only by not giving up, taking root in independence, not losing the motivation to grow upwards, not losing the hope of running towards the sun, living up to life, living up to dreams, and living up to ourselves, can we have the security that goes with us and rush towards a better future. May you move forward bravely and earn the security you want! A woman's sense of security comes from working, earning money and saving money! A woman's sense of security comes from pursuing herself, her ideals and dreams, realizing her self-worth, and pleasing herself! Children and grandchildren will have their own, and children and grandchildren will be blessed! Why should we all work as cattle and horses for our children and grandchildren? Women cannot always live in the expectations of others. Your role in life, apart from being a daughter, apart from being a mother, apart from being a wife, you are still yourself! If you always wrong yourself and live for others, where is your life? Concept: Women's sense of security does not come from love and marriage