Pleasing disorder is a pathological condition. Most people who are accustomed to people-pleasing have deep-seated fears and anxieties about rejection and hostility, and think only of others and not themselves. Such good people who overly please others often pay a heavy price. In order to remain a good person, you cannot show anger or displeasure, no matter how legitimate such an expression of emotion may be. Moreover, you will avoid criticizing others to avoid being criticized by others. In psychology, this is called "conflict avoidance." People with pleasers will regard confrontation and anger as dangerous emotional experiences. In people-pleasing disorder, three psychological elements come together tightly to form a triangle. Behavior, thinking and emotion are three sides, and they are the cause and effect of each other. People-pleasing is largely driven by emotional fears: fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of conflict or confrontation, fear of criticism, fear of loneliness, fear of anger. You firmly believe that you can avoid these negative emotions by being a good person and always thinking of others. People with pleaser disorder are usually hit by intimate relationships during childhood and growth, such as parental neglect (preferring sons over daughters), excessive criticism, neglect and betrayal by partners, etc. They are in a state of long-term psychological depression, lose self-confidence, and lack a sense of self-identity. It is difficult to find people with pleaser disorder, especially those who develop from a pleaser personality to smiling depression like Duan Nian. Therefore, I hope that all good friends can understand and correct the mentality of people-pleasing, focus on understanding and breaking the habit of people-pleasing, learn to express anger, and practice the ability to say "no".
Concept: Most of the plots are taken from the author's life itself, focusing on psychological issues! ! !