A love, a marriage, falling in love is important, but in fact the prerequisite for falling in love is to love yourself. Love can only be deep and profound. Without a sense of belonging and identity, love will be too painful. I used to think that being dependent was everything, but as time went by, I gradually realized that I had lost myself. I once heard that people must be hurt before they can be silent and focused. Whether it is a mental or physical trauma, it is good for growth. After the pain of love, what is left in the palm of my hand is just a little bit of residual warmth, and I still find a heart that belongs to me again.