This article writes about the childhood growth of a second-born girl in a foster care family, as well as her psychological growth after a sudden change of environment and return to the family, her emotional integration with the three sisters, her conflict and emotional break with the foster family, her rebellion against her mother's desire for control and discipline, and the pain and estrangement of her long-term emotional running-in with her mother.
Sick, everyone was sick, she was sick, insecure, feeling that the world could and would eventually abandon her. The mother is also ill and has always wanted to control the girl's emotional psychology and eliminate the shadow of the adoptive mother in the girl's psychology. Members of the foster family were also sick, and they were not understood for their efforts in nurturing them. After years of nurturing them, contact was suddenly completely cut off. They were all sick, but no one said it. After that heart-rending battle in which all three parties suffered losses, everyone accepted the facts and maintained the superficial harmony and hypocrisy.
The vision of writing the book is to hope that family members who have had the same experience can understand the psychological changes needs of such children.
Purpose: It is not easy to understand the psychological journey of these children's growth