For most women, roles and identities change after becoming mothers. The term mother represents not only an identity, but also a mission. The sense of purpose born from the moment a child is born lasts until the end of life and beyond. . . . . .
From the moment they have children, the biggest weakness of mothers becomes their children, the children who are ten months pregnant and try their best to bring them into this complicated world. From then on, the whole meaning of life became him. I prayed that he would be safe, happy and worry-free for the rest of his life. I hoped that I could devote everything I had to making him happy, even if it meant overdrafting my own happiness.
Tong Wenfang is the most ordinary member of the mother group, but she is so different. During the more than seven thousand days and nights of becoming a mother, she gradually put her children above her own daily chores, communication with relatives and friends, and the relationship between husband and wife. As the children grew apart, she gradually found that the circle of communication in her life was getting narrower and narrower. The people she was supposed to be closest to were living under the same roof like strangers. She had deviated far from the track she had planned.
In the hearts of the children, whom she regards as the focus of their lives, their mother is overbearing and autocratic, and her frequent hysterics frighten and even bore them. At nearly fifty years old, she is neither understood by her children nor respected by her husband. Her psychological defense line has been broken through time and time again, but she is still holding on because of her children. . . . . .
Concept: Reflection on marriage and family in the 1990s