Optimize, optimize, is an engineering vocabulary.
There is a pattern of problems called optimization problems. The solution idea is: modeling, building parameter space, setting constraints, and finding the optimal solution. It sounds simple, but whoever does it knows that it is actually very difficult.
For example, gradient descent, which is very commonly used in machine learning, can find the local optimum if you accidentally find it.
But some people can still optimize when faced with things like life that cannot be digitized. For example, the world's worst engineer: Zheng Pinghai.
In his opinion, if you are strong enough to set limits based on a clear understanding of reality; and wise enough to make calm choices when your emotions are at their most intense, then it is very possible to turn the situation around and develop a second love affair with your partner who has the most tacit understanding.
Concept: Life can be optimized. This requires a strong enough will to recognize the reality and set constraints; a calm enough mind to make decisions and achieve the best.