Love is not as simple as giving and taking. It is more important to figure out "What do I have left after giving, and what do you rely on to ask for it from me?" Love should not be materialistic, but it cannot be separated from bread and water. The more control you have, the more opportunities you will have to choose from. I don't like your charity, nor do I love your silent abandonment for me. All I want is to treat each other as equals.
Purpose: The most helpless thing in life is not being able to choose. Only those who are strong enough can get more opportunities to choose.