The eight sufferings of life are: the suffering of birth, the suffering of old age, the suffering of illness, the suffering of death, the suffering of separation from love, the suffering of meeting with resentment and hatred, the suffering of not being able to seek what you want, and the suffering of the five yin beings burning. May's pain is about not being able to ask for it, Meng Ge's love is about separation.
Intention: Asking for something but not getting it