"I heard some elders say that most women in the world prefer to do the opposite..."
"In other words, sometimes she spoke or even moved her hands, but she did so because she was someone close to her."
"... Is it possible that this is what you call verbal action?"
Ouch, you really shot yourself in the foot.
The Buddha really had great wisdom. He taught his disciples not to be mean-spirited when it was time to sew their mouths.