Emotionally, Ji Tingyun was never a proactive person until she met Kang Yiwei.
Others say that happiness must be achieved by oneself.
So, she, who had never taken the initiative, fought for her own happiness.
It was she who confessed her love to Kang Yiwei first.
It was she who first proposed marriage to Kang Yiwei.
However, in the end, she discovered that there was nothing separate from a woman chasing a man, and that some happiness could not be obtained no matter how hard she tried.
Because, some things are yours, they are yours, and you cannot run away; some things are not yours, and no matter how hard you force them, it will not help. This is probably the meaning of the sentence, I am lucky if I get it, but I am destined if I don't get it.