People cannot guess their inner thoughts. Once they guess wrong, they may miss out on many years.
Xu Huan said that the years he missed in this life are the most regretful ones in his life.
Lu Yan said that the years he missed in this life were a warning to himself to seize happiness and not to be weak.
What is wrong is not that we are of the same gender, but that we are unwilling to accept our own cowardice.