The man is affectionate, the concubine is interested, they hit it off immediately, there is no suspense.
But he insists on beating a mandarin duck with a stick and snatching love with a knife. Why not force it because fate is destined? That's a coward's excuse, it all depends on man, isn't it?
He wants to be a man who stands upright, not in the sense of standing on the ground and being stood up to by others every day.