If you only treat one person nonsense, treat only one person all kinds of abuse, and only treat one person all kinds of discomfort, you must think that that person must be the person in your heart. That person can tolerate everything you do, but he can't tolerate you violating yourself. You must be that person's fate.
Fate has been bumping up and down repeatedly, poking at the heart repeatedly. Should you turn around and avoid it or face it head-on?