No one is in the most perfect state from birth. Everyone starts from the height that their parents push them to, and then they figure out themselves as they grow up, and then use a very high standard to shape themselves, and gradually polish off the redundant parts in society. This process is long and difficult. During this process, we will more or less meet someone who can give us guidance and help you. He will help you, maybe because he can't bear to see you suffer, or maybe because you are people with similar experiences.